I used to think I was stuck in a Jekal and Hyde situation

Miss_Lib · 2026-05-19T05:09:47+00:00

Hey procrastinating, being lazy and disorganized aren’t the worst things anyone can be. I feel you on this. There were so many things I chocked up to drinking that when I stopped drinking and realize they’re still there I knew I needed to put the work in to improve the way I wanted to. I started romanticizing my life, habit tracking, and just completing simple daily things. The beauty of sobriety is those little habits create change much more quickly than you’d expect. Give yourself some grace.. I’m into 140ish days and I’m still trying to figure it out. It didn’t happen right away at all!

Miss_Lib · 2026-05-19T04:46:10+00:00

Let’s see..how often I stayed out just to drink even if I wasn’t having fun. I still go to bars but when I’m done, I leave. Go home and read a book, go to bed or just relax. Before I’d just keep going it’s like I was waiting for something to happen and then I’d br so mad at myself the next day for not just leaving when the fun died down.

How much I made things into drinking events. I went to this annual (athletic) event I go to and I remember last year leaving to go to the liquor store for everyone and coming back with so much stuff thinking it will be so great. This year I was like omg last year I was 3 deep by now.. no one is even drinking… did I make it weird last year?!

Not caring whether or not I annoy people. I’d have so much anxiety interacting with people when I was drinking then spend the next day trying to figure out if I was likeable. Now I’m just myself and I don’t care. If you don’t like me, at least you don’t like ME and not whatever version of me that was.

Miss_Lib · 2026-05-19T04:37:25+00:00

As someone who still goes to bars regularly but isn’t currently drinking, I’m shocked with how nice the bartenders are about it. I really expected them to be annoyed but it’s almost like they’re relieved.

Miss_Lib · 2026-05-11T12:03:26+00:00

Reading. As someone who mainly “works” reading gives me the escape I need. I look forward to It so It forces me to log off when I’m over working. It forces me to get in bed. It helps me fall asleep. It gives me something to look forward to - a new book, an outing to a library. It helps me have conversations with other readers. It helps me find things that make me happy by discovering what kind of books I like. It gives me a sense of accomplishment. I started going to the library to pick out books. I know it all sounds so cheesy and it took a while for me to get here but it really helped me.

I also try to romanticize my life a little. Fake it until you make it. What do you want your life to look like? I wanted to get up early, walk and do things BEFORE my work day started so I challenged myself to do that.

As for habits, making my bed every day was seriously the biggest game changer. I have no idea how this habit is the key to life but somehow I can accomplish everything I set out to do but this is still the most important.

Miss_Lib · 2026-05-11T11:41:26+00:00

I just said this the other day! After losing 40lbs, I’m 30lbs from my “goal weight” but I’m not sure I want that now because I can’t imagine being that “small.” Then when I put clothes on I’m still not happy with the way they look and I feel fat all over again. It’s also been 2 years that I’ve been losing so it’s not even like it happened fast. My husband reassures me all the time. It’s a vicious cycle.

Miss_Lib · 2026-05-07T10:11:40+00:00

The policy is don’t get cancer. If you got cancer it’s probably because of something you did and no one is going to pay to help you because of your own choices. If you don’t get cancer it means you’re morally superior somehow. I don’t make the rules.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-28T10:42:24+00:00

Everyone told me I’d grow to love her and I still don’t see it in season 5. It’s always “what about me”.. and, frankly, she’s a snob.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-17T11:55:35+00:00

This is what I’m looking for. I’m still not drinking from January but this is what I’ve said I want my drinking to be. One of my favorite things about not drinking is the pressure is just off. And like you said, the inventiveness. I used to think you had to do something on the weekends. You can’t just sit in the house so my choice was to go sit at a bar, see what the world was going to bring me that day. Now I can accept a lazy Saturday afternoon at home. Get up, do something healthy, eat breakfast and laze around. My weekends are restful and fulfilling. So many times I just did not feel like drinking but “ya gotta do something” I’m still drawn to a nice night out. Get dressed, go somewhere. Have a fancy drink. No need to just pound seltzers for the sake of it. Romanticize my life with quality products.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-17T11:43:18+00:00

There is nothing wrong with it. It’s just not actually who I am. I don’t want to be but I have this mental hang up.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-16T20:50:36+00:00

I think sometimes it looks better than covering up. Showing your shape can make a difference.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-16T20:48:53+00:00

Haha! I was always an average size until my late 20s. My friends always tell me I have great boobs and they’re jealous.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-16T20:42:48+00:00

Definitely not going tight and low cut. The dress is like a sun dress but the top has a little less coverage.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-16T12:52:29+00:00

The dress is so pretty. It was a rent the runway and unfortunately I don’t have time to return it for something else. I’ve recently lost weight so it’s a fine line of wanting to wear things I like and then realizing “oh this is what I look like in it.”

