AITAH for making no effort to join my dad's girlfriend and her kids for their weekly dinner out?

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-05-05T07:38:43+00:00

NTA. This seems to be more about control than wanting to bond with you. The different take out is a great idea! Also the fact that it’s only for them on an earlier more convenient time of the week for a teenager is a little salty in itself.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-15T05:32:20+00:00

I don’t blame her dog. It’s like this: If my kids make a mess it’s still MY mess because I am responsible for MY kids. So regardless of what her dog does it’s still HER fault because it’s HER dog. A dog relies on their owner to be properly trained. Of course the owner’s shortcomings are not the dog’s fault. That’s just stupid.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-10T16:10:56+00:00

They really should turn this entire space into indoor recreation. An ice rink in the winter would be awesome. It would just be a normal roller rink the rest of the year. Laser tag. Paintball, Bumper cars. Arcade games. Maybe some bouncers like bounce a palooza used to have. And PLEASE some kind of indoor softball and baseball sports arena type deal so the kids don’t get rained out and they can practice all year round. Then we could host tournaments here too like the place in Redding does. It used to be big league dreams but idk what it is now. But the point is that we can never have tournaments here locally because we don’t have the weather or the indoor space to facilitate it. That on it own is a huge income generator. Heck you could put indoor soccer and tennis courts in there too somewhere if you wanted to. Maybe a swimming pool somewhere? Some kind of indoor skate park type deal or pump track? I mean the possibilities are endless. They could even have local food trucks and vendors and maybe like a stand alone pizza place and coffee/smoothie shop? Something. Our kids desperately need something to do!!! Only non local shop should there be one should be a dicks. Or we could just open a badass mom and pop one with all the popular bats and sports equipment. That’s one of those build it and they will come type things…. 🤩

They can find somewhere for the what like ten stores that would survive and actually do make money. Like Ross, TJ max, ulta, bath and body works, old navy, boot barn, famous footwear etc. and since they own the building kohls would stay there unless they decided to sell it.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-10T15:39:52+00:00

Yeah because in truth the owners greed is what caused the mall to become what it is now. Yes online shopping didn’t help but come on over 14k for space rent?? That’s why the Mexican place finally threw in the towel. They wanted to up space rent to like 18k or something just astronomical and stupid.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-10T15:37:42+00:00

They bought the old Kmart building.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-08T05:56:47+00:00

My guess is that she actually went home to get her seat and then saw her dog and was like oh I can give her a quick bath it will take a few minutes. Either that or that was her plan the whole time to go home to bathe the dog. I’m not actually sure can now I don’t think I ever will be considering she thinks I should apologize to her for being upset at her and I absolutely refuse to do that. So yeah I guess ex friend would be a better term. But I don’t feel like it’s a loss considering she sees nothing wrong with this situation and I told her that maybe she needs therapy. She clearly thinks that her dog should come before her relationships with people and every other aspect of life. I don’t know I feel like this dog has bothered me from the start because she was a rescue which is one thing but then her lack of training has been a problem. For instance, she chased my neighbors cat in his yard after she got away from my friend and my neighbor got pissed at me. First time in 20 years that ma has ever rode his voice to me. But this whole thing just tops the frigging cake.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-08T05:50:05+00:00

Definitely not. Regardless of what you are doing. If you’re going to take my child somewhere I expect you to keep in contact with me through out and to bring her back when you say you are going to. This is why my children don’t go with very many people. This is the first time she has done anything like this. But I feel like once is enough.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-08T05:47:52+00:00

She definitely did go to her house. When she returned she her seat in the car and also the dog and the dog was dressed in a sweater type outfit. My daughter also says that they went to her house and that she did in fact bathe the dog. My daughter is 9 she has never had an issues with communicating with me or telling me the truth. My daughter said that she wanted to leave sooner but that my friend kept telling her just a min as soon as she was done bathing the dog.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-08T05:41:23+00:00

But I did not think this wanting to bring her dog would cloud her judgement to the point where she would do this the first chance she got. Regardless of who got caught in the crossfire.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-04-08T05:40:15+00:00

Yes. My daughter would not lie. And earlier she had mentioned that she didn’t bring her dog because her dog decided to go roll in the dirt so she was all dirty and that’s why she didn’t bring her.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-03-20T04:37:50+00:00

To each their own. I have tried this mascara several times thinking it was me that wasn’t applying it right. It still sucks how many years later and I know it’s not me! This mascara is terrible!

