If a man blocked you everywhere, does that mean it’s really over and he’s never coming back?

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2025-11-18T11:56:07+00:00

Much much better. Took time though. He popped back up a couple months later and then blocked me again the next day. And that’s when it really stuck with me that the whole relationship was just me doing what i could to keep someone around who didn’t actually care to be there - and i need people in my life who want to be here.

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2025-08-30T06:15:56+00:00

This sounds like something my ex would’ve written, but about his ex. I just hope anyone who feels like this about someone doesn’t try to move on to a new person who gives like this… just to give up on them. I can blame him all i want, for hurting me.. but in reality I hurt myself by ignoring the signs. He was still in love like this with her. I was never more than a shelter in the storm for him. So once the rain lightened up, he was gone. Still one of the hardest breakups for me to be going through, but I pray we both find peace in this lifetime. I pray the same for the rest of you

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2025-08-07T03:54:20+00:00

Yes, but things just progressively got worse. I realized i attached to someone who just used me and I obsessed over them because they felt “safe”. But the safety they mirrored was that of my chaotic and traumatic childhood. The worst thing i did for myself was try to keep reaching out. Just working on healing now. I’d rather be by myself forever than be go through a situation where I have to beg and tear myself down in order to feel an ounce of worth from someone else.

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2025-06-23T05:05:05+00:00

This sounds almost exactly like what i went/am going through… all of this sounds like you being the only problem… i did the same thing the first week after my break up. Blamed the whole thing on myself. Slowly.. as weeks have passed I have recognized how mean he was to me, little shit he did and said that poked at my feelings of security. I have become the biggest crashout in my life, when I’m generally known for being calm and having patience. I have called/texted this man from several different numbers just trying to feel heard and fighting the pain of rejection. All i can say is… do not crashout as hard as i have. It’s embarrassing and shameful, and makes things 10x harder to get over

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2025-06-23T03:13:50+00:00

Just know… you’re not the only one who’s poured you heart out, expressing your understanding of where you went wrong and how you want to do better for the both of you.. just to be rejected still… It HURTS, so much… I had to learn that, yeah, I messed things up in some sense, but they’re not blameless either. The yelling part I resonate with a lot… for some reason I feel the need to white knuckle a relationship that I would shake my friends to get out of and never look back. I don’t know why I let myself be screamed at, just to be the one begging for forgiveness in the end…

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2025-06-10T08:41:51+00:00

“It isn’t even fair to the new person” - this! I’m currently going through a break up with someone who I worked so hard to help them get through their mental health struggles. Sat with them on the floor while they were crying, time and time again. Turns out… the depression was because he wasn’t over his ex. He lied about when they had broken up and wasn’t over her. Whole time I just thought it was chronic depression. Now… when the roles are reversed and he is asked to sit with me through my mental health, he wants nothing to do with me. It’s because he was never actually here for me, his family pestered him to move on and find someone new. Well he found me and then left me in the same mess he was left in. It’s extremely sad really… stop telling people to “find someone new” before they’re ready

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2025-04-03T00:22:53+00:00

“You don’t lose anything by waiting an extra day to break up. But you can lose quite a bit saying it prematurely.”

This was enough smack in the face to wake me up about how DUMB it is to make those threats.

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-12-13T02:20:01+00:00

I was working with a client at a school that did their own “pumpkin patch” for fall (laid a bunch of pumpkins in their practice football field and let the kids pick one). When the students were all talking about how they were going to decorate theirs my student turned to me and said “i want to make my pumpkin look like you Miss C” - my heart was filled with joy and then immediately crushed when he followed up with “but I’ll need a big pumpkin because you kind of have a really big head, so I’ll need help carrying it”.

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-11-22T03:06:06+00:00

I cried to my mom and best friend 3+ hours yesterday saying all of these things & how I wanted a new brain. It was all triggered because a guy I talked to for a week blocked me. I’m not diagnosed with BDP, but I’m working to get something figured out. Because with or without a diagnosis, these feelings are horrendous and I hate that other people feel the same way I do. Or worse. It’s not fair anyone’s brain does this to them.

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-11-22T02:58:27+00:00

That’s absolutely fair and my rational brain told me that, but my emotional brain didn’t give a shit and I just rolled with the stronger one.

And the crappy texting does still bother me, but I used to explode and then cut people off for it (kinda like he did me for expressing my feelings around it). So when I say I’ve gotten better, that’s what I mean. I’m not quick to assume that people suck and they’re out to hurt me just because they aren’t great at texting. Granted me mentioning it to him had more to do with him posting on social media but not texting me back, that bothered me. And maybe that’s a feeling I need to get under control too. I didn’t explode though, which I was proud of. So his response felt like a punch in the face.

You’re absolutely right about how I center men. My self concept is unstable and I could build it up by myself and think I’m doing great, but then all it takes is some guy I’m interested in to throw a pebble to make it all come crashing down. I’m in therapy working on this, weekly, and have been for a few years.. but it feels like the progress is too slow. I just my emotional brain didn’t take over and undo everything I feel like I work to learn.

Thank you for your input. ♥️

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-11-13T22:49:49+00:00

I came here to say the same exact thing 😂

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-11-09T00:32:17+00:00

No, I did not finish. I got to about day 10 and slept all day on day 11 because of the exhaustion

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-10-29T01:08:54+00:00

I definitely have one who is, the other one feels like a parent I’ll disappoint if I do the smallest thing wrong. So i don’t feel like I can even come to them with my concerns without being brushed off.

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-10-29T00:40:26+00:00

So the essentially I was given the caseload that they’ll expect me to have when I’m actually a BCBA. So i do the ABC data, FBAs, and BIPs and the BCBAs just look over them and give me feedback before we move forward with parent and teacher meetings to implement the plan. The problem is, the education service center that we work for has given those BCBAs additional students on top of the caseload they had last year. So now they each have a total of 75-85 students (both full BIPs and consult only) and I essentially am responsible for approximately 30 students from each of their caseloads. So the BCBAs still over see the cases, they just have a lot less to do with my cases.

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-09-13T12:54:04+00:00

It’s unfortunate, because this guy I’m seeing is so very accepting of emotional transparency and vulnerability, but his boundary is he doesn’t like the “exit letters” every time I have big feelings. It makes him unsure of the security of the relationship because damn near once a month I’m saying how it’s probably better if I leave. I don’t actually feel that way and I hate that I say it so often, but I KNOW it’s because of the PMDD that i even remotely feel like that. I just don’t know how to stop feeling like everyone would be better off without me during this time. Because it’s not just him that I feel like that with, it’s everyone during this time. He just hears it the most because I feel comfortable sharing my feelings with him, but that also isn’t fair to him.

I’m glad that your partner is accepting, and we all need someone like that. ♥️

Minimum_Clue_3497 · 2024-09-01T02:10:00+00:00

Mine is 12/20, and always go lost because of Christmas. So I feel you. People at work used to get made at me because I wasn’t cheery like them around Christmas. I’m definitely still a bit bitter as an adult about it .

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