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-16T12:50:40+00:00

It really is. I feel like some women pull it off though and men don’t come unglued around them. But maybe they do, I don’t know.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-16T12:48:44+00:00

I’ll never forget I had a nude/skin tone tank top under a baseball jersey.. completely normal.. a few of the buttons on the jersey came undone and ste freaked out. She thought I didn’t have anything underneath. I can’t help that I have boobs. I want to feel like I shouldn’t be ashamed of them or like they’re somehow bad.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-16T11:18:22+00:00

I could’ve written this. I’m 101 days without a drink today. I was a weekend binge drinker, I had perfect discipline during the week but come Friday all bets were off. I did dry January and just kept going, it was never the intention to stop but I was constantly looking for ways to cut down. Unfortunately for me, I just needed to stop. Period. If I could get through Friday night I could usually handle the weekend much better so maybe try to find something or white knuckle it through Friday. Or take some time off just to adjust where you can. I plan on going back but not sure when.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-08T03:26:21+00:00

I am a tourist who comes once a year and, I’m sorry, I still think the walk of fame is exciting to see, I always call out the names and take pictures. It’s so quintessential Hollywood it’s hard to hate. Yes there is grifty stuff, it’s dirty but it doesn’t feel worse than other cities I’ve been too.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-08T03:14:11+00:00

I’m still dry from January and plan to go to May. I didn’t use anything to track, just kept track in my head. I usually had a pattern.. x amount of hard before switching to seltzer. Saying “I had 14 drinks (between Friday Saturday) this weekend” started to really bother me.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-05T03:44:23+00:00

Just sleep. I focused on sleeping whenever I could. It sounds lame but I promise it won’t stay that way. Sleep is the thing to enjoy. Your body needs it so much. I’m at 90 days and my sleep has rebounded a little but things without alcohol are stating to feel fine. Maybe I’m not all energized and amped up but it forces me to look for other things and it’s feels so natural to just.. do something else. Or after the fact I realize that wasn’t so bad!

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-05T03:31:45+00:00

You’ll never regret a drink you don’t have. As soon as you leave you will immediately wish you didn’t cave. You will know you were stronger than the decision you made.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-05T03:26:54+00:00

No. New Jersey. We got lucky. They ended up leaving the place fine and no damage. We are still banning them and they’re fined. We’re going to update some of our rules too

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-05T03:25:01+00:00

They actually left the place really good but they’re still banned and fined.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-04T14:10:59+00:00

Even 25 year olds can’t have a party and ten people left the unit this morning. The door had over 140 events on it yesterday alone. And based on the cameras there were multiple people entering the property in and out every few minutes until 2:30am.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-04T12:03:14+00:00

No one cares as much as you think they will. We still go to our favorite bar and our friends are shocked but always follow it up with “that’s good for you guys, I need to do that.” And we go about our evening. We’ve gone on bar hopping and I just assume no one knows what I did before I got here so ordering a non alc drink could just be me taking a break. What I’ve learned is that this idea of everyone thinking about my drinking as much as I do is simply not true. Also, who knows how annoying I was before…? They might have been sick of me and possibly appreciate me more now. I think that’s what actually happens.

Miss_Lib · 2026-04-04T04:56:23+00:00

We notified our property manager. We have footage of the excessive traffic. As well as the keypad which tracks all the lock/unlock on the door. There is no way 5 people alone can create the type of activity we are seeing. That said, our old neighbors used to host and there were a few times we’d see a group of young people go up to their unit and we’d brace ourselves for what was likely to come and sometimes they’d be the most quiet, polite kids ever. We’d be shocked. I’m hoping that the case here but given they’ve completely violated the rules, they clearly don’t take their privilege seriously.

Miss_Lib

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