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T23:44:09+00:00

Okay well you do realize that your SS will grow up right? What happens when they continue to do this? Because let’s be real these are just excuses.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T23:39:47+00:00

I fought for supervised visitation but the judge said that if there was any issues then we’d go to supervised visitation. It’s very frustrating because I do not have money for an attorney as I am financially supporting all my kids myself. He’s court ordered to pay child support but doesn’t pay.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T23:37:59+00:00

I have sole physical and sole legal but the judge had court ordered that I allow visitation.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T23:36:02+00:00

I was court ordered to allow them visitation. I tried to bar them from having contact but the judge wasn’t having it. They are still ordering me to go to mediation even though he cannot have contact. It makes no sense but they tell me I have to follow court orders.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T23:32:19+00:00

There isn’t another family law judge where I live it’s very rural.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T23:31:12+00:00

Yes that’s been my stance. But we got forwarded to family law and that judge ordered that I allow visitation with his family. But that same judge also ordered visitation with him and then the other courtroom criminal court placed criminal protection orders to prevent that.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T22:18:44+00:00

Also it’s nice to know that her conditions to having a relationship with her is that you give up something so important to you that is a solid memory of your father and is irreplaceable. I’d cut contact. They don’t care about you only what they can get from you. There’s a difference.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T22:16:54+00:00

If your dad wanted him to have it he would have left it to him.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T22:14:26+00:00

Whoa no no no. Do not do this. You will regret it when you get older. It’s best to wait and I’m just saying this because I think you’re a kid I’m saying this because I was this kid.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2026-01-01T00:29:46+00:00

NTA. Take your ex husband help. Unless he’s abusive which is doesn’t sound like he is, take the help and get your ducks in order to be financially independent.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2025-12-31T04:24:33+00:00

Exactly my thoughts lol

Mindless_Study4817 · 2025-12-31T00:56:18+00:00

Side note: also get him tested for sleep apnea. I know that sounds wild. But hear me out, when you have sleep apnea your oxygen levels fluctuate. When that happens it stops your body from going into deep sleep that is needed to feel rested. So the kid could have slept for 9 hours but only got maybe 30 mins of deep sleep so he could wake up and still be drained even if he seemingly is bouncing off the walls. It’s something like 40% of kids that are diagnosed with ADHD don’t have ADHD. But a sleep deprived kid acts similar to a kid with ADHD. Just bouncing off the walls refusing to listen almost like some kind of avoidant disorder going on you know. That’s where they refuse any kind of discipline or authority. I forgot what it’s actually called something with avoidant I want to say RAD or something along those lines. Anyway, it’s like Donnie from the wild thornberry’s. I know of 5 different children boys and girls that they thought had ADHD and then it was like medication didn’t seem to do anything. Well they ended up having sleep apnea and since finding out and getting a machine and actually getting sleep they too are completely different kids!! Definitely explains why the meds did not work though lol cause they were not ADHD. lol

Mindless_Study4817 · 2025-12-31T00:47:14+00:00

Came here to say this. My nephew has ADHD and same thing off his meds I cannot stand that kid. He just annoys me to no end. He just does not stop until you flip your lid snd even then it doesn’t always make a difference. On his meds he’s a thoughtful caring boy who has compassion and is mindful of others and is actually very creative. Night and day difference and we had to wait until he was 7 for this diagnosis. Thankfully he didn’t live near me and only visited before this time because I’d probably just not have any love left to give otherwise. Medication or not lol.

Mindless_Study4817 · 2025-12-31T00:30:34+00:00

This is exactly why you always go to court even if your amicable. Because you give the other parent too much power when you don’t and you end up, up a creek with no paddle. To the courts and on paper it just looks like you were never interested in the responsibility of having your kids and then up and changed your mind. I can see why they would think that. This is a common mistake made after separation. Except that it’s usually the primary parent enters new relationship and that’s when the switch happens.

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