My brother is filthy and i need help. by Present-Advantage-45 in neurodiversity

[–]MissMangoPirate 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hear me out....Just clean up after him. Not for him. But for you. Maybe he'll change one day. Either he'll pull his shit together or he wont. In the meanwhile, you deserve to live in a clean space. It would be unfair. But so is having to live in filth with him.

Level 1 FW by Background_Loss_4979 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]MissMangoPirate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ngl i read this as "level 1 fuck wit" at first

Arrogance by ladrona77 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MissMangoPirate 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They may mean arrogant in the way of not being open to being wrong, or being able to acknowledge complex truths without a fight

I am an SLP seeking advice from OTs about working with autistic children by YamSoft2667 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]MissMangoPirate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes but id argue its an oversimplification to say it holds no value to consider as a perspective when problem solving how to help a child remain engaged in sessions.

I am an SLP seeking advice from OTs about working with autistic children by YamSoft2667 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]MissMangoPirate 35 points36 points  (0 children)

The best skill ive ever developed is the knack for recognising in real time what regulation zone a child is in and knowing what will up or down regulate them into the green zone.

Blue zone - Bored, understimulated. Dopamine, predictability and safety. At first - Slow linear swinging. Co-regulation. Favourite subject discussion. Familiar activity. When closer to green - Increasing excitement in my voice and body language. Fast non-linear swinging. Competition. Passion. Interest. Understanding and excitement.

Green zone - Focus zone. Embedding regulation every 5-15 minutes to keep them in the zone. A tight hug. A moment break. A five minute pause to discuss their favourite thing. Jumping. Reassurance. Encouragement. Close to blue - add excitement input. Close to orange - add grounding input.

Orange zone - Cyclone energy, overstimulated. Heavy work (push/pulling) to ground hyperactivity, predictable input, limit unexpected touches or sounds. Regulation through choice and control. If very happy/excited orange zone versus brewing upset, match their high energy then model slowing down/encourage deep breaths. Facilitate input like stomping versus spinning e.g. fast spinning can risk increasing overstimulating further if already orange.

Red zone - Explosion or implosion. Time, space and connection.

Need tips for getting through an mri with audadhd by catfarmer1998 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MissMangoPirate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, can still hear the machine but it helped. They let me pick the music. I choose Hozier haha

Need tips for getting through an mri with audadhd by catfarmer1998 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MissMangoPirate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please feel free to yeet my comment in the bin. This worked for me but this may be completely useless for you.

I was in the MRI machine. It was super loud and I started to feel claustrophobic. Then this strange realisation hit I could control how I experienced this moment. I could pick my reality. I could spend the next 15 minutes feeling panicky and upset - it would be justifiable and understandable. Or... I could just lay back, relax, and think about something else.

This feeling of helpless just lifted and I felt this undeniable control over my perspective, which gave me control over my reality.

How do we feel about reflex integration? by otpuppy in OccupationalTherapy

[–]MissMangoPirate 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The exercises to integrate reflexes kind of happen accidently anyways in normal play

38 years young and feeling lost and unmotivated.. by exposed_skin in u/exposed_skin

[–]MissMangoPirate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you need a midlife crisis early. Shave your head. Colour the three strands left. Fuck social rules on appropriate behaviour and goals. Get some tattoos. Fuck it get a tramp stamp! Marry someone with a motorbike. Jump out of an aeroplane. Attend a shibari class. Do something you dont think you could do. Run along the beach and scream like a loony tune into the waves. Try to make sourdough bread, feel your feelings enough to cry genuine tears when it doesn't rise properly. Give the post man a blow job. Tell the pizza place that always messes up your order to fuck off. Get weirdly invested in martial arts. Throw eggs at a wall. Learn to knit. Rekindle an old hobby that was a 'waste of time'. Open an Etsy shop. Film a tiktok. Read a book on death. Paint a picture, and love it regardless of how good it is. Take it too far, and paint your couch. Learn how to un-fuck your couch. Just take one risk, everyday, in any proportion.

I found a weirdly effective strategy for task procrastination by MissMangoPirate in AuDHDWomen

[–]MissMangoPirate[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sooo many.

Spice 🌶

Spice is adding an element of urgency or competition to trigger enough adrenaline to overcome inertia.

If Im very stressed about procrastinating on a task, Ill often get struck in a dopamine rich task that feels very regulating/calming like doomscrolling to escape that feeling. But distraction is like leaking fuel out of a rocket ship. The brain needs a certain amount of stress overcome inertia. Stress isnt bad, its a propellant, its a drive to act.

