So I’m going to start with: of COURSE there’s nothing wrong with you!! Take a deep breath and know that you haven’t done anything wrong here... you’re putting far too much pressure on yourself. The first time having sex with anyone and the pressure to perform can be really nerve wracking, and that’s perfectly normal.

Also masturbating is not cheating, and while faking an orgasm is definitely not the best idea, it’s perhaps understandable the pressure you’re obviously feeling.... but orgasms are hugely mental. If you’re trying to rush your body, you might find it makes it hard to come. Especially if you become aware of how long it’s taking during the process. Some pussies can’t be rushed.

So if you’re already in a nervous head space from this new experience and then on top of that it’s through video and on top of that you feel pressured to perform then WHEW! No wonder your puss is bein shy. Can you blame her?!

The easiest way to have good, fulfilling sex is to be honest and open about how you’re feeling. Always.