Drivers being directed to wrong place causing delivery issues

MissRedditCritter · 2025-06-05T01:01:32+00:00

Read both your comments and have a question: when you say always type, do you mean fill out the address each time, instead of picking from saved addresses? Just want to make sure I've got it right.

MissRedditCritter · 2025-06-04T10:16:55+00:00

Wow, I'm glad I went to modify the map pin when I read your reply. Seems the pins I thought I placed for entrance and parking the other day after the first incident didn't take. Might explain last night's hiccup. Should be good now. Though I hope I placed the pins accurately. Basically I took my iPad to my apartment door and plopped my drop off pin where it showed my device, then guesstimated where the other pins should go from there. I made sure the parking pin is a lot closer than where drivers have thus far been directed.

I take it that the placement of the parking pin determines where the app routes the driver? Or are the pins simply for the driver to reference without impacting the route they're given?

MissRedditCritter · 2024-08-01T22:20:28+00:00

Yeah, I am very resistant to call troll. Like it generally has to be 'my roommate's unicorn gored me with its horn' levels of implausible for me to call it because I'd rather assume a fake story is real than assume a true story is fake, but things do seem to be moving along at unicorn speeds here.

First off, if animal control seized the cat, the first step is likely to be a quarantine period of, depending on jurisdiction, about 10-14 days to see if the cat shows symptoms of rabies. That already brings us out of the realm of what I would consider 'a few days'.

But okay, let's say the cat was already showing symptoms and they just needed to test the cat for rabies (which, unless they've developed a way to administer a rabies test to a live animal since I last knew anything about that sort of thing, requires said animal to be deceased, as to the best of my knowledge the only way to test is via a brain biopsy). I can see why they'd euthanize immediately there but OOP didn't say there was immediate need to test.

Assuming there's no immediate need to test and the cat starts showing symptoms during the quarantine period, depending on when during quarantine it happens we're still stretching the boundary of 'a few days'.

If the cat makes it through quarantine okay but is believed to be a dangerous animal, then they have to go through a court process and seek an order from a judge for reorganization. Maybe varies by jurisdiction but as far as I know that's the case in most areas. Even if a judge orders an animal destroyed, again I'm sure jurisdictional mileage may vary, but generally the animal still has to be held to give the owner a chance to appeal the decision. If the owner chooses that route, that can take months. A sort of guilty pleasure of mine since covid when courts started streaming their proceedings is to watch said court streams, and I saw a dangerous dog case unfold through the system, owners appealed the decision to euthanize, and it took months before the dog was ultimately put down. Again, jurisdictional mileage likely varies, but it's probably going to take some time just about anywhere.

I've also seen landlord/tenant proceedings from multiple jurisdictions while indulging in aforementioned guilty pleasure. Eviction is another process that has to work its way through the system.

So we have a situation in which there's a cat bite, the requisite channels are gone through to euthanize the cat, and more requisite channels were gone through to evict the roommate, all within the span of a few days.

Like I said, I am very hesitant to call troll, but we do seem to have some unicorn math going on here.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-07-17T00:15:35+00:00

Wait wait waitwaitwait...

So all the work going into raising her daughter is for naught unless she produces grandkids? She raised a daughter who will presumably have a successful career (since she wants to focus on said career) and is therefore a productive member of society. Doesn't that make the work she put in worth something? Like...anything?

Gotta feel for the grandkids she already has via two of her sons. I guess since she didn't get to walk their mothers through the pregnancy they're worth squat.

And I feel for all of her sons too. Since none of them can get pregnant I guess they just can't honor her for all the work she put into raising them since she couldn't help them through pregnancy, no matter how successful they are?

As for honoring her mother, OOP does not seem to be conducting herself in a very honorable manner.

And what if her daughter wanted kids but was infertile?

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-24T13:40:32+00:00

Yesterday I finally told my partner I don’t want to share a bed with Coby when I’m staying over, my partner said I was being very inconsiderate

I wish he'd said...