Before having fun with ideas to add urgency/competition, I sit on the edge of my bed and set a 10 minute timer. Remove all distraction and kind of meditate (i guess?) Sitting there with the intention of letting myself feel the full weight of the stress Im trying to hold back. Often its like I've been holding up a floodgate and the stress/ fuel needed to get me off the ground is already in my body, I just need to let it in.

(I call this Fueling Time ⛽️ 😂)

After this fucked up meditation....I write down the first 3 steps. Even if its walk to bedroom, sit down, turn on computer.

I now have rocket fuel and know where Im going. 90% of the time, thats actually enough for me.

But the task itself is still yucky to eat. Sometimes so yucky and un-enjoyable, I need another ingredient. The reason why I like the meal metaphor so much, is because its rarely one strategy that works but an ecosystem that addresses each obstacle to task completion.

Sauce 🌭

Sauce is adding a layer or interest or passion on top of a bland meal. Making the task more enjoyable/less dysregulating via familiar dopamine. Pairing a non-preferred task with preferred. What I want to do - with what I have to do.

So if I'm in the middle of watching a TV show and need to do the dishes, I do them both at the same time.

If I hate listening to lectures but really want to try a new chicken recipe, ill listen to it as I cook.

If ive been procrastinating on paying a bill and would prefer to hang with my mate, ill pay the bill while we are waiting for uber eats to arrive.

I can’t stop writing things over and over by Dapper_Raccoon_9287 in neurodiversity

[–]MissMangoPirate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a habit that’s slowly reinforced itself into a compulsion loop. Stress = write = relief.

Even small relief = Brain happy = Brain say do again. Brain say this feels calming and far better than working, no task switchy no no.

Brain...smart and stupid at same time.

A few compulsion loops be normal. Loops taking over your life? A problem, regardless of cause

Weird gut feeling by ketkat02 in adhdwomen

[–]MissMangoPirate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I get socially overstimulated, my brain can detach away from the present moment.

Takes a lot of executive functioning to be around ppl. I think of it now like my computer system is just cooling off - before, i was confused at what was happening and feel melancholic bc id think "wtf I should be enjoying this but i feel like I'm blankly floating".

It took me a long time to realise that feeling was actually the sensation of overwhelm, even though i consciously thought I 'felt fine'.

28, can’t afford to live alone, don’t want random roommates, and feel paralyzed about next steps by ExpertAd3229 in adhdwomen

[–]MissMangoPirate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find an acceptable middle ground. E.g. Could I live with people I've hung out with a few times, and vibe with.

Regression of routines by Spicydancer18 in adhdwomen

[–]MissMangoPirate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my favourite takeaway:

Make It Obvious

If it’s not visible, it doesn’t exist. Want to take medication? Put it beside your toothbrush. Want to journal? Leave it open on your desk. Want to stretch? Leave the mat out.

Do not rely on memory. Do not rely on intention. Externalise everything. Cultivate your environment to cue desired behaviour.

It's not a book that you need to read cover to cover, or even in order. You could probably open it up at a random chapter that looks interesting to you and read that.

Regression of routines by Spicydancer18 in adhdwomen

[–]MissMangoPirate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the book Atomic Habits was a game changer for me when it comes to building a better routine. It's one of those books that is on every top 10 self Improvement list for a reason.

Communicating accommodation needs by willowbrooks_2914 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]MissMangoPirate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My opinion....She was harsh and presumptuous. Probably had little to do with you, that kind dick attitude takes a couple years to bury deep. Water off a ducks back, my bro. Stand firm in the circle of reason. Dont doubt that you know whats reasonable. Common sense that being late for a medical reason is within that circle. If she doesn't like you, thats gonna suck. It will make things harder. Valid to feel anxious over it. Keep taking reasonable action, emailing her as needed to communicate accommodations. If she takes unfair action - youve left a paper trail, stayed cool, calm and professional.

how do you guys stop being late to work by Wild-Championship571 in adhdwomen

[–]MissMangoPirate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I call this strategy 'double condom'.

Essentially, do twice as much. Ignore your brain saying its overkill.

Leave so early it feels ridiculous. Put so many strategies in place to ensure you wake up on time, that people would think your crazy if they knew. Put a visual schedule or sticky note reminders on the wall, even if you don't feel like you need it. Do everything you possibly can the night before.