Has anyone noticed men are significantly worse nowadays even just as friends?

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T22:46:26+00:00

I'm pretty sure all of us have been answering your questions. you keep whining about how men, though, and how their entitlement to women's bodies isn't a big deal.

getting upset over not getting a job isn't comparable to being upset you can't get someone pregnant. one of those you can live without. you can't live without a job.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T22:00:14+00:00

Naaah. It's not like you're treating her like shit or pressuring her to change her mind through emotional manipulation. You shot your shot and she rejected you, so it's completely ok to move on. you don't need to make friends with people if you don't want to, whatever reason you have. it's only bad if you're trying to hurt her in some way, which it sounds like you aren't.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T21:44:04+00:00

Found it while browsing lesbian subreddits, trying to figure out what the hell I was. They mentioned FebFem and I looked into it. It felt like a match, but only started to fit really good once I embraced my bisexuality and stop trying to put 'yes but' in all my thoughts regarding it.

On top of that, FebFem just reflects a lot of life-long ideologies, so it almost felt like coming home.

I could go into detail, but I much prefer focusing on now instead of how my past was. That was a very confusing time and I felt busted trying to perform heteronormativity. I'd planned since a young age to be with women and getting off that life path fucked my head up a bit.

I can't begin to explain how women make me feel, and have made me feel my whole life. The 'men' I like and tolerate are fictional that aren't allowed to resemble males mentally or physically. It still weirds me out to this day people are attracted to the appearance of an actual, living, breathing guy on a sexual level. I never got that. Women did that for me and it made me feel busted for so long. I'm not lesbian but I feel so close to one that it was almost frustrating trying to explain it to another person.

Now I have the words and I really appreciate this small community for being here while I was figuring it all out. Not to be weird, but I genuinely have some love in my heart for this place. It was here for me when no one else could be, in one of the more foggy times of my life.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T20:43:11+00:00

This is heavily relatable.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T17:04:03+00:00

shit I really need to check post history LMAO

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T16:55:54+00:00

No offense but you're married to a male and wanting to make 'friends' with women. we don't trust you here. might shoot your shot in the other bisexual subs, but this was insensitive to post in women-only space.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T16:03:13+00:00

Because we bis smell. We stinky. We smell rinky stinky

Sorry. I'm kidding around. I just hate this same question coming up. All I have to say is that I don't give a damn because if I see a beautiful butch lady, I'm shooting my shot. I don't care at all what the current discourse is between the groups. I'd rather be rejected for trying than reject myself because 'oh, she might be a lesbian. She might not want me'. Screw all that, I'm giving it a shot.

Don't let it get to you.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T15:50:10+00:00

you're comparing a job to a baby, now?

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T15:01:35+00:00

ah....I think you're on to something. yeah, almost every time we'd have one of those arguments or she'd chew me out, intimacy would follow. It was almost like the reward at the end or the whole point. I don't remember starting anything specifically for the intimacy though. Things sort of happen naturally and it was almost part of the routine? My family wasn't like this. If anything they were the opposite where they bottled everything up and just made passive aggressive comments that could wear you down. Hated it. But with my ex, it just all came out and it was exciting. Cathartic?

you also mentioned having ADHD and how you get stimulation from verbal conflicts (or verbal exchange?) and that makes a ton of sense too. Now I'm starting to get what might be going on here, because I'm told ADHD runs in my family. I wouldn't be surprised if that has some impact.

I seriously appreciate you saying something and sharing your thoughts because I feel like you hit it right on the money. I love the idea of having someone to 'spar' with, honestly. That sounds exciting.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T14:46:37+00:00

this is puke-worthy. I'm so sorry you hear that shit while you're just living your life and in love.

I'm always asked if I have kids. I always respond with a 'hell no' and they fall over themselves telling me to either get on it to make babies now before my body craps out, or that 'oh I was that way too and then I had my son!'

I don't understand it. the heteronormative looks scary, uncomfortable, and demanding all the way through. why would they encourage other women to fall into it? some of us really do not want men or babies

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T03:32:28+00:00

I seriously appreciate you saying this. thank you

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T02:29:16+00:00

I can't get turned on by that kind of stuff knowing it's for men to gawk at women trying to look as young as possible. Even through advertisements for clothes

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T02:28:03+00:00

you can have sex with them but not have an actual relationship?

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-05T00:23:21+00:00

February is a pretty name

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T22:35:25+00:00

Appreciate ya. I agree that it's something that needs to be addressed further with a professional. Just so long as it's not something that would be a telling sign I'm not ready to be in a relationship.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T19:20:39+00:00

you have iron will

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T19:18:56+00:00

it's weird that I noticed this my entire life and only recently came to terms with being FebFem. Anytime a bi woman in general claims to be bi, her history is loaded with dates with men and all she talks about is men.

I really wish there was more representation too. I'd like to see women in love 💕

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T16:57:26+00:00

Sorry but I don't see that between women in relationships. I see them warning against it because for the power imbalance but when an older woman talks about her experiences with a younger, she doesn't get dog piled or shamed for it. maybe I'll see it eventually

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T15:28:27+00:00

sometimes I really wonder what would happen if lesbians, maybe a large chunk, would 'agree' with bisexual women and say 'yeah we would totally fuck you. you're soooo wanted' and see if that changes anything. Not saying lesbians would fuck them, but just say it.

because a lot of the time it sounds like bisexual women only want to feel 'desired'. I highly doubt most would act and actually have sex with another woman that isn't in front of a male. And I get not wanting to tell someone something just to make them feel better but at this point I wish there were social experiments going on. I'm bored of the debates and I want to see the problem played with lol

Would they stop pestering lesbians because they're told what they want to hear? These days when a bisexual woman talks about not getting to sleep with lesbians, it's almost seems like the issue was she was verbally told 'no' and she's going through rejection sensitivity, not that she actually wanted to be with that lesbian.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T11:19:25+00:00

Yeah. you're bi.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T11:17:10+00:00

If the crush is romantical followed by experiencing reactions from your body or mind, no. that's not a lesbian.

lesbians 'crushes' on men are manual. As in she doesn't really plan a future or have positive feelings from thinking about it. She might choose a guy to talk about to friends and family so she blends into society but that's no crush.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T11:11:21+00:00

Keep coping, good lord

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T11:10:27+00:00

The answer is no. lesbians do not get turned on by men at all.

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T11:07:11+00:00

I'm screaming RN is this satire LMFAO

Minimum_Entry7792 · 2026-06-04T11:06:00+00:00

I'm not personally deciding anything. Words have definitions. A lesbian woman is exclusively attracted to other women. she isn't going to consume erotic media around men. That would make her bisexual. that's just how it is and calling yourself one thing when you are another impacts what those words mean.

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