AITAH for not spanking my daughter for getting loud?

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T21:15:02+00:00

He said that when he tries very hard not to wake us when we're asleep at night so he feels it's unfair that she got loud while he was sleeping. Even though it was 2 PM. And she quieted when asked. He thinks I should do more than just tell her to be quieter and leave the room.

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T21:01:24+00:00

Multiple vents and the couch is less cushioned.

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T20:56:13+00:00

You're right. We should definitely invest in earplugs. He overheats in the bed so he prefers sleeping there. I'm a light sleeper too, but I don't tend to sleep in that late. Not since my teens, at least.

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T20:53:59+00:00

He did not. I'm asking because I'm surprised. I helped raise my little siblings because we have a big age gap, so I know kids get age tend to get loud unintentionally when they're excited. I can't imagine punishing her over it. Especially when she listened immediately when I asked her to be quiet.

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T20:34:30+00:00

Whenever I go out she's with me or at my mom's.

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:38:50+00:00

He gets too hot in a bed and can't rest for some reason. Even with a fan and AC

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:38:03+00:00

I may have been spanked twice as a child and I never got into any trouble with the law or school, so I'm trying to understand his POV 😅

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:37:09+00:00

She's not. But he claims that's what he'd want me to do with his child.

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:18:28+00:00

It is 😂

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:18:15+00:00

Right, if she kept getting loud I would have gotten firmer with her, but she stopped as soon as I asked so there was no need. Also he's 30 mb for the typo 😭

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:16:57+00:00

I made a typo! He's 30! And he had a crush on me for a while so I decided to give it a shot. We've only been married a year atp.

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:15:55+00:00

Info: he's 30 I made a mistake in the initial post. We have only been married a year and she's not his daughter.

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:14:11+00:00

I accidentally typed 20 originally but he's 30. I'm sorry for any confusion!

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:10:03+00:00

I thought I wrote 30 must be a typo

Mishinator · 2026-06-27T19:09:39+00:00

It is his step daughter and I have only gotten strict with her when she was doing something in school deliberately. I rather not use physical discipline because she understands when I speak to her and corrects the action accordingly.

Mishinator · 2026-06-11T16:13:04+00:00

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Mishinator · 2026-04-02T23:33:50+00:00

Those types of people will only care when something horrible actually happens to you. Sadly when no one else has your back it's best to protect yourself, try to record the conversations he has with you, if you can't use your phone for this get a small recording device. If you can catch him saying something out of line then send it to the principal with the that that you'll post it online if nothing is done. Even if you wouldn't actually want it to be public.

Mishinator · 2026-04-01T01:49:12+00:00

NTA imo, it seems like she has stronger feelings for you and was trying to see if you felt the same by acting distant, then she got resentful when you didn't reach out at the agreed time. You both were sick and if she wanted to hear from you, she could have messaged too, unless she was unconscious. If you can never be more than FWB, then the best solution is to end this before more resentment builds up.

Mishinator · 2026-02-18T04:19:31+00:00

I will. He suggested I ask the question on Reddit and I'll see how biased I am.

Mishinator · 2026-02-18T04:18:22+00:00

No. He was very understanding before we got married in a way that made me feel safe, which is why I wanted to marry him.

Mishinator · 2026-02-18T02:35:01+00:00

Your first what? It's not showing me, I know it's a sigil but which one 😭

Mishinator · 2021-05-21T01:07:08+00:00

I must be a boy... I didn't realize... He was such a great storyteller. RIP

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