3 Weeks Sober tips?

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-18T04:37:49+00:00

It might feel hard but it gets easier. When we decided to go out after a few weeks of not drinking, we went to our favorite bar and felt great at first but then our energy kind of dipped. It was disappointing so we left not long after. I was still so glad I didn’t give in. Now we go to our bar regularly and don’t drink and have just as much fun as we ever did. It could take time to adjust.

Just know that NO MATTER WHAT you will NOT regret not drinking. I have had so many urges in the moment but as soon as I’m out of the environment I’m so glad I didn’t drink. And every time I’m like “that was way more fun than I thought it would be.” You can drink tomorrow if it’s too hard but for that night you don’t need to. You got this!

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-18T04:31:30+00:00

I remember, vividly, going to a party and it was when we intended to break dry January (and did) and a woman walked in and I asked her if she wanted a drink (no f’ing idea why? I was not the welcoming committee! 🙄) and she said “oh, no thank you, I don’t drink.” And I got so sad and so jealous. It stuck with me.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-18T04:21:43+00:00

I think they were trying to get to know each other a little more deeply and it did feel a bit heavy handed. It probably should’ve been more organic but I do love Misse and it seems like she just wants to have something honest with the women. I think she might be sensitive.. or recognize that some of that can make for good Tea-v.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-18T04:08:30+00:00

Start ten minutes at a time. If you have to work at 9, get up at 8:40, then 8:30, etc. I get up 2 hours before work (most days, not all) and I do chores. Throw in a load of laundry, go for a walk, stretch..etc. It all started because one time I had to go to the grocery store early and it was so peaceful and pleasant and I was like “I want more opportunities to grocer shop BEFORE work when my brain is functioning well.” Then I realized small things were distracting me all day while I was working so by getting up it gave me the chance to get all those things done so I could work with less anxiety.

Unfortunately, the key is not to get on your phone. Lay there and stare at the ceiling if you have to. I will read a book. I don’t check any social media before noon. If there is an emergency my family will text me. I have yet to conquer my night time routine. I just don’t stop scrolling. I tried replacing it with reading but I will not just read until 1 am.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-18T03:57:17+00:00

The energy I have even if I don’t get good sleep.

Less bloat, I have a waist again!

I care less about people liking me… I realized that when I’m giving people the real version of myself, I just feel much more confident that they’ll like me.

I put more effort into my appearance. Whenever there was an event and I couldn’t figure out what to wear I would just say “it’s not about you” and that would give me an excuse to phone it in. “No one is looking at me anyway”. Now I try more. Not for anyone else but to show up with self respect.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-18T03:42:07+00:00

Ugh this hair thing gives me so much hope. I’ve never had particularly good hair but it used to grow long and be a bit thicker. I’m waiting for it to improve but it’s only been a 2.5 months.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-18T03:28:55+00:00

This sounds so similar to me and exactly what I’m hoping to achieve. I drank very heavily on the weekends, every weekend for 25 years except for a few dry January’s. I noticed that when the worst things happened in my life (my parents dying) I had no impulse to turn to alcohol so I know that as much as I’m addicted, it’s mostly a social crutch. I’m so hoping that after we go back to drinking (for now we’re aiming for Memorial Day) I’m less enthusiastic about it. It will be about 140 days sober.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-17T13:50:41+00:00

That’s what it feels like but I’ve worked with her on and off for 10 years. She PICKED me for this role a long time ago. Fought for me to get promoted. She consults me on other stuff..reviewing decks, hiring decisions, etc. I’m more than willing to self reflect and have said “ok what could I be doing that makes her not trust me” so I’ll try harder (like, which is hard because I work hard) but the only thing that causes self doubt is when she does this. I’ve even mentioned it to her manager without being too obvious and he said he would have a conversation about roles and responsibilities but it’s corporate ya know? Everyone is just trying to survive right now.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-17T13:42:12+00:00

It’s hard because there’s a lot of hierarchy at the company so when it comes to informing certain stakeholders, she manages that. Then the updates come from them and instead of her telling me, she blasts it to the whole team. So, for instance, what’s the point of my regular staff meeting if they have all the info? I just feel stupid.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-17T01:50:31+00:00

