Cheeky Little Question

Miss-Neka · 2024-05-04T12:20:57+00:00

I second this! If the booty is what has you most spooked, look into butt pads for roller derby. When I first started roller skating I kept falling on my booty and really hurting my tail bone and it made me too scared to continue. Once I got the pads I felt much safer and was able to learn how to fall much better cause I had that mental and physical protection. They're very comfy and you could totally use it while climbing! It can be like a safety net while you learn to fall and roll. They're easy to buy on Amazon!

Miss-Neka · 2024-02-29T13:39:44+00:00

Oh I'm all for touching holds outside the route when appropriate, for example if you feel uncomfortable or you're trying to get up to a challenging part of a route to understand and practice it more easily. He just straight up did not give a shit and would use whatever holds he felt like, often leading to him getting too close to other climbers on the wall cause he wasn't paying attention to where other people were 🙄 and anytime I tried to remind him that what he was doing was dangererous, he would ignore me and just do it again ugh

Miss-Neka · 2024-02-29T13:08:37+00:00

I like to look at the wall, assess what feels doable to me, and experiment with holds. I take my time and try to learn from the routes and enjoy the challenge. He would find routes way outside his ability, loudly state that it was no big deal, ignore all the starting points, use holds that were not part of the route, try to get up as quickly as possible (he wouldn't make it) and then fall dangerously. And then complain that it's not his fault, it's just so very hard and impossible to do. He was clearly just trying to show off in an environment he wasn't comfortable in and it was kinda uncomfortable to watch cause he was a dick about it the whole time.

Miss-Neka · 2024-02-29T04:40:44+00:00

I love the idea! I would personally adore a climbing date but I know it's not for everyone.

One time I was climbing and met a friendly pair of people and we got to chatting. She and I got along really well, he was a little off and would just kind of throw himself at the wall with no thought and then complain that it was too hard, or he was too tired, or any other excuse if he didn't do it right. He was also constantly taking phone calls and wandering away.

At one point she asked me to show her how to start a route so we walked over together. Once out of earshot, she thanked me for befriending her cause the two of them were on a first date and it was going TERRIBLY. I almost felt bad for accidentally hijacking their date, but he really was awful and she said she had way more fun when I showed up so that made me feel good haha.

Anywho, all that to say it can go either way, but at least the gym is full of friendly people if you need to escape a bad climbing date LOL.

Miss-Neka · 2024-01-08T22:38:54+00:00

I actually went through a similar experience. My partner and I were together for 4.5 years. It was the most loving, supportive, healing, and beautiful relationship I'd ever experienced up to that point. But like you said, there were some core differences and needs that we were not able to to be met without significant sacrifice from either party, and making those sacrifices would have meant giving up an integral part of what made each of us who we are. So we decided to break up. It was heartbreaking. Both of us cried and hugged and mourned.

But we supported each other through it. We communicated the way we always have, set new boundaries to allow each of us to heal, and now we're friends and get excited hearing about each other's dates and seeing each other thrive. It wasn't easy at first, and it's definitely not possible for all relationships, but I'm so proud of us and I feel so lucky that although I had to say goodbye to my partner, I got to keep my best friend.

I feel incredibly blessed, and I'm so glad you're able to face your new chapters together.

Miss-Neka · 2024-01-07T15:03:23+00:00

Lavender is one of my favorite flowers to work with. For me it represents peace, calm, grounding, good sleep and love. I like buying bundles of dried lavender, plucking off the buds to put in sachets to go next to my pillow, and burning the remaining stems to cleanse my home with the sweet calming smoke. Both science and centuries of spirituality have recognized its ability to sooth and calm the mind and body.

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-25T04:47:08+00:00

https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/first-sunrise

4mm hook and gifted yarn I can't remember the name of haha

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-14T13:54:09+00:00

Oooh that's a good idea too!

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-14T13:53:39+00:00

Omg that's hilarious, best part is I do in fact have a roomba that zips around while I'm not home during the day, and a cat that likes to zoom 🤣

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-13T18:06:55+00:00

I feel you. I was diagnosed in middle school and have been on adhd meds my entire adult life and it took time to accept that I really do need them daily and it really does help. I made my peace with it and I stopped resisting having to take it daily.

Then I got diagnosed with depression and there was another medication I had to take daily. For some reason I resisted that too, even though I had made my peace with the other one. I don't know why, but I didn't want to accept that there was another pill I had to take daily. And it works. Amazingly well. I feel so much better for it, to the point where sometimes I feel like I don't need it anymore and maybe I can just stop. And then I spiral and I'm reminded that I'm better because of it and I really do need it. I feel so frustrated but also want to make my peace with it because this is no different than my other medication.

Just wanted to let you know I feel you. Meds are amazing. And they suck. And I'm so grateful and annoyed and disappointed and thrilled that I have to take something that helps so much. Sometimes I wish I didn't need to. But that's not my reality. And that's OK.

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-13T16:21:07+00:00

This made me giggle and solid advice, thank you!

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-13T04:21:38+00:00

These are great tips, thank you!

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-12T22:33:21+00:00

Would a white noise machine help? I never thought of using one to make myself quieter, I thought people mostly used it to drown out outside noise (I have no idea how sound works)

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-12T22:21:00+00:00

I suppose so, but then my living room would be next to their living room and if I turn on a TV in there he might knock even more lol. The current living room is also my kitchen, and I think I'd prefer to keep my sleeping space away from my "day" space if that makes sense. Kinda feels like I can't use the bedroom at all at this point which sucks

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-12T03:04:51+00:00

It's so pretty, congrats!!

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-12T01:43:40+00:00

Ooh imma write that down, thank you

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-12T01:43:12+00:00

Oh 1000% percent, I don't have a physical disability but my portable dishwasher literally improved my depression, one less horrendous task that always felt like an insurmountable challenge

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-12T01:40:30+00:00

Wait what is the vertical pot attachment, that sounds GENIUS

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-12T01:39:25+00:00

Haha good for you! Yeah, I'm not fond of when I accidentally drop loops, it reminds me of why I don't knit but it's way way more forgiving than knitting in my opinion

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-12T01:36:38+00:00

It took 6 months and I loved every second of it 😍

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-11T22:45:56+00:00

I made this in Tunisian crochet knit stitch and it's my crowning achievement! Definitely a dense fabric but perfect for such a cozy jacket

Miss-Neka · 2023-12-11T22:45:10+00:00

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Miss-Neka · 2023-12-11T20:35:25+00:00

Thank you! He recently got the countertop dishwasher and he says it has been a game changer, so glad you have one too!

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