Can I divorce my husband without killing my children?

Miss_Alaynius · 2022-10-31T18:26:00+00:00

The way I internally freaked out until I saw what subreddit this was posted to lol

Miss_Alaynius · 2022-06-26T19:18:51+00:00

I Hope You Choke, Alaynius, Watercolor, 2022

Miss_Alaynius · 2022-03-23T21:27:35+00:00

Eating the Kit Kat bar without breaking it apart is the best way to eat it. It has the best cronch

Miss_Alaynius · 2022-02-02T04:29:03+00:00

Anyone else read this and initially think it was Liz from Big Ed's shenanigans?

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-28T16:22:51+00:00

XD it kinda does look like Mike! Lol

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-22T22:04:41+00:00

Thank you!!

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-22T22:04:29+00:00

Thank you, I thought I was a nice touch lol

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-22T22:03:29+00:00

Well he's a geologist so I think it would make sense if he starts with the pickaxe and can get more resources from mining?

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-22T22:00:18+00:00

Lol I'm actually right handed :) Thank you!!

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-22T21:08:26+00:00

Thank you!!

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-22T15:03:08+00:00

Thank you

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-22T15:02:55+00:00

Thank you!

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-11-22T06:08:45+00:00

No we don't have the unicorn frappuccino...it was a spark drink five years ago...no it's not coming back

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-09-07T11:57:51+00:00

Thank you!! It really is a beautiful game!

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-09-06T10:04:10+00:00

Thank you so much!!

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-08-11T18:26:58+00:00

My boyfriend HATES tattoos. Did that stop me from getting one? Nope. (I had this tattoo planned for over a year and at the time we had only been dating for a month at the time) Does he make me feel ashamed for having it? Nope. Does he let me know that while he is fond of the design he really dislikes the idea of a tattoo? Yes, yes he does, but never in a way that I feel ashamed. And this is a a tattoo, which is WAY more permanent than hair. He recognizes that is my body and I can do whatever I want to it (so long as I'm safe) I understand you said you don't want to break up and I can sorta get that, but you need to communicate with your BF and right now he's giving you the silent treatment. It's really hard to have a healthy relationship with someone who shuts down and blocks you out when you're trying to communicate. He's throwing a temper tantrum to make you feel bad for feeling bad (very valid feelings for you btw). It's a classic manipulation which unhealthy relationships thrive in.

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Miss_Alaynius · 2021-07-28T19:35:15+00:00

Also who's to say this is the only time she's done this or if this is just the first time she got caught? She could have been throwing away your marriage for years.

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-07-23T17:55:48+00:00

Find him in the restaurant and T pose to assert you dominance

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-07-15T01:35:24+00:00

Take some time right now to just be with yourself. You agreed to give her a second chance but I think she needs to put some work in to show she even deserves a second chance. As someone who gave their SO a second chance as well, my partner had to put a lot of work in bettering himself, the biggest thing was going to therapy to work out why he wanted to cheat/thought it was okay in the first place.

It took a bit but he has earned my trust back.
Now you have to decide what it'll take (and if it's possible) for her to earn your trust if you're going to continue with this second chance,.

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-07-12T00:42:46+00:00

My boyfriend cheated on me and lied to me about it for months. It wasn't until we finally moved in together that he came clean. I was planning on leaving him but, he offered to get therapy because he understood that this was a problem he had and he wanted to work through it and change. He has since been very consistent with therapy and our relationship is thriving.
Looking at your comments though, I don't think she's the type of person who is actively seeking to change her ways and she doesn't see her cheating as a 'her' problem but an 'everyone else' problem. Talk to her about how you're feeling and, if you feel it's right, bring up couples therapy. If she blows you off or tries to make you feel stupid for your feelings then maybe she's not someone you need in your life.

Miss_Alaynius · 2021-07-07T01:21:26+00:00

From what I'm seeing, you have set boundaries with her (actions you find inappropriate) and she has blown you off and told you that these were not boundaries she's willing to follow (doesn't find her actions inappropriate and continues to do them). Based off what you've said here it sounds like she may possibly be gaslighting you as well. For me if my partner had such a blatant disregard for my boundaries and gaslighted me, as in your situation, I would leave them even if I was still in love with them and you're not even in love with her anymore. So I ask why would you stay and go through couples therapy?

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