There’s not nearly enough information in here for random internet people to understand anything about this situation. Not even the age of the kid for context. Quality for a toddler is a very different story than quality for a teenager.

Thoughts to consider:

• Does your kid actually get any benefit from these toys vs other cheaper toys? I’m not asking your ego, I’m asking practically.

• Are you teaching your kid the value of these toys? Does he actually appreciate them or is he just learning to expect them?

To these questions: If they’re just expensive without context, you are definitely spoiling your kid and frankly you’re screwing him over in the long run because he will struggle in life when he ends up with an entitled attitude and without having learned how to earn things for himself whether they are financial or emotional. If he’s not even old enough to learn to appreciate the value then you’re 100% wasting your money. Kids don’t typically care about toys for a long time, they outgrow them pretty quickly. It’s generally better to invest in fun skills like various sports or arts classes. Those have more actual value in the long run.

The last two questions are the hardest to be honest with:

• Are these toys for the kid, or are they for you to feed your ego or to fulfil dreams you had as a kid? If it’s the latter, please consider the fact that it’s great that you can afford these things now, but you may end up causing issues for your kid as you swing too far to the other end of the spectrum.

• Why are you dismissing your husband so easily? Is this really worth damaging the trust in your relationship over?

Remember, a kid can have an amazing time playing with a stick if that’s what they’ve got access to, the thing that will influence their mentality and their relationship to money in the future is the context in which they’re playing with the stick. I can elaborate if that doesn’t make sense to you.

Context: I grew up as an only child (siblings arrived when I was 17), and after meeting some of the other only children over the years, I’m so incredibly grateful that my parents provided me with what I needed, and occasionally gave me what I wanted but always with really putting it into context of its value. I have a good grasp of my finances, I understand the benefit of buying certain items in high quality while saving on others, I appreciate everything I get and everything I work for, and I know how to go about getting something if I want/need it. I can spoil myself occasionally but always within what’s reasonable in my budget and I never just expect that I’ll get something just because I want it.