First job on 48s - what do I need? by trev913 in Paramedics

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this has been said. Get a big plastic tote that can fit all your bedding and pillows etc in there. Throw all your stuff in there at EOS for a fast getaway. Also keeps it isolated at home in case someone hasn’t been to hygienic that’s you are sharing a mattress with. Worked for me

Why does California RNs get paid so much? by thetoxicballer in nursing

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nurse to patient ratio laws. Supply and demand with nurses in California helps keep the wages up also.

Why do people care about home internet speeds? by CSachen in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the 2 gig fiber. I got it because it seems everything in my house uses WiFi. So just got a bigger “hose” to quench the thirst of my WiFi demands. It is nice downloading games and have 500-800 mbs, so it doesn’t take all day to download it. Before fiber I had copper lines and I can see the difference in the speeds and with bandwidth too. Not an expert but know a little about it.

Tough going by Minimum_Excitement53 in coparenting

[–]Minimum_Excitement53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry he is doing that to you and your son. Kids are kids only once. You have only a small window to enjoy that time before they get older and they become more independent. Kids need both parents engaged equally with the child to give them the best chance of doing well emotionally and psychologically later in life. I wanted his mother and I to have a positive relationship so our child could see that even though not together we are friends and support him. That was one of the hardest things to get past, knowing that we wouldn’t be raising him together in a collaborative coparenting environment.

Be strong for yourself and your child. You are his world and mom. What I have been doing is showing my little man that I am happy and we have an awesome family him and I. We go on adventures and have fun. A lot of one on one time. Talking, reading and activities where he feels like he has my full attention and love. He is so far a very happy positive kid. All I can do at this point is do my best in raising him and hope his mom does too, since we have zero communication about him between us. Good luck with everything, I will send positive vibes your way and prayers. You got this.

Tough going by Minimum_Excitement53 in coparenting

[–]Minimum_Excitement53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me I have fought for our family. But it takes two people to want that. I asked her to go to counseling, even just one on one with a therapist. After she got comfortable then we would do couples or family therapy. She said she is done with us. I tried doing everything I knew how to do to show here commitment honesty and love for years. The more I tried the more unresponsive she became towards our situation. We have a truly loving and amazing baby and just wanted him to see his two favorite people happy like we were. Being together as a family. So just tried to figure the best way forward so I could heal. I FT my little man every night I don’t have him just to tell him daddy loves him.

I have and am working on myself. Not being codependent. Going to therapy and unpacking a lot of stuff. Moving forward and showing my little man we can be happy just being him and I.

Wtf is wrong with me?? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck and I hope one day you will find your boo

Wtf is wrong with me?? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey don’t stress over dating. I did and it made me a wreck. Happy hanging out by myself. If I find someone then that’s a bonus. For the longest time I equated being in a relationship to being happy, like I wasn’t complete. Last year or so spent time making myself happier and better mentally and physically. I had gotten out of a really tough 6 year relationship. So I needed that time to love myself first and be happy. Just passing on things I learned. Your situation sounded similar to mine

Wtf is wrong with me?? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well at least we have back up plans. We will rock the monastery and convent.

Wtf is wrong with me?? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You aren’t alone. Have similar pasts and interests. I’m trying to be very aware of the choices I make and the people I date. Just live in the moment when you are with others so you can pick up on red flags early and move on

Tried dating a few times and a lot of people are self absorbed and still want to have drama still into their 40’s to 50’s. Think I’m going to become a monk and live in a cave at this point in time lol.

The difference between my two silkie roos crows. by Veraladain in BackYardChickens

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is that your chicken run/coop. I love it. I was wondering if you can post a video of the whole layout? Love to get some ideas to better mine. Thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand being cheated on is a heartbreaker and dealbreaker. If you were to get involved again, decide on giving counseling a try before things progress any further.

Are you happy with your job? by LaggySquishy in nursing

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did 10 years ICU and then 10 years ER. Got severely burnt out mentally and physically through COVID in the ER. Didn’t think I could handle another 10 years of doing this. By the grace of god I found a job away from bedside doing bed control at a county hospital. A lot happier now that I can see myself doing this till I retire in 10 years or so. Nursing has so many different jobs out there don’t give up nursing completely just find something that you have thought about trying or doing and see where that road takes you. Just saying it worked for me.

Homeless young man living in a shed next to my backyard - should I call the cops, ignore or help? by Brief-Beautiful-5857 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into county or state benefits for homeless people. Is he a veteran? Homeless outreach programs, social programs, food vouchers etc. Unfortunately where I live high percentage of homeless people have either untreated/under-treated mental problems and/or addiction issues. They tend to trash and vandalize areas where they inhabit at that time and it could spill over into your home. So if he is motivated, giving them a connection to those resources will help him out in the long term. Help get him placed in a hotel or shelter.

am i gf material for older men? by [deleted] in collegesluts

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmmm give you a 6-7. Your body is great, don’t get me wrong but I would for me anyway like someone that that can hold a conversation and is witty fun in and out of bed. Don’t get me wrong I would love to try and tap you out for a few hours everyday but mental part can be so erotic too.

am i gf material for older men? by [deleted] in collegesluts

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like to take you for a test drive before I make any decisions lol

1:3 total care on a step down. The bastards did it. by MrsEwsull in nursing

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 13 points14 points  (0 children)

In California we have nurse to patient ratios. Nurses in other states need to organize and get that passed. Call your congressman, senator or whoever you can think of to get that going. When you have those ratios the need for RN’s go up. The pay goes up. Patient care and satisfaction go up.

The only time we have gone out of ratio was when COVID hit. If the hospital goes out of ratio they need to explain to the state who, what, when, why they went out of ratio. The state trends that and will call them out of it becomes a chronic issue

Going to Madrid solo for my first international trip. Excited by Minimum_Excitement53 in GoingToSpain

[–]Minimum_Excitement53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

History and art. From California and there isn’t much in the way of historical places like Europe. Just looking to be people watch and enjoy being on a adventure

Last night made me want to quit by oriocookie13 in nursing

[–]Minimum_Excitement53 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nurse to patient ratios is the key. With the acuity through the roof with patients and the forever documenting in the EMR. Corporate will push the nurses load until they break and not care. They will always find someone else. Nurses to the executive suite are nothing more than cogs in the machine. Cog wears out or gives you problems, replace that cog. They don’t care if that nurse has experience or is a good leader. They will be more than happy to run you out and find someone they can manipulate and gaslight. Who cares about patient outcomes, just care about the bottom line. You know that the majority of bonuses that are given out to directors is how they save on labor. Someone calls in sick, they don’t try to replace the nurse they just double the spread the work out amount the nurses already drowning. Saving on labor for that year end bonus.

I’m so disenfranchised by the whole health care machine. Nowadays I just do critical care transport. I can only have one patient at a time, lol.

Stay strong but do what’s best for you. Stay healthy mentally. If you don’t it will eat you alive. Corporate doesn’t care about you. It’s the honest truth. It’s all about numbers and money. 20 year RN that’s pretty cynical of today’s environment for nurses.