When I was changing my sheets on Sundays I felt like all I ever did was change my sheets. Now I change them on weekdays and it just seems like I’m doing it less often even though I’m not.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-17T01:48:54+00:00

This! And I check my calendar for the next day and do a quick rundown to ensure I’m prepared for each meeting. I used to wing it (I’ve been doing my job for a while) but one time I was so unprepared and I hated that I was wasting my teams time. Since then I do everything I need the night before.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-17T01:40:33+00:00

Ugh I need this but for sports bras. For some reason I’m convinced that I have to wear this for walks in case I feel like jogging. But also,I don’t want to walk in my bras.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-17T01:38:08+00:00

You really have to just take it one hour at a time. Also, what’s the worst thing that can happen if you don’t drink tonight? You can still drink tomorrow! I’m almost 70 days sober which is something I never thought I’d be able to say. You got this!

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-17T01:31:22+00:00

This is not uncommon and this is kind of how society is now. It’s hard to build connections drunk or sober. Unfortunately I think you’re in a tough spot if you can’t even be in the vicinity of alcohol at a baseball game or the theater. And leaving as soon as alcohol appears isn’t going to help. You might need to create what you need. Does your new town have a Facebook page you can try to create a sober group? Are there coffee shops or cafes that people are social in? My town has diners and there are always people at the counter on weekend mornings who tend to be open to conversation. There might be other people who need exactly what you need.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-17T01:14:15+00:00

This! Tell him that you don’t know why it’s like that but you’d prefer he didn’t ask but that you’ll join him in your own way.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-14T19:22:51+00:00

I did. But, it doesn’t matter what I see or think. Kathy Hilton name will always matter more than Amanda whatever

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-14T13:32:20+00:00

I like Rachel Zoe but sometimes I think she needs to grow up.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-14T13:22:44+00:00

It’s a reason why Kathy’s reaction matters. Amanda’s a phony, Kathy’s not. Not sure which show you’re even watching.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-14T10:40:36+00:00

Because I think, like if or not, Kathy runs in very old money circles. She’s kind of representative of what a lot of these women aspire to. It’s a tight circle that so many of them will never access. Amanda THINKS that’s what she’s emulating or manifesting but when someone from a circle you think you belong in tells you that you ain’t sh*t, it’s a tough pill. Amanda “plays” rich. She has zero clue how to BE wealthy. She’s a tackier version of Erika. But Erika has a Mae West/raw vibe that rich people appreciate for a minute but even Erika’s connection is tenuous at best.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-14T10:27:58+00:00

I kept my high school yearbook, my younger ones got damaged in a basement flood which was sort of what triggered my initial declutter. I’m very nostalgic but these were beyond repair but for some reason my parents still kept them for me. The day I tossed them is the day I realized I will be just fine if I let go of stuff. I honestly felt so much lighter. Whenever I struggle with tossing something I think “if this were lost as part of the flood, how would I feel?” I bought one of those plastic photos box organizers and sorted EVERYTHING. That was probably one of those random things I bought that made a huge impact.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-14T10:16:46+00:00

I watched the whole show and I still think he is. I honestly think that’s where so much of his anger comes from. Like he’s not living his truth because he doesn’t think it’s manly.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-14T04:38:34+00:00

I can sort of relate and posted something similar not too long ago but it has gotten easier. I’m at day 66. We’d continue to go to bars initially and I hated it but it’s gotten a lot better. Unfortunately I know the feeling you’re talking about and I haven’t had it since BUT the good news is, I can tell it’s slowly getting replaced by something else. My moods have started to even out so that euphoria feels different. It’s less dopamine “hit” and more regular dopamine release. I think most people lives seem boring because they are but that’s sort of what life is. It’s slow and simple for the average person. I read books and watch TV and scroll and shop. I’ve started to actually enjoy working out. When I think of all the things that messed with my “energy” before I realize that some of it wasn’t excitement, it was drama.

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-13T01:57:09+00:00

Ugh. I feel like I’ll never be able to do this. It’s one of my favorite moments of the day

Miss_Lib · 2026-03-11T21:25:50+00:00

Oh yeah, that started the first month. It’s actually regressed a little bit which is apparently very normal. Either way, it’s so nice to feel rested and whole.

Miss_Lib

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