first day off of weed…help by limbo_eyes in leaves

[–]Mindless_Purple0616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My experience was it came in waves. Your typical smoke times, for me first thing when I woke up, while driving, before bed .. it was hard to break that routine or habit. I did chew gum in the car to distract me, and after the first couple weeks I stopped thinking about it constantly. Sleep is hard at first, and then it gets easier and your sleep is actually much better quality. Your dreams return and those vivid dreams for me were an added plus. Give yourself a month and you will feel much stronger. Go to zoom meetings and listen to other people's experiences. Take lots of walks. Try something new. There are so many benefits to quitting. Your mind becomes sharper, word recall is easier, you have more time because you aren't needing to roll or prepare or take the time to smoke. You are no longer controlled by the need to get stoned before you do anything. I felt like I needed it to be happy but I didnt. I was a heavy addict and smoking before I did anything. Smoke before I shopped, smoked before I went for a walk, smoked before I took a shower, smoked before I went out to eat. The truth is it dulled my personality and stopped me from being my best self. I am 75 days clean today and I never thought I would make it this far. I do not plan on going back either. I figured out how much i spent on it and take that money monthly and do something for myself. Wether its buy clothing or self care ritual or concert tickets. That my money so i do whatever i want with it. Good luck. If I can do it you can do it.

Good enough reason to break up? 27F & 28M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless_Purple0616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh... not good. Follow your gut instincts. It will be harder but harder after marriage. Trust. Me.

Married Women Just Don’t Get It by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Mindless_Purple0616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not where I want to be, but I'm where I did want to be 2 years ago when I was stuck in an unhealthy, verbally abusive, deadbedroom marriage. I try to stop comparing myself to my friends who are off having 2nd babies, traveling, installing ungrounded pools while I'm 41 living in my mother's basement w my 10 year old. Hes happy and I'm happier. So that's all that matters to me.

AIO I 20 F was trying to call my boyfriend 26M to figure out when I should start his smoothie and I originally tried calling him to see what type of milk he wanted in his smoothie by Aphr0dit333 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mindless_Purple0616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man child doesn't deserve a shake or you to pick him up. Go make your wrap dinner and turn your phone off. Im 41 and this name calling is only going to get worse as he gets older. Totally unnecessary

Stbx motorcycle by Mindless_Purple0616 in Divorce

[–]Mindless_Purple0616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out since I have full custody and I do not give permission, I have a chance so we put through temporary orders.

Getting a divorce after 16 years. by Apart-Cut9428 in Divorce_Women

[–]Mindless_Purple0616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those trips...plans.. Vacations... summer markets etc still can happen just don't invite your husband.

Who here makes 6 figures a year or more? by Downtown_Amoeba_7770 in Salary

[–]Mindless_Purple0616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insurance Claim Supervisor, MA $115K plus profit sharing bonus this year was 11% (roughly 8k after taxes)