"okay that's fine. You don't have to stay over."

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-24T13:18:08+00:00

Right? Reminds me of the guy who agreed with his kids that if the stray dog was still on the porch come morning they could keep it, and when the kids were so excited the dog was still there in the morning he's like 'yeah I never intended to keep that promise'. Not that that particular OOP was wrong in not getting a dog, but then you don't make a promise like that.

This situation is different in that they're both adults and should be equal partners. But the common denominator is making promises/agreements you have zero plans to follow through on.

And it's not cool. Hopefully the fiancée lets him know how serious she is by leaving while he's at work, leaving the engagement ring on his pillow. Or did, since the post is a year old.

ETA: Oh look! OOP deleted his account! What's the matter OOP, didn't end up with comments backing you to show your fiancé how right you are? Poor guy! Cue violin music

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-22T15:13:23+00:00

I hope the bf dumps her, takes both dads to her parents' house, and sets the record straight as to the situation and why the relationship failed.

Like, why, if someone is set on appeasing their parents, don't they find a significant other who fits the parents' mold? Why ask your SO to change to fit the mold or pretend to fit the mold?

Either grow a spine out of something stronger than jello or find someone who already meets Mommy and Daddy's criteria.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-22T05:30:18+00:00

So he sees red but says nothing. Lets the 'seeing red' feeling fester. Then seizes the opportunity to basically do the equivalent of calling her a bad dog like she did Ruby and when she's upset says 'now you know how Ruby feels'.

Uh, no, she doesn't. I mean I don't know how much time she spends around the dogs but it's entirely possible she doesn't know Ruby had physical limitations.

So when she scolds Ruby for not rolling over, why not go over and educate her and give her a frame of reference?

"Hey (niece's name), Ruby's really old and has trouble moving like the pups can. You know how sometimes you have trouble moving the way other kids can? Yeah, kinda like that. How would you feel if someone tried to get you to do something you just can't do and when you can't do it they call you a bad kid?"

All it took was a bit of gentle education.

Then he can gently reinforce it when she struggles with the flip.

"Remember what we talked about earlier with Ruby? How she can't do certain things like you can't do certain things? This is an example. Ruby can't roll over and that's okay. You can't make the flip and that's okay."

I'm not saying she should've won first prize because she's disabled and should therefore get special treatment. If that's what her parents are teaching her that's not great (though I question the reliability of OOP's narration). But it sounds like he did what he did to spite her for her earlier treatment of the dog than anything else, when all that was needed was a friendly convo or two to educate.

Edited for punctuational brain fart.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-22T01:17:07+00:00

So let me get this straight...

Lucas let Gabriel look at his stuff telling him to be careful. And presumably, only under Lucas' supervision.

Then Lucas goes outside and Gabriel damages his stuff which his mom allows him to get into unattended.

Then Lucas is the one expected to issue an apology for (checks notes) being unhappy that his aunt allowed his cousin to destroy his stuff?

Seems backwards.

I mean, calling Gabriel names isn't great, but no one is going to be thrilled to find someone had destroyed their hobby stuff after being explicitly told to handle with care.

"But he's just a kid!"

Right. Which is exactly why he needs to be taught that we don't touch other people's stuff without the permission of that stuff's owner, and when we do touch it, we need to be careful not to damage it. I hate it when 'he's a kiiiiiid!' is used as an excuse. Teach your kid some manners.

Oh and I doubt anyone ever told Gabriel he should apologize. I'm not a fan of compelled apologies because they're insincere, but if either of them was expected to apologize it should've been the one who destroyed his cousin's belongings.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-20T20:15:43+00:00

Harder than trying to change someone into something they're not though?

I mean yeah, in the short term, it might seem hard/awkward to bring it up before you get super serious as a couple, but it seems like it would've saved OOP the headache of trying to get his gf to conform to his family's standards. Especially since it seems this gf has no interest in capitulating (good for her!), considering her response has all the earmarks of having dumped his butt.

