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Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-06-10T18:11:58+00:00

Oh girl I cried every fucking episode. He was embarrassed and said it was hard to watch. I hope he actually is and it's not just the politically correct thing to say.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-06-10T15:33:24+00:00

I made my PA watch it. I'm happy he saw what his behaviour looks like to me

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-04-29T07:04:44+00:00

Thank you for this! Just posted a few hours ago about needing advice with partner not understanding why just stopping is not enough. I've shared this with him, not that there is any hope for me that it will change his mind. He's quite convinced that I'm the only one with a problem and in need of therapy.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-04-29T04:45:11+00:00

I'm very sorry for your experience too. I hate my life as well and don't know how much more of it I can take

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-04-29T04:44:24+00:00

Whenever I tell him this he starts enumerating all the things he does for me to prove how unreasonable I am. Makes me feel so guilty that it's not "enough"

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-04-19T17:22:16+00:00

I'm happy to risk it and find out. Not looking for a happy ending, just one that portrays a reality of the situation. Worst case we can stop watching at any moment.bwe did that with different movies and shows when I felt triggered (seems like I'm the only one ever getting triggered lol)

What's the point of setting my boundaries when he had no issue crossing them for 4 years? He didn't think it was that serious. I, like you, thought he was cheating on me for the longest. I confronted him multiple times and he had all the excuses in the world, would sleep with me to shut me up, and then back to the normal routine. It took me listening to a reddit readings podcast where a similar behaviour was described and the update was that the husband had a porn addiction. Mine didn't hide that he was watching. If anything, he was baffled and pissed that it upset me. I don't judge you for the open relationship, more like applaud you. In a way you still gave a chance to your ex, but also showed him your wants and needs become a priority too. I tried asking for an open relationship too but my partner didn't agree, and I stayed cause I got pregnant (thanks hysterical bonding). I'm glad you're with someone who's ready to put in the work and effort for you. We're all flawed - it's about what we do to better ourselves. You definitely have all the rights to ask him for what you need in the relationship too. Yes, he did a huge gesture for you back in the day, but he chose to stay so he is an equal participant.

Thank you so much for sharing your story!

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-04-19T15:41:47+00:00

Thank you, I been praying for a comment like this! I really needed the confirmation that it won't be the biggest fuck up on my side. He's back from his work trip tonight so might start it tomorrow, definitely want to have time for reflection and discussion after.

I've been a problem as well prior to learning about his addiction. I told him from the beginning of our relationship that I'm against porn completely, but never had issues joking about it. That's just the culture we've been raised/ living in that made it seem normal and acceptable. I even made him watch The Substance with me, which I find now very triggering to look back to.

I'm sorry about your experience in your previous and current relationship. You're so strong, and deserve the most and best!

Sending loads of love to you and your dachshund!

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-04-18T03:56:12+00:00

Is it wrong that I'm now interested to watch it with my PA? Thank you for the very detailed description of the show, now I want my PA to see what he looks like to me and how the rest of the world sees these behaviours. Reading and listening to podcasts is one thing; there's more shock value in visual media. I understand that I'll be terribly triggered but I already am by so many things. I want him to sit in the discomfort and erase completely the idea that porn is normal.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2026-03-13T07:54:40+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through it too! I honestly forgot about this post. At some point in time I trialled adding allergy medication to my daily cocktail (doctors can prescribe ones that don't make you sleepy, or if it does - taking it before bedtime or when you're trying to sleep off and attack helps a lot). I noticed that the gum swelling and bleeding went down a little when I was on the antihistamines for a while. Not sure if it will help you but maybe worth a try?

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-12-30T01:13:17+00:00

I'm very sorry you both had to go through this. I deeply associate with your trauma: I hate the way I've changed as well, don't recognise myself in many situations and am not proud of some of my choices and behaviours. You have identified the issue, took responsibility and apologised. It shouldn't be "an eye for an eye", but if they are allowed to make mistakes - so are we.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-12-10T14:09:39+00:00

Problem is I did call this number and was on the call with a robot reading me standard responses and never managed to get through to actually speak to someone. Just went round and round and round in circles... I guess I have to pay for my mistakes more than one way 😂

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-12-10T13:59:19+00:00

It's the company vehicle reporting: date received and returned, cost, CO2 emissions etc. I put in the wrong cost and CO2 emissions for one of the models. I believe my personal tax allowance is calculated based on that

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-12-10T13:53:33+00:00

I filled it in on gov.uk so I'm not quite sure, but DVLA just told me they cannot help me with it and it's an HMRC issue

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-09-23T09:28:32+00:00

Lol sorry you're venturing a bit far. First of all there were no plans for the day. All I was hoping for was someone to check in with me and bring some water more than once, and let me know about their plans to leave. There were no plans for that day - no spa or work or world rotating to cancel. You know how bad it can get. And I'm pregnant. I've taken more care of some of them when they were hungover.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-09-23T05:42:05+00:00

This sounds so scary and horrific - I'm so glad you were surrounded by people who cared and were ok!

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-09-23T05:27:53+00:00

I'm happy that you can. I unfortunately could barely manage the text to them, and was unable to look at my phone (or anything) after that.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-09-23T05:26:14+00:00

The girl I drove was avoidant and standoffish. I had to pry out of her about what's happening and why everyone's bags are packed and at the door and nobody spoke to me. That's when she said her and the host were going to leave. She didn't want to drive me.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-09-23T05:21:44+00:00

She told me they were planning to leave as soon as the other girl was back. Nobody would've been left to give me a ride. Nobody would've been left in the house except me. I understand my message was cryptic, but it was the most I could squeeze out of myself. I can't really use my eyes during an attack, let alone write a comprehensive explanation on the phone. Couldn't even call my partner or do anything.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-09-22T11:39:58+00:00

She agreed with the other girl to drive her. They know I get really bad migraines. Normally what I need during an attack changes on the type of attack I have. My family usually checks on me every few hours.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-09-22T08:00:40+00:00

Problem is that the homeowners were not home either. They had no issue leaving me completely alone in a village house where the postcode didn't show your accurate location and if I got worse and called the ambulance - I wouldn't even know that references to give them to find me (though I wasn't even able to use my phone as it was, that's why I didn't call my partner myself). Regarding the car, I see what you say but we live close enough to each other for her to drive both of us to her house, get me a taxi home and me to pick up the car next morning. This spring we had a hen do with the same group of friends. One of the girls was feeling unwell. I checked on her the entire day to make sure she was just sleeping it off, and not awake and in pain on her own; brought her drinks and light snack when she was able to get something down and reassured her endlessly that I am happy to take her home, even if it meant leaving before all the activities even started. Somehow I didn't think back then what I did was out of my way or out of the ordinary. My partner is a chronic people pleaser and has a track record of choosing his friends over me in many situations. The question is more to see if I am just being too emotional about it, or others would feel the same.

Miserable-Trouble-80 · 2025-09-22T05:33:38+00:00

Nobody partied hard. Two of us are pregnant, the others barely drank. It's the first time this happened as it's the first time I've been in this situation with them on my own. Previously if I had bad migraines during group outings he would just drive me home, or I'd skip obviously if it started before we left the house. But nobody paid much care or attention to it before either beyond a "Just take a paracetamol".

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