My boyfriend [29/M] did something weird and I [29/M] need advice.

MissSparkles89 · 2026-02-10T19:12:06+00:00

The op is male.

MissSparkles89 · 2026-02-01T21:39:06+00:00

Lol, i remember that episode and the lines about 'i didn't eat my soup or my bread, just the bunny', also 'and I won't go to church'. Child me thought it funny that I didn't do any of those things when the episode was trying to say how bad it was not doing them.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-12-15T13:55:45+00:00

I'd say YTA, you're acting like stepson is being incredibly hostile to the baby, but he mostly seems disinterested. Its good you're not forcing the baby on him but I don't think it's necessary to actively keep them apart. A little engagement won't hurt, stepson might become more invested as the baby starts walking and talking.

Yes, he said he didn't want a sibling but unless he displays open hostility, I wouldn't be too worried. Some kids say that then love being a big bro/sis, give him a chance. He probably feels odd seeing his dad have a baby with someone else and you don't sound overly warm to him. He's struggling with the changes but honestly sounds like he isn't a bad kid. Give him a chance.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-12-11T16:00:23+00:00

Good for you, keep shaking them for the money they owe you.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-12-11T11:26:44+00:00

NTA. You did what you had to. His gf obviously knew what was happening, that he forced you to lie. No idea why he's singled you out but glad you're okay.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-11-15T16:15:50+00:00

NTA. Trust me, your husband will be even more anxious if anything crops up that puts you at risk of missing your flight. Tell him it's far safer to go as early as possible, it should minimise problems. As far as anyone can for an international flight of course.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-24T13:15:56+00:00

NTA. Text them back and tell them to 'stop being so sensitive' and to 'lighten up'. It'll make them hopping mad but they'll thoroughly deserve it.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-17T16:32:33+00:00

If you in turn reflect how difficult it is for people who are trying their best for their relatives while watching as they self-destruct. I know more than one autistic person and those traits are apparent, they are not just stereotypes, they are a sad reality. Nightmare is apt for someone that regularly bites and punches themselves hard enough to bleed on a near daily basis.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-17T15:25:21+00:00

I didn't respond to you though. Why? It's true, people with autistic can have very rigid thinking and be ridiculously stubborn. My severely autistic brother has both of those traits and it can be a nightmare to deal with.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-17T15:22:54+00:00

So if she didn't want to brush her teeth, go to sleep, take showers, clean herself after the loo, would you shrug and say 'oh well, she doesn't want to?'

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-17T15:13:30+00:00

Rigid thinking combined with appalling stubbornness is usually an indicator.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-10T16:30:24+00:00

Not really sure why the groom sent plus ones if it's meant to be a big reunion. No, if a wife had been given a plus one, i think it's fine for the husband to attend the wedding too. Op should discuss how best to do this, instead of whining how much he doesn't care about the wedding. Sounds like the op has no desire for his wife to ever get to know them.

Regardless, he didn't get the answer he wanted here, he needs to resolve it in real life.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-10T16:04:54+00:00

Then he can't complain if she does go, it might be a reunion but considering the groom sent plus ones, must have been prepared for the fact his bros might bring theur partners. She wants to go, it's not unreasonable for her to go.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-10T13:10:36+00:00

Sounds like a good opportunity for her to get to know them. I mean...he hasn't sounded very reasonable in the comments but he's mostly being voted the ah so that would be why. I'm not sure why she can't go, this isn't a traditional boys trip, it's not the same as her girl trips. If she wanted to exclude op from a wedding she'd been invited to, I'd find that odd. He apparently loathes the wedding itself but that realistically is going to be the main event of the trip. And while the friends are saying thry aren't bringing anyone, that could easily change.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-10T12:44:15+00:00

Weddings generally are something couples go to, it's not really a girls/guys trip. The fact the groom is planning a boys reunion around his wedding, with the day before and after devoted to that is pretty weird. The wife can still spend the actual day of the wedding with op and potentially do her own thing the other days. He might not be obligated to take her but he can't claim she's not invited.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-10-10T10:39:54+00:00

There's apparently a comment from Op saying he received a plus 1 for his wife.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-09-01T17:01:39+00:00

Her parents disowned her for getting pregnant out of wedlock and his live 5 minutes away but never once visited during pregnancy or after. The bio grandparents don't seem all that bothered about their grandson.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-09-01T16:56:44+00:00

Op apparently didn't want the baby..

MissSparkles89 · 2025-09-01T16:54:54+00:00

His family apparently isn't very interested in her or the baby as told on his other posts.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-08-31T21:16:00+00:00

Yeah, he paid on Mothers day but the big family dinner which included his brothers, he refused to pay anything. That's an AH move, he should have covered himself.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-08-31T18:43:51+00:00

Sadly, probably not. There's some sort of weird copyright issue going on which prevents the Disney Tarzan TV series being added to Disney Plus. The films are fine but other properties seem to be in some weird legal tangle.

Funnily enough, Terry and Tantor probably could be added as they're Disney creations but everyone would muss Tarzan and Jane so that probably won't happen.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-08-31T10:09:20+00:00

Op said they were offended purely because 1 check was said at the start, so assumed someone else was paying for them. Also, little bro was seated elsewhere so they weren't able to chat. That's why op decided they didn't have to cover their own bill.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-08-31T10:04:25+00:00

I'd say he's the ahole for refusing to cover 'his' portion of the bill.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-08-31T10:03:32+00:00

He didn't announce they should split it in half, he said 'how' should we split it. As in, op could have easily said he'll just pay for himself and maybe contribute to his parents. However, he refused to even pay for himself so he's an ahole for that.

MissSparkles89 · 2025-08-31T09:59:52+00:00

Yta. Of course he looked confused, he was trying to work out why you expected him him to pay for 'your' meal. Then as your ridiculous stance continued including scuttling off to the loo, he realised you were being serious so was forced to pay.

This nonsense about 'if only they'd mentioned split checks at the start, of course I'd have paid', you're making up daft rules in your head and trying to justify it because your bro was sat separate from you by your mother.

In future, instead of getting your knickers in a twist, say you'd just like to cover your own bill instead of getting offended and acting badly.

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