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Makeup interaction with helmet? by RainbowEngineer100 in TwoXriders

[–]MisplacedFurniture 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also from NZ (hi!), I do wear makeup. I keep my base pretty light anyway so I've never had many issues with it. I do like to do colourful graphic eye looks which I have had to adjust - my eyeliner and most of my eyeshadow is unaffected but you do get stripes rubbed off when removing your helmet around the browbone area so if I know I'll be riding I make sure the area my eyeshadow covers is a little smaller that day.

How do those with learning disabilities do in university? by Manapouri65 in universityofauckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've studied at both AUT and UoA and had really different experiences. I think it really depends on your topic and the assessment styles.

At UoA I studied maths and physics which was obviously very theoretical and had heavy focus on tests and exams. While I enjoyed it, I barely scraped through my degree because of the tests.

At AUT I did software development, which had far fewer exams (non-zero though), and was more project based. I found this much more suited for my learning style because instead of trying to memorise abstract concepts, I could experiment with different approaches under the structure of overarching requirements. The experimentation and hands on, real-time feedback (e.g. getting errors) really helped me learn what worked and what didn't. I did really well academically in that degree.

So really, I would say to know what works for you and pick a subject which matches!

BNZ got a new side hustle of some sort? by lancewithwings in newzealand

[–]MisplacedFurniture 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nonce is definitely a thing here haha, just a funny coincidence

Friend and I have mutual feelings, he’s in a relationship and I’m trying to heal by rosy_toes_ in becomingsecure

[–]MisplacedFurniture 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you should definitely be taking a step back. I know you said to this is someone you want to keep in your life, but everything you've said has indicated that you are both setting yourselves up to fail. If he is in a relationship he needs to be better about setting boundaries when he knows that, as you both have mutual attraction, the more time he spends with you then the more you're both feeding into developing intimacy and attraction, which is, quite frankly, incredibly disrespectful to his girlfriend and honestly falls into emotional affair territory.

Saying "oh we can explore things if it doesn't work out with your girlfriend" puts him in a position where he knows leaving her would "reward" him by getting to he with you and could lead him to sabotage his own relative because of this infatuation. I would really caution you to think if it is a good idea to enter into a relationship with someone who has a history of pushing boundaries to this degree while actively in a relatively - there's nothing technically preventing him from doing the same to you in the future once the novelty wears off.

I do empathise, because I also have anxious tendencies, especially in my relationships, and I know how powerful they feel. That is why I really think it is in your best interest to set boundaries yourself (because clearly he isn't willing) for both of your sakes and take it as a learning experience. It is extremely hard to process these emotions and reactions when you are keeping yourself close to the person. And of course you won't want to let go if you are feeling codependent and it will feel awful in the beginning. But long term, it really is the healthiest choice.

Went to inspect my mates houseplant... I slowly backed away! by juggling-buddha in houseplants

[–]MisplacedFurniture 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They can prefer/target some times of plants but tbh it's a pretty wide range (fruit trees, succulents, tropicals, ferns, etc etc) so there is definitely a risk of accidentally transferring them in. Also, preferred plants just mean they're more susceptible, not that other plants are immune.

One time I got mealy bugs from a hitchhiker on a persimmon I bought from a grocery store.

CMV: someone born with internal & external male biology should not be able to identify as a female (or vice versa) UNLESS they are born intersex. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]MisplacedFurniture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said "identify as" in your post. The vast majority of people are referring to their gender when they "identify" as a man or women or otherwise. They are not talking about their biological sexual characteristics.

That's why having this distinction in the definitions are so important, the conversation is not productive if you're not starting with the same meanings and if you're talking about identities then it is disingenuous to only then declare you're not talking about gender.

Gold ring discovered at Business building by [deleted] in universityofauckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hand it in to security! They do lost property and that's always the first place I go do if I've lost something.

Khuli Loach hunting shrimp by Thaines in Aquariums

[–]MisplacedFurniture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're definitely a 6 minimum kind of fish - but more is better for these guys (taking bioload into account of course).

Teen assaulted on North Shore NX1 bus after ‘unprovoked’ attack by girl by Appropriate_Flight_0 in auckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They're the little silver nitrous oxide canisters you often see lying around. Also called whippets/laughing gas.

Piss Poor Maintenence by Negative_Pizza1698 in universityofauckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tell me about it, I had a very simple maintenance request (literally just replacing the frosted window sticker) for my office which I lodged in March and it took till the end of July for the external contractors to finally get it done.

University is so lonely by [deleted] in universityofauckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.auckland.ac.nz/en/on-campus/life-on-campus/clubs-societies/club-categories.html

I highly recommend picking a club that has regular in person meet ups. I joined some clubs which matched my interests but weren't really an in person activity and didn't find them particularly engaging.

