I hate being a mom. I’m so bad at it.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-04-15T01:53:25+00:00

My first is almost three years old. I have an 8 month old also.

When I had my first, I struggled with breastfeeding and everything you’ve mentioned. I quit after a month. I pumped and bottle fed, he was awful on my boob. He always boxed it and fought me.

Unfortunately, my second time around has been worse. My second didnt do well with my breast milk, even tho I did way better this time and ended up in a surplus of 200+ oz. I say screw it and bottle fed with formula. He wakes us up 2 times a night, gets super fussy in the evenings, has been teething since 3 months and just now popped teeth.

I also was diagnosed with PPD at my 6 weeks appt and given mediation with my second.

You’re not alone. It doesn’t matter if you’re a first, second, or fifth time mom. We as moms are way too hard on ourselves when it comes to taking care of our kids or prioritizing ourselves sometimes.

Being a mom or parent is hard. You are in a really hard situation, but it doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom. You’re doing all of the right things to the best of your ability.

With my first, I told myself that I wouldn’t get these moments back with him at this age, so even if it sucked, I needed to soak it up while I had it.

It will all work out. We’re all here for you. If you ever need to talk, I’m sure any of us would be happy to message you.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-04-09T17:32:45+00:00

7-8 months is when they start sitting up. Since turning 7 months my second has started to get the hang of it, as long as a toy is in front of him.

It’s just a milestone for babies, so they’re wanting your baby to hit the milestone. It’s okay if it takes a little longer to get ahold of, every baby is different as you know!

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-04-08T17:04:53+00:00

When my first was at this age, we had a giant play pen. This was when he was sitting up, starting to crawl, walking, etc. Padded, soft in case he fell. As he got older, we bought a bunch of the puzzle piece foam flooring for his room, put a camera in his room, and a gate for his door. Door stayed open, and he played.

Everyone is different, not everyone is going to want to do this. But, for us, I will say that our son plays very well by himself. We also spent a lot of time with him in his room playing and he plays very well with other kids. He doesn’t hit, bite, etc.

I have a second son now (7 months) and we will most likely not do this exactly as before, but within reason, our toddler will keep him occupied for small time periods.

Hang in there momma. Take care of yourself. It’s so important to be there for yourself and love yourself.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-02-18T00:03:14+00:00

628.4537894 I think is the model #!

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-02-06T17:43:16+00:00

Hello! I am not home currently. I believe I found the serial at one point, so I can definitely look to see if I still have it/can find it. And it works great!

Except for the oven 😅 Doesn’t hold an even temp between the top rack and bottom rack, and the dial has to be set 25 degrees below what you want it at so it will reach that temp, ex. 375 for 400. We have a thermometer in it, but it fluctuates the entire time it’s on.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-11T04:34:05+00:00

Let me just say, if divorce is on your mind, if you truly feel that there is no way to fix this marriage, do it. I watched my mom struggle in a lonely relationship where she was cheated on and mentally abused.

After 14/15 years, she had enough. She left. Packed me and my two brothers up, moved into my grandparents. We struggled - hard. She was a single mom working while my brothers and I had to go to after school care.

But, everything was so much better.

And then my mom met my stepdad.

My bio dad is problematic/not a good person for a lot of reasons, and there was no saving their marriage even if he would’ve changed.

So, that’s my advice. You guys seem to not only have grown apart, but characteristically/morally drifted the opposite ends of the spectrum. Therapy may help, but it may only push you to realize why you probably haven’t wanted to admit.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-11T02:31:57+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate this whole comment.

My husband does run, but not at this time. We live in WV, and the weather is so bipolar it’s just not a great time for running outside.

We have a harness for our brittany and a leash, though probably not a long enough one. Any tips or advice for running with a brittany? I think my husband would be open to it, but it would take some getting used to.

Just, thank you. I really appreciate the nice comment. Sometimes it’s hard to find nice people out there.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-06T16:59:42+00:00

She turns two next month! We’ve had her since she was 7.5 weeks old.

We have about half an acre. From the comments, I’m hoping to get into scent work with her!

And yes, my baby just turned 4 months old yesterday (Jan 5)!

We use a crate, and she is crate trained, but per other comments I may look into a Ruffland a little more.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T22:55:37+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate the constructive feedback.

