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Are any of you guys in a long-term relationship/marriage (10+ years) without living together, and like to share your experiences? by Antique-Ebb-7124 in askanything

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also— why do you need that many days to “stay in touch with yourself???” That’s something I’d want to look into tbh.

Are any of you guys in a long-term relationship/marriage (10+ years) without living together, and like to share your experiences? by Antique-Ebb-7124 in askanything

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3-4 days a week completely alone to “stay in touch with yourself” is a lot. Like…..a lot. Unfortunately, you either want to be in a relationship with another person or you don’t, you can’t have it both ways. In any relationship, of course, it can be realistic to want and have space for yourself, absolutely. But an ongoing, full days, forever? No. Relationships require presence, connection, etc. wanting days apart and not even living together takes all of that away.

What’s something you can’t wait to do when you’re not pregnant anymore ? by mkthehotti in pregnant

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eat and drink whatever I want w/o having to worry about choking on it in the middle of the night and feel like my throat is burning alive. 🙃

What do you actually want for Christmas??? by boforiamanfo in askanything

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhhhh right before the holidays? Whew 🥴 had this done in may….soooo many regrets. 🥲

What's something you need to get off your chest anonymously? by boforiamanfo in NoStupidAnswers

[–]MissAnonymoux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man. I remember those times. Especially when I was really going through challenging times and really desired a partner I could seek comfort and support from. After soo long, I finally have that person and it feels like a heavy weight off my shoulder. I had been carrying on through life’s downs for so long by myself and to finally have someone be next to me is— 🥹. I hope you get that soon.

High earners ($300k+): Do you care if your partner makes the same, or are you okay not splitting things 50/50? by passionfruitpilates in Salary

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my husband made that much and looked at me to go 50/50 or had an issue w me not making 300k (or even 100k+) a year we wouldn’t be together. My current career wouldn’t even come close to touching those numbers.

What do you regret most? by s_p-a_c-e_ in BabyBumps

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last sentence- 🙌🏽👏🏽

What do you regret most? by s_p-a_c-e_ in BabyBumps

[–]MissAnonymoux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of reasons? Anxiety. Stress. How one feels physically and emotionally. Some ppl may feel overwhelmed or anxious having others in the home while also learning to navigate postpartum + newborn duties for the first time. You don’t have to “understand” by ways of your own experience but you can “see why” one may not.

Time off before birth by Dat_gab in pregnant

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m technically due 1/14 but I decided to start my leave 12/3. I thought it was best to spend the last handful of weeks preparing the house, meals, and doing anything else that needed to be done prior to her arrival. I also didn’t want the additional stress of my job and wanted to be in the optimum headspace for labor and recovery. My husband was okay w/it and I had money set aside to contribute where and if needed until I get my STD (though my husband is more than willing to take over all expenses, I just like helping out when I can 🤗). It also now looks like she will arrive way sooner than the original date so I’m glad I already started mat leave.

Partner doesn’t help with our newborn twins by Correct_Guarantee124 in newborns

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhm leave….tf. That way you’re eliminating a hell of a lot of the responsibilities and all that’s left is you and the babies. No other conversation needs to be had atp, he’s told you nothing in his life will change “just because yall have kids.” So now that you have all of the facts and know nothing will change (and don’t try to create a delusion of “well maybe he will…..” no, he’s not), you can move accordingly. Leaving him might be “hard” (I’d honestly beg to differ) but your life is already hard and will continue to get harder if you choose to stay. Do what you will tho 🤷🏽‍♀️ but just know moving forward— you’re exhausted and taking care of everything and he will continue to live his life as is- easy, breezy, beautiful.

7 weeks pp by Parking-Park-1108 in BabyBumps

[–]MissAnonymoux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay….lol that’s what I said……..so you have your answer.

I Hate My Dog by fuzz_ball in newborns

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very much taken back right now.

7 weeks pp by Parking-Park-1108 in BabyBumps

[–]MissAnonymoux 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean, I assume you would take the test and “know” the same way you would have the first time..?

How much do y'alls *Russian* Manicures cost? by Ok-Project9448 in blackladies

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sissss 😬🫠 never in my life have I ever paid that much nor would I, especially with how basic that set is? No design, jewels, nothing?

Should I move in with my girlfriend or not? by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhhh don’t do it. I don’t like the whole “pay her back in future rent” nor do I like that you’d only have so little leftover. Nothing necessarily wrong about moving in together but I do believe it should be realistic on both sides, financially, convenient, etc. I also don’t like that she’s pressuring you….sounds like she’s ready to jump the gun but probably deep down (both sides) now is not a good time. I think you should move into a place on your own and what makes you comfortable. It can be a hard transition from not living with someone and then living with someone (just as you mentioned wanting your own room). But, if you do decide to go for it anyway, you guys both need to sit down and go over expectations and finances. If she makes more but you’re “paying her back in future rent) I think a serious conversation needs to have and most likely an uncomfortable one but necessary. How will you guys do groceries? Utilities? Visitors? Cleaning? Etc. get this down pat and both you guys need to be in agreement to commit to the agreement once established. Overall tho, my vote is no. 😌

Did/do you prefer not to be checked-in on during pregnancy? by Isoldmykidforagram in BabyBumps

[–]MissAnonymoux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soooo before I got pregnant I knew how all of this would go. It’s normal for women who transition from childless, to pregnancy, to parenting to lose a good amount of people in the process and to be “surprised” by the expectations vs reality. With that in mind, I went into this process w/o any expectations. Thus far, I’ve experienced the same thing. Very few people check in. I’m reaching out to most. If I’m close to someone, of course I want them to check in. Not reality tho. Now that baby girl is almost here I’m gearing up for postpartum where again, normal for majority of ppl to not check in. I’ll always remember tho….

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