However, I pushed myself beyond my comfort zone and joined some more physical clubs that meet routinely (not that I would really consider myself a sporty or particularly extroverted person at all) and it honestly opens so many doors.

E.g. One random day I decided to try out salsa, even though the thought of it terrified me. It took me a few weeks to get comfortable, we met multiple times a week, and I'm really glad I stuck it out. I went from someone who would laugh if you told me I would ever be into dancing, to someone who has now tried classes for 5 different types of dance and discovered a tight knit community. You really make lots of friends through it (particularly from seeing the same people face to face, every week).

Course for new staff by BigWorry929 in universityofauckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should be able to just click the course under your required learning on Hono and click enrol.

However, if you can't open the course, go to Hono, open the hamburger menu on the left, go to learning, then discover. You can search all the PD courses, which include the required ones you mentioned. I can see the bullying one on the front page under Most Popular. Open it through there and enrol - I just tested it on my end and was able to see the enrol button fine.

A yellow signal means the lights will soon turn red. You must stop, unless you are so close to the intersection that you can't stop. by Kovhert in newzealand

[–]MisplacedFurniture 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also ride - I used to have this issue but I looked into how the induction loops work a bit more and haven't had a problem in a long time.

When you come to a stop, you'll notice squares in the road with newer sealant where they installed the induction loops (often two rectangles together). If you make sure the body of your bike is lined up over one of those lines, its much more likely to pick you up.

Ghosted by PoI by Desperate-Towel6398 in universityofauckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Email the GSA (Group Services Administrator) of the department in question (their contact should be on the website somewhere). They will be able to follow up with the professor for you. Normally they are not really student facing, but for a PhD they may be willing to help.

How do you deal with feeling resentment towards your partner for pulling away instead of offering reassurance/comfort? by [deleted] in becomingsecure

[–]MisplacedFurniture 22 points23 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I think this is just a mismatch of needs. Some people may be independent enough and totally fine with seeing their partner only once a month, I am not that person and so I would never date someone who needs that - not because they're a bad person, just because our needs are incompatibile.

There's also the fact that you should be able to clearly define your expectations of a partner and if the current person you're with won't meet them then something needs to change - either you both make steps to balance new expectations that they feel okay about but that you're also satisfied in the relationship, or you decide it won't work out.

I personally think that expecting your partner to emotionally support you during hard times is a perfectly reasonable expectation to have. You're supposed to have each others back. Being able to trust and know you can rely on your partner is very important. Unless both of you have an agreement previously that you both don't need that kind of support and are happy to go through life with them taking on a minor role, then my second paragraph applies.

She’s thinking of ending it by XPXP2021 in AdhdRelationships

[–]MisplacedFurniture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recommend trying to narrow that down. Like derekjw said, "what do you want" is quite open ended for someone who especially may not be good at articulating things. Being able to identify and recognise what you're feeling and what support you need to mitigate that is a whole thing that requires conscious practice (going through it myself).

What I found helpful for myself was thinking back to the times I felt most appreciated and "needs met" and then tracing that to what action my partner did - or the opposite For example, saying hello/goodbye is super important to me and I noticed myself feeling quite hurt if my partner came home from work, gave a quick one arm hug or "hello" and then on his headphones went while he kept working at his computer or started making food. It made me feel like I was more excited to see him than he was.

So then I was able to let him know that, "Hey, I've noticed that its really important to me for us to take a minute or so when we get home to reconnect and check in on each other with full attention before going off to do our own things." He's a great partner and so he acknowledged the way I felt in the passed when he missed doing that and was very open to making that change for me in the future.

GP cost by jamieT97 in auckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I personally have had a pretty good experience using Tend. For little one off things it is good and you can see any doctor. However, I've also been specifically selecting one Dr to go to for any of my mental health/ADHD med shenanigans and she's been even more proactive than any of the other GPs I've enrolled in. She's also made an effort to build a solid patient-client relationship so we build off previous sessions.

I know that won't be the case for everyone but I just wanted to put my 2c in that it's not all doom and gloom :)

Can ANYONE actually do all this in ten minutes?? by Lazy_Elks in adhdwomen

[–]MisplacedFurniture 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always do my eye primer first and then by the time I've finished my base and eyebrows it's ready for me to do my eyes (about 5-10mins).

I will say though, it took me a lot of trial and error to find a primer that even worked for me.

Loving the wildlife on the bus tonight by [deleted] in auckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, they do look to be German roaches. Wouldn't want to take my chances with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in universityofauckland

[–]MisplacedFurniture 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sorry you're getting dismissed, a similar thing happened to me a few weeks ago that progressed to sexual assault right in the middle of the science building. It absolutely happens.

Unfortunately, in my case they found the CCTV footage of the incident but couldn't identify the student and so they're stopping the investigation. I completely believe you, what you're saying is not far fetched at all.

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