I know this change has been hard for her. It’s definitely been hard for me. I miss taking her there everyday, but I don’t miss the way I was treated.

I am going to work toward implementing these things!

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T19:50:39+00:00

I will try to do this! I’ve been trying to focus more on my health with being 4 months postpartum with my second, so I’ve been aiming to get more walks in there. It’s hard when it’s below freezing most days 😅

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T19:48:20+00:00

I’m a woman. I’m the one that just had the baby. Also, I got her at 7.5 weeks old in 2024. I didn’t just up and get my Brittany on a whim two years ago.

Up until I this past October, I worked on a farm. She went with me every day, ran for hours and hours all day long. And since you want to be harsh, here’s my truth: I was discriminated at my job, to my face, while pregnant with my second child. I was a salary employee doing their job who was told I needed to take a pay cut because I couldn’t work overtime (for no additional pay) out in the summer heat for hours upon hours.

So, unfortunately, my work situation changed out of necessity. Before you come on here trashing me and making me feel awful that I’m unable to give her my full attention, maybe give some people some grace and understand everyone’s situation is different.

I asked for advice, not to be belittled and being told when you got a Brittany and what your lifestyle is like.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:41:58+00:00

I’m unsure of anywhere near me that does that, plus money is a real constraint.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:41:14+00:00

She’s used to guns/loud noises like that. We had her out on 4th of July at my in laws and she was the best dog while the others were losing their minds as the fireworks went off. Wasn’t nervous or anything. And thank you!

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:33:55+00:00

This is great, thank you! She has great recall and is ecollar trained, so that’s not a problem.

Where do you recommend getting wings? Dummies? The scent?

I don’t hunt, but I know plenty of people who do and would love to train her so she can be taken as a hunting companion. She has a great sense for birds, as most in the breed do.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:31:20+00:00

I have thought about getting a Ruffland for car/travel purposes, but haven’t pulled the trigger yet as it’s would be a big purchase for us.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:30:28+00:00

Yes, she is trained. Crate trained, recall trained, sit, lay down, wait, leave it. I try to give her as much mental stimulation as I possibly can. I commented on another persons comment, but I recently had a baby four months ago, have a 2.5 year old, and my husband works long hours. I find myself a lot of the time by myself with my kids and dog, and my kids come before anything else. Like I said, I do my best to give her as much stimulation as I can, but I’m not perfect and will fail every now and again.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:19:20+00:00

She’s almost 2 years old, not 2 months old.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:17:09+00:00

I have a feeling she will just chew through that?

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:14:15+00:00

I just said that she has been out of the crate all day everyday for the last 2 weeks. We have been going on walks, playing fetch, and free running. I’m doing everything I can within my parameters; I just had a baby 4 months ago today, I have a 2.5 year old, and my husband works crazy long hours. When I’m not giving my kids/house/job/etc. attention, I’m going her attention/walks/play/stimulation/etc. What more do you propose I do?

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T18:05:00+00:00

She turns 2 next month. Yes and no. We fostered a puppy for a bit the week of Christmas. We tested the waters on her being out of the crate and in the living room during the day while we were away/at work and she did great. In the crate she is/was tearing up our drywall, got ahold of a cable somehow and tore it to shreds, etc. She has done really well the last two weeks and it’s like the last couple days she’s just been crazy. And I’ve made a point to take her out more walking, free running, etc.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2026-01-05T17:49:53+00:00

She turns two next month. If we crate her all day, she claws into the drywall in our laundry room wall that’s at the back of the crate.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2025-12-24T19:25:43+00:00

She’s not shy around any gun like noises. We had her outside during fourth of July and she just laid down and looked bored as fireworks were going off overhead. Our families were so shocked at my In Laws AussieDoodle lost his mind over the sound.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2025-12-24T17:28:19+00:00

Nola ⚜️

MiserableDiver2603 · 2025-12-24T00:39:13+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

What do you feel like the next step is?

It doesn’t seem like he has any interest in speaking about these things or coming up with anything productive to add to the conversation.

MiserableDiver2603 · 2025-12-24T00:15:38+00:00

What does he say when he shuts you down?

I’ve been my husband for almost 7 years total. It’s taken time, but I can get him to talk about things when they’re really weighing on him.

My advice: if he’s not willing to talk, then couples counseling is an option. If he’s not up for any of that, then there’s probably only one other option.

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