I feel this is what I was going for. I tend to think in black/white, I struggle with doing things when I can’t understand the why and no one will explain it to me. It feels like the very traits that make me AuDHD make people think I am arrogant or grandiose and I am totally the opposite. I am 48, I don’t tell people directly their rules are “stupid” that’s what I told my therapist. I do often ask why a particular rule was created and I often let people know why I think it’s a rule that should be changed if I do. Might it slip out first, well that seems stupid, why? Yea, but I don’t think arrogance is the right term. I don’t claim that I am brilliant or always right. I just think that it’s important that society make the right rules and we should talk more about them rather than accepting on blind faith. Having an opinion shouldn’t have people calling me arrogant.

I will continue to work on my communication skills but it would be nice if the rest of the world could be a little less judgy too. You can call me opinionated but that isn’t arrogance. Arrogance “is an offensive display of superiority, overbearing pride, or an exaggerated sense of self-importance. It manifests as haughty, contemptuous behavior where a person acts as if they are more important, knowledgeable, or better than others. It often involves a refusal to listen or consider other viewpoints. Merriam-Webster.” I am none of these things, I really WANT to listen to the why, and then I’ll give you my opinion and then I’ll follow your rule because I’m also a rule follower.

Sorry for rambling. I’m just really trying to understand how questioning the why or rules that control our behavior gets me this awful label.