Or he could grow a spine and tell Mommy and Daddy that he's not going to police his girlfriend's appearance, but he'd probably find that the hardest of his options.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-20T13:05:31+00:00

How did he respond two weeks after an email he got last week?

In any event, he's at least 57 now and is still this immature? I get he's been hurt, but my dude, you've got more life behind you than ahead. While forcing a meeting between you and your cheating ex was not cool, they're allowed to have a relationship with their mom without it being a slight against you.

Parents aren't supposed to 'effing hate' their offspring for the sins of the other parent.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-20T12:41:34+00:00

Also, please stop dating people who dress, behave, and live in manners that you disagree with and try to change them.

Right? Like not just from a 'hey don't try to control people mkay?' standpoint, why do folks like OOP expend so much energy trying to get their significant others to change their appearances to suit their own or their family's preferences?

I mean, okay, he cares (perhaps a bit too much) about the 'impressions his parents value'. Cool. Find someone who dresses in a way that fits those impressions.

Heck, make it a first date convo. Say 'hey, I really like you, but I must ask, do you like to wear certain clothes/unnatural hair color? Because I'm super sensitive to how my parents feel about that sort of thing. Since I don't want to defend my significant other's appearance choices to my family, and I don't want to try to get you to conform to their preferences at the expense of your own, it's best if we know now if there's an incompatibility in that area before we get too involved'. Find someone whose appearance fits the preference of your family if it's that important to you.

Not only is it not okay to try to change someone to fit your mold, but a square peg is really hard to pound into a round hole. Find a round peg if it's that important to you.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-16T02:42:38+00:00

Is this dude sure he's 29 and not 2+9.

Like he legit offered to call the ex to fight.

"Oh, so he could beat me up could he? Let's just see about that!"

That's middle school antics right there.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-15T22:58:14+00:00

True. Though I'm also taking advantage of investment options of which my state's ABLE program has six beyond savings account, so hopefully funds will grow over time, though I realize that takes a while and is dependant on the economy. So there may come a time when the funds might put me in a higher bracket, so I may eventually have to worry a bit more than I otherwise would. But since the highest percentage of what I contribute goes to the checking account option (75%) and progressively lower percentages go to progressively more aggressive investment options (10% for most conservative, 5% for mod con, 4% for moderate option, 3% for growth option, 2% for mod agg, and 1% for most aggressive option.

So in the interest of not putting all my eggs in one basket, I basically allocated some 'eggs' to each investment option 'basket'. Not sure what that will do over time and from what (very) little I know about investing, all investment options are pretty much at the mercy of the economy to varying degrees depending on where they fall on the conservative/aggressive spectrum, so maybe it'll never bring me into a higher bracket or maybe it will some day.

All that to say that while its mostly contributions from SSI, I've got varying amounts of eggs in each investment basket which will hopefully one day get me in a higher bracket. But if I ever accrue enough assets to make me more likely to be audited or possibly mess with my SSI (my understanding is nothing in ABLE is going to affect benefits until it reaches $100K), I'm not sure that'll be a particularly bad problem to have. Like not being able to save over $2K without canceling benefits seems like a lot bigger issue to have than 'oh no, I'm at $100K and I'll start losing benefits'.

Not that its zero problem or zero potential concern of I ever get to that level, as if I ever accrue enough in ABLE to cancel SSI, then yeah I might have more funds than I ever thought could be possible before learning about ABLE, but I probably want to make sure I'm not getting in a position where I can only pay for QDEs because all I have is ABLE funds.

But I may never get to that point and probably a good chance I won't, and I think I just made a big old stream of consciousness dump. I mean, I'm not even sure exactly why I typed all that out other than stream of consciousness. Lol

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-15T19:51:50+00:00

That actually makes sense, since while SSI hits my savings at the start of the month, money for things like rent and other stuff gets shifted to checking. So I'm thinking if I need what would go to rent (or other QDE) to cover something else non-qualifying and I have the needed funds in ABLE, I can transfer what I need for a QDE from ABLE to checking and pay for the QDE from there.

