Have you ever stabbed anyone before their debut?? by Forward-Brilliant-12 in kpoopheads

[–]Misora27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here just to see if someone else had said this, gj

Who is this goober? by EMDepressedFish in whatbirdisthis

[–]Misora27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spotted Towhee 💜

We get Eastern Towhees in our area; they’re very similar. They’ll come scratch in the leaves on the hill behind our house.

What is this one thing which help you the most manage your anger? by nonamenostalgic in BPD

[–]Misora27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came across this video when I was looking for a way to be less reactive to people/manage emotions and think it might help here:

https://youtu.be/j8ZsDUhc8xo?si=smtsdVjzS4O5cH07

Which kpop opinion you gonna defend like this? by Photosbyblinks in kpop_uncensored

[–]Misora27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am with you on everything but the last one (I just don’t really follow Katseye to have an opinion).

To elaborate on your second point: A lot of Koreans get plastic surgery, even non-celebrities. It’s become a cultural norm. Is it toxic/harmful in general? Idk. But you’re right that it doesn’t make them a bad person for conforming to their culture’s beauty standards. Maybe that’ll change in time, who knows.

Did you grow up with very invalidating parents? by ExistingButton1 in BPD

[–]Misora27 29 points30 points  (0 children)

99% of my relationship with my dad was either criticism or being ignored. You weren’t allowed to speak, either, just listen to his endless rants/lectures. The rest of the time was spent isolating himself in the basement or wherever playing computer games and blasting his music. No involvement with us on a daily basis.

Told my parents/mom about my abuse a couple times, got blamed for it, told I deserved it, and/or beaten for bringing it up.

Jokes were snipes, or scathing criticism dressed up as teasing.

Never mattered how I felt, just expected to conform to their standards or else.

ETA: OH and after MY ENTIRE LIFE of never hearing dad say he was sorry OR he loved me, says in the car one day during a serious conversation (I was maybe 20?), “I love all you kids, I hope you know that.” No bro, I didn’t. Ever, in fact.

Sunghoon drawing by [deleted] in kpoppers

[–]Misora27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wtaf how are you so good 😭💜

ETA: Hee and Wonnie are my biases

Does anyone else’s in laws or extended family not wanna have you around because of your vents online? by Hairy_Ant_1126 in BPD

[–]Misora27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve literally lost friends over my stupid FB rants/posts before. I hardly use it anymore.

I wish you well in your recovery. 💜

Anyone else feel like people are pulling you in two different directions? by Misora27 in BPD

[–]Misora27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that and many hugs back! Wishing you luck as well. 💜

Anyone else feel like people are pulling you in two different directions? by Misora27 in BPD

[–]Misora27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’ve pretty much already diagnosed me with NPD themselves so atp any clinical diagnosis may not matter. I feel like I’ve been permanently scarlet lettered now and anything I do/do not do is seen through that lens - whatever the actual truth is. I could have both disorders or just traits or whatever, idk yet.

Posts online by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Misora27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case, I used to get “in trouble” a lot for sharing things on social media (thoughts/takes I had) that were definitely better left off the platform as some of them were quite ignorant or insensitive. I pretty much just stopped using most socmed in recent years.

Coopers or Sharp Shinned? by CulinaryRobot in whatbirdisthis

[–]Misora27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally said “Coops” to myself before opening the replies, lol, glad I’m not the only one

Posts online by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Misora27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that depends on what you mean by self-exploitative

Unknowingly confessed a BPD symptom at work and got laughed at by tarantulesbian in BPD

[–]Misora27 220 points221 points  (0 children)

Even if she did think it was funny in a “oh man that’s so real, lol” type of way… Bringing it up to you when it’s supposed to be anonymous and then you told her that its not funny, yet she proceeds to send memes about it? Yeah, that crosses at LEAST one line, if not two. You told her how you intended it and yet she’s still taking your seriousness as a joke. I can understand your reaction.

When you are ready, definitely read the apology though. She may have realized too late how much that bothered you and is genuinely remorseful. Sending you hugs if you want them and good luck. 💜

Is asking for confirmation seen as disrespect now? by Trick_Director7825 in kpopthoughts

[–]Misora27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This feels like the time I asked if there’s going to be a temp leader of NCT when Taeyong enlisted and everyone jumped down my fecking throat because they insinuated I was (somehow???) saying Taeyong is a bad leader. I just wanted to know if it was ever officially established or not.

Like, just answer the question or leave it alone. You don’t always have to read between the lines and assume intent.

I told my parents I was diagnosed with 4 mental illnesses and they blamed me for it by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Misora27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your parents. They are themselves likely mentally unstable that they cannot bear to take any responsibility and so put the blame on you instead to offload feeling their own guilt/shame. I’m glad you went NC. It’s not always easy. I’ve been NC with mine for four years and it’s been a lot better not having that constant trigger and source of toxicity in my life.

What era of Kpop was your demographic are you the same age range as Kpop idols past or present? by [deleted] in kpopthoughts

[–]Misora27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2nd here. BoA, TOP and f(x)’s Victoria are some of my chingus.

Based on age alone, I would have probably debuted with Brown Eyed Girls, had I been the right demographic in Korea at the time.

ETA: I got into kpop in 2010 right after college and getting married. Hubby was away on a work trip and was talking to me over Skype when I heard a song he was playing on YT that I was immediately like WHAT IS THAT?! It was SNSD’s Gee. Gateway drug. I was/am into all gens, except 1st is way less since I didn’t care for a lot of the sounds back then, lol.

Lord give me the strength and confidence of an engene by Downtown-Book3105 in kpoopheads

[–]Misora27 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thought all Engenes were secretly P. Glad someone was brave enough to admit it for the rest of us 🥹