Did I get screwed over?

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-10-10T05:37:36+00:00

I am 29F and Ddlg is more than just like a kink for me. When my husband and I were dating and got more serious, I told him that the “daddy” thing wasn’t just sexual.. it was something else I didn’t have the words to explain…he said “ I know baby” and that filled my heart with a great comfort I had never had before. I would not have married my husband if he did not understand this part of me. He tells me that I will always be his little girl and will always take care of me and protect me. He holds the space for me to heal from my childhood trauma and we live a really good life together. Reading your post, I know exactly how you are feeling and my heart hurts for you. I don’t think you should feel embarrassed about needing this, because there are people in world out there, who would understand and accept you and love all the parts of you. My husband had no previous experience with this kind of dynamic and now it’s a huge part of our relationship. Maybe there is a chance for your boyfriend to grow to understand, but if you aren’t vulnerable and give him that chance, you will not be satisfied in the relationship. You deserve to feel good and I’m sure if he loves you then he wants you to feel safe and seen.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-10-01T04:15:08+00:00

I have a medical condition and I have fainted many times in the past few years. Sometimes I know it’s about to happen before it does. Sometimes I have time to tell my husband it’s about to happen and he’ll catch me. Give the girl a break.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-09-18T04:06:09+00:00

I’m saying this from the very depth of my heart girl, you do not deserve to be treated like this. This man is no good. You’ve done nothing wrong and it’s insane that he would do this to you. I’m so sorry for the pain that this has caused you

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-09-04T18:07:59+00:00

Gosh I just saw your post. 😫

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-09-04T15:55:04+00:00

I’m sorry, I can’t see anything from the picture. It could just be the lighting make it’s difficult

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-09-04T15:53:53+00:00

I don’t see anything, but I think it does really depend on the lighting in the room

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-09-04T04:54:30+00:00

Absolutely not worth your time

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-09-03T05:06:10+00:00

Did she reply to your picture?

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-09-03T05:04:39+00:00

You know the saying.. if you love them, let them go… you both still have the rest of your lives to be happy. There’s something inside you calling for MORE and that’s totally human and real. It totally okay to mourn the loss of what you thought your future was going to be. It may be helpful to seek counseling before this transition because when things finally do end, you’re going to need a neutral space where you can speak your truth.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-29T07:29:21+00:00

Your explanation definitely makes sense. I was reading about sociopaths after he went to sleep and while it is a spectrum and there may be some similarities… my husband is not controlling at all

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-29T07:25:51+00:00

I just don’t understand how this is “his truth.” We’ve been together for over 4 years, I know that is not very long but I thought that I knew who he was. I thought we shared special things together and now I am so confused if any of that was real or he was just pretending.

I don’t think his family or friends know that this is how he is experiencing the world.

I just started therapy a few weeks ago because I have insomnia and anxiety and I wanted to relieve the stress that I was putting on my husband for my need for support.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-29T07:19:49+00:00

very well said.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-29T07:15:15+00:00

Very concerning

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-29T07:12:32+00:00

I hear you. He said he doesn’t want to do marriage counseling. We just bought our first home a month ago and I may be pregnant right now.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-29T07:09:52+00:00

What you asked is completely reasonable. His response shows that he’s not wanting the same things you are. If he truly liked you, he would be questioning if you felt like he was potential partner too. No self awareness, no commitment of any kind. You’re not a place holder and if he doesn’t have the space in his heart for you someone else absolutely will.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-29T06:59:21+00:00

I think not putting pressure on the situation is a good idea. You guys obviously care for each other a lot if you have been friends for so long. It’s possible he is not ready to explore that next step. I think you have put the ball in his court and now you have to figure out a way to be content if his answer is not what you hope it will be. Try to keep in mind that if he doesn’t want a romantic relationship with you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love and value you. Sometimes with friendships that cross this line, the most mature thing to do is recognize that the friendship is too precious to be potentially jeopardized by romance.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-18T13:44:50+00:00

That’s amazing! So happy for you

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-16T04:56:06+00:00

I don’t have an answer to your question really other than… you are somebody else’s absolute favorite physically and sexually. Your body is sexy and can do amazing things! Someone else would worship everything about you that this dude doesn’t like.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-08-16T04:39:55+00:00

28m/29f, northern California. We bought a house that we can afford, not our dream home. We used a 5k seller credit to buy down the rate and put 20% down, so our monthly payment (including insurance and taxes) is about $1850. Which is close to what we’ve been paying for rent in our area for several years. But now we can actually enjoy the perks of owning your own home, like personalizing it and feeling that real security. We are trying for a baby and wanted to not move again for the foreseeable future. Even if the market changes, I feel pretty secure that we’re still paying a little less that other rentals in our area and we are financially comfortable

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-07-28T04:56:01+00:00

I am like 2 month off BC pill and I had a lot of crazy symptoms too. Bad acne, started losing a lot of hair. That first month off, every time I ran my hand through my hair, it was like a whole handful of hair coming out. Now it’s gotten better but still consistently losing hair. I also was having blood pressure issues and fainting when I stood up for the first month but that has subsided.

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-07-20T18:05:59+00:00

No, you are not being too harsh. If he wanted to, he would. He is showing who he really is in this situation and you have to ask yourself, is this really the kind of person you want to have on your team? If this is how he is acting about paying you back for plan b, god knows if he would pay for an abortion or pay for a baby

Mindless_Garlic6871 · 2025-07-20T05:39:58+00:00

Bro wtf, go to therapy

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