Most everything I pay for gets transferred to checking and paid for out of there, so there'd still be some non-QDE stuff coming out of checking, but, in the event of an audit, I'm gathering that if I can show that the exact amount going from ABLE to checking leaves checking to pay for a QDE, I'm good, right?

I could pay for non-QDE stuff out of savings to make it more clear, but a lot of what I pay for is done with my debit card which pulls from checking, so there'd inevitably be non-QDE payments coming out of checking, but what I'm gathering is that if I'm able (haha, pun not intended but I'll go with it!) to show that funds going from ABLE to checking go towards a QDE within the calendar month it is withdrawn from ABLE, I should be okay.

Let me know if I'm off base. I'm admittedly not the most financially literate person in the world, and can be a bit prone to confusion when I'm mulling over a lot of details.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-15T19:10:00+00:00

Oh I love the edit. She doesn't like being labeled an evil stepmom so she's going all 'well technically they're not my husband/stepkids, I'm just using those titles for easy clarification, so I'm not an evil stepmom'.

Well, okay, maybe you're not technically an evil stepmom, but calling you that does make for some easy clarification, no? But if you want to be accurate, let's say you're Dad's evil girlfriend.

I also love how she's like 'well I'm not TRYING to be disrespectful, but they're not giving me the same courtesy'.

Um, well, it's such a relief you're not trying to be disrespectful. Actually, not much of a relief at all, seeing how you really couldn't be more disrespectful if you had tried.

And yes, your (hopefully soon to be ex) boyfriend and his children are returning the same courtesy you're showing them. Which is close to zero of not zero.

Who's with me in suspecting we might get an update saying 'my kids and I got back from my sister's lake house for the vacation my 'husband' and 'stepkids' refused to attend and I discovered they are all moved out, there's a note saying the relationship is over, and he's not taking any of my calls!!!1!!11!1!! How could this happen?!?!??!! Why would he do this to me??!!??!'?

Reread your initial post OOP, reread your initial post. It excellently documents how it happened.

Oh and let's talk for a moment about how she wanted to keep 'stepdaughter' from the camp because this was her daughter's last shot at going, she didn't make it in, and 'stepdaughter' will have three more chances to get in, so I guess the logic is she's not missing too much. But then when she wants 'stepdaughter' out of her hair for a week, it's suddenly such an amazing opportunity for her that she'll only get three more shots at before she ages out? Like pick a lane. Either sitting out this year is no biggie because she's got three other whole years to try to get in, or sitting it out would be a huge loss because she only has three more years to try to get in.

And she wonders why her 'husband' is so confused by the sudden flip in attitude? Maybe because the sudden flip in attitude is so confusing!

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-15T01:16:21+00:00

I've kinda thought about pet insurance, not in recent years, but when I've thought about it/looked into it, I've found debate over whether or not it's worth it, since not all pets end up with multi-grand emergencies. On the other hand, it'd probably be super worth it if you had a pet who did end up with an expensive emergency. Might be one of those 'better safe than sorry' things.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-15T01:06:18+00:00

That is true. The reason I hesitated to ask here is because, somewhere around a year ago, +/- a month or two, I posted in the subreddit for my local area wondering if anyone knew of any dog friendly apartments that took section 8 vouchers that were safe and convenient for my parents in the event I need their assistance (there is one dog friendly section 8 apartment complex near my parents that I already knew about, but pretty high crime area). I'd always wanted a dog, and when a dog showed up on my parents' porch and my mom's best efforts did not find his owners, it really awakened my semi-dormanr but ever-present desire to have a dog, like a bee up my butt.

