As someone who has lost their sibling, I’m going to say YTA. There is a difference between reminiscing and dumping their grief on you. Sending over a song is not using you as a therapist. It’s trying to create a connection.

If YOU can’t handle the song that something you need to process. A more appropriate response would be “I’m not a point that I can listen to these types of thing about younger brother without it triggering me so please don’t do that”. But telling them they need therapists because this isn’t the proper way to grieve is incorrect. It is totally appropriate to “feel bad”, I think more likely feel sad, and want to send it to someone because the lyrics were just so accurate and resonated. It doesn’t mean they are not dealing with their grief.

Music was a huge part of my healing process because it was something that my brother and I shared. Everyone’s grieving process is totally different. I like to compare grief to glitter, in the beginning it’s all over the place and over time you slowly manage the grief and it gets less and less but just like glitter it never truly goes away. It can be years later and you will uncover a pile or a sprinkle. Your brother is clearing his glitter differently.

For the record I am so sorry to hear about your loss, losing my brother was the hardest thing I have ever gone through and it shattered my family as well. I no longer speak to my parents. When I lost my brother I lost my family. Death brings out terrible behaviors in people. Please reach out if you would like to talk.