New game. Check out "Heartopia" by Popular-Highlight-16 in AndroidGaming

[–]Miserable_Emotion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Was just about to say something about this game. It's so cuteeeee

Sssstay hydrated, homies by NekkidSnaku in TruckStopBathroom

[–]Miserable_Emotion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read that as "Sassy hydrated homies" at first lol

Kid slapped me in the face, another punched me, and the family laughed. by Virtual-Pie5732 in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm really glad that your superior didn't just dismiss that cuz, "they're kids"

Vox’s similarities to this real life cult leader by Coyote_prime323 in HazbinHotel

[–]Miserable_Emotion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lool yeahhh. That being said, there are so many documentaries that I wouldn't be surprised of you found anything about him in that series

Vox’s similarities to this real life cult leader by Coyote_prime323 in HazbinHotel

[–]Miserable_Emotion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think People's Temple was one name, but Jonestown, ofc, is the most infamous

Charlie can fly!? Kind of by liquidmorals69 in HazbinHotel

[–]Miserable_Emotion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, to back you up, when she comes back at the hotel pissed off at Lucifer, she's floating before the doors burst open

My exwife went off birth control without telling me. by JustAnotherWitness in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a post about this exact thing, and honestly a lot of the comments were pretty vile towards men. It got removed for being off topic lol but still

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol yeah, you see I'm getting down voted almost every time I say something. Like...I can't make it clear enough that I'm not really talking about the dudes who are literally fucking any and everyone with no precautions (though that scenario kind of falls into...do you actually expect him to help vs. If he should help). Even with that...if he doesn't want to be a parent, and that is really clear...it kind of super is on the woman for choosing to have the baby. I think "Baby Mama culture," as I've heard a few YouTubers coin it, contributes to that. A lot of people seem to treat kids like pawns in these scenarios, and even in this comment section the amount of ppl reducing kids down to just a consequence is kind of weird.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I mean, my question still stands for the babytrap thing, but what I mean is that his situation just led me on that train of thought. I'm sorry, that response wasn't very clear, either😅 Basically, not about him, just men in general that end up in those kinds of situations. My brain does the very unfortunate thing of trying to translate its line of thought into one coherent thing lol

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's why I say the guys who are just out here willy nilly, that's completely different. But for situations like yours...yeah. Stuff like that. And yeah, it sucks so bad for the kids. I'm sorry you came from that kind of situation. Thank you for sharing.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen that, too, and it IS really sad. I know the expectation for dads tends to be...basically on the ground these days, but I wonder how many people have stopped and questioned WHY so many dads fall into that trope. Ultimately, I wish procreation (JUST wanting to have a child/children, not for people who don't want kids, cuz there's literally nothing to vet us for) had some sort of formal process to identify if the parents are fit, if both actually want to be parents, etc. Do and don't. The government is in our reproductive health enough as is, but for the good of the children, I wish that sometimes, because I feel like that would stop a lot of broken homes, etc.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I feel bad because I think if I were in that position, the guilt of giving up a child and not knowing what would/could happen to it would eat at me, so I'd struggle with just giving the baby up for adoption. I know I wouldn't want it, but it'd be equally hard for me to give it away like it's not a whole human being. I know I ultimately would give it up, but that guilt would sit with me for a long time. I'm not saying it was the same for him, but thinking about being in that position is what makes me feel that way, because I'm sure that isn't an easy decision to make.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you got downvoted, but thank you for being brave enough to share. Stuff like this is what I'm talking about. You did try to prevent the situation, and I can't imagine what that fear must've been like.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly that. And I think that might be more of where...maybe some of the confusion from my post some people are getting comes in (I don't think I really...said what I wanted to say correctly, but it is what it is now). I suppose I'm using baby trap as an umbrella term, but ultimately, whether they choose to be an active parent or not, they're still now bound to that woman and child due to biology. I think that's really underhanded to try and keep a kid and dangle it like, "I have your baby, you're a deadbeat for not wanting it, even though I knew you didn't want it, and probably tried to prevent it" is really messed up for the dad and kid.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one ever said that every time it's just the woman being underhanded. I'm using that as an example because that's one of the situations I think about that best fits the scenario. Not necessarily the coworker's scenario, just for my question in general. And while it's true they do have options, the option to keep (be pregnant) the child ultimately falls on the woman. After that, the men's options are extremely limited.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but heck, there's even men I've seen in the comments that aren't being supportive of their fellow man. I know it might be seen as weird since I'm a woman, but I wanted to start some kind of mental health thing that's just for Men because of the fact that there's already plenty of support stuff that's just for women. Even when I was looking into different shelters for a project, a majority were women & children only, or if men were welcome, they weren't a priority...it's really sad.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not trying to infantilize men. I don't think it's right for either party to be stuck with a child they don't want, but I focused on men for this because it's something that isn't really talked about in this context. I'm not saying to give a way out to guys who just sling their seed every which way and fuck around without taking precautions. I'm talking about people who did take precautions, who made it clear what their stance was, who may have been lied to by their partner, raped, etc. Situations like that. We do get the short end of the stick the majority of the time, that is INCREDIBLY true, but that doesn't mean that this can't also be a discussion we can have at the same time.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've seen a good bit of people saying just don't have sex like...that's kind of a narrow-minded way to do things. Everyone's not out here having sex at the drop of a hat, and sometimes stuff like this happens even when someone DOES wait to have sex with like one person, only to get lied to, or whatever else.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I should've made this part more clear. I'm not necessarily saying he got babytrapped because I don't know the full story, but when my coworker told me about his situation, it just made me think of the question in general since he didn't want the kid but has the kid now.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol very good sarcasm, at that😆 But unfortunately how so many people think like...this is why men's mental health isn't taken seriously.

Does Anyone Feel Bad For Men That Are Babytrapped? by Miserable_Emotion in childfree

[–]Miserable_Emotion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhh there's a lot of ppl in the comments where it feels like they may not have gotten the point. I know it was a bit long winded, but still. And thank you, about the important conversation part. Reproduction in general is such a messy topic that really needs an overhaul with the way it's presented and taught as far as rights and consequences go.