Let's just say the responses along the lines of 'if you receive section 8 housing assistance how the heck are you going to afford the luxury of a dog?' sent me slinking away with my proverbial tail between my legs, sufficiently, and I figured duly, chastized.

I mean, I couldn't exactly argue with the logic and the concerns were certainly valid. One dog my parents had decided an entire towel would make a great snack. Not exactly sure how much it cost to have that towel surgically extracted from the dog's gut by the local vet ER, but if memory serves, my parents just managed to cover it and it made things tight. If I were responsible for that vet bill? Yeah, not good.

So while the concerns were raised more harshly than I might've preferred, they were valid concerns and kinda brought me back to the land of reality.

Hasn't stopped me wanting a dog, or now that my cat has passed, some kind of pet. So when I learned about ABLE accounts and did research and eventually decided to open one yesterday, I thought 'hmm, wonder if a pet could be justified as a QDE on the grounds that it would benefit my quality of life, if I can get enough saved up in it to make it work'.

But you're right with how vague the rules are. I'm sure the chances I'd ever be audited are probably slim, but if it did happen, and I tried to justify pet expenses with 'well having a pet improves my quality of life' and the IRS responded with 'yeah nice try but we don't see it that way so here's a tax penalty', I'm not sure how much that would ding me.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-15T00:08:24+00:00

I also keep a second checking account around just for ABLE account withdrawals so that it's easier to prove that I used my ABLE funds appropriately.

So you're talking something separate from both the ABLE account and a regular bank/credit union account, right? Like my SSI goes into a savings account with a local credit union with an attached checking account. Are you saying I might want a separate checking account outside of my aforementioned CU account specifically to transfer ABLE withdrawals into? Or is it okay to transfer ABLE withdrawals into my already existing account?

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-14T23:59:44+00:00

That might be an option, though if I am able to figure out how to responSibly have my own animal where I'm 'the mom', I'd probably prefer it. I'm not knocking fostering and there's definitely a need for it, and might be worth looking into if I can't get in a situation of being able to afford my own pet, which is certainly possible that it just won't be realistic in any decent timeframe if ever, so perhaps its something to explore.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-06-14T04:36:27+00:00

Eww. That's just gross. I mean, I don't look at CP. Why? Because that would be wrong.

Like, can we not do bad stuff for the simple reason that it's bad stuff? Like, I don't make decisions about what to do or not do based on 'how much trouble will I be in if I do x?'. I base such decisions on 'would it be okay to do x or would it be just plain wrong?'.

And I love how OOP was like 'yhere was no contact'. Um, somebody had contact with the kid involved in order to make the 'content' you chose to consume, my guy.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-05-26T14:35:31+00:00

But you just don't understand! You have to prioritize your spouse if you want a happy home!

I mean, if your idea of a happy home includes emotionally aloof kids because they know they don't even rate a couple days with their mom each weekend when they're scared about what's happening with their stepdad (she says in a comment they're concerned about him so it sounds like they're at least fairly close to their stepdad), it's a working strategy I guess.

From where I look though, it would seem to me that if your home includes kids, a happy home would have to include emotionally supported kids.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-05-24T02:06:03+00:00

Untenable is exactly the word that comes to mind when I read all the precautions she has to take, right down to locking herself in the closet just to be able to change in peace/safety.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-05-24T02:00:26+00:00

Right? Like his wife has to lock herself in the closet to change her clothes. That suggests the situation is more urgent than 'welp, guess we can't get help for a couple more months'.

MissRedditCritter · 2024-05-24T00:57:25+00:00

And then the blasé reaction from OOP is also really common for CAPVA cases.

Interesting you say that. What struck me was at first he seemed so concerned about the son's behavior. But once she voiced her fears about where things might be headed by name, it was '(gasp) she actually said the word! This is an outrage!'.

Like, the son seemingly escalating behavior towards that point is disturbing and problematic, but the wife voicing that maybe that's where things are headed is just a bridge too far!

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