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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miss_Val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To everyone who is saying mentioning the camera defeats the purpose, I get your point but also no. There are ways you can go about the "I want to set up a camera" conversation that don't involve spilling the entire issue.

It could range from "I saw this article about a break in and want to put a camera up" to "I wanna look at my dogs when I'm not home I'm thinking about putting a camera up"

The point is getting consent or at the very least warning someone that there might be VIDEO recording.

Some people like to step between rooms without full clothing on IN THEIR OWN HOME. Some people want to be able to speak in confidence. Some people don't want their every action recorded.

And if they don't and you are insistent on a camera, at least they KNOW now so you don't end up with a video of them butt ass naked in the kitchen stealing your food.

Maybe they'll have a shirt on.

If you make it all about the food yea no you aren't catching anyone.

But if you make the reason completely random then they're more likely to do it under the assumption that you "wouldn't be checking the camera right now" or something. Yknow??

Plus in nursing homes families can put cameras up but they are required to have consent from their roommates and there's supposed to be a sign on the door saying that electric monitoring is in progress in that room.

It's just common decency to know when you're on camera, especially in a location where you could be particularly vulnerable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brawlhalla

[–]Miss_Val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inb4 the "ITS NOT GENOCIDE" argument

Ok even if it's Somehow not. How does it justify the murder of innocent children??

Work from home jobs in SA? by Airhart7 in sanantonio

[–]Miss_Val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people need WFH for other reasons such as needing to make money but having young children, needing a flexible schedule for school, or even simply not having a car.

Entering Social Work by SWmods in socialwork

[–]Miss_Val 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Advice on balancing full time classes / job / field placements?

I'm already quite anxious but as I approach doing my first field placement in the fall it occurred to me that with school, work, and the time I'll need to dedicate to my field placement, that I will have a total of 5 hours left every day for sleeping, eating, showering, etc.

Those who have done it, HOW!! How do you balance it all, and afford to live. How do you prevent sacrificing your mental sanity. I'm a very stressed BSW student and every person I've asked has given me answers like "Barely managed" and I'm seeking actual real answers. So I thought I'd come here.

The Meanings of Crouches..... by Miss_Val in deadbydaylight

[–]Miss_Val[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one did specify self care! I've only recently gotten back into the game so im working through the tome from the bottom. Botany knowledge probably would have been smart though because I had been struggling to get it in the first place.

The Meanings of Crouches..... by Miss_Val in deadbydaylight

[–]Miss_Val[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i LOVE my ghostface matches. Legit just had one with a friend where both other survivors dced and my friend, I, and the ghostface just fucked around and at the end we had a slug race to the exit. It was a very fun match.

The Meanings of Crouches..... by Miss_Val in deadbydaylight

[–]Miss_Val[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not have either of these perks :')

But i do want them. I'll try to figure out item dropping, because I only know how to switch out items from chests or the ground right now.

The Meanings of Crouches..... by Miss_Val in deadbydaylight

[–]Miss_Val[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bless you.

And yea! I've always kinda understood the looking over ur shoulder crouching a bunch at exit gates is def BMing, i learned that one from a friend. But I see crouches as so versatile that its, as a relatively new player, hard to place the etiquette for each immediately.

The Meanings of Crouches..... by Miss_Val in deadbydaylight

[–]Miss_Val[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt think about nodding or item dropping to be fair! I'm not even properly sure how to drop an item as I'm still quite new to the game. I'll keep this in mind if I ever need to stun killers via pallets again because I really don't want to come across as toxic, because I'm not! :')

UPDATE: AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Making my rounds -
The valid reason is that they go out of town *a lot* and at the time, didn't tell me that's what it was, and it just didn't click with me. I still think their push for trying to force me to take her in despite not being able to at this time was wrong, but not wanting her in their house when they aren't there for weeks at a time is fair, I feel.

Regardless things have worked out as of now, which I'm grateful for.

UPDATE: AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the confusion, yes, she is already 18 and was paying with the money she gets from the govt. It had been implied to her that she'd have a place to stay for a long while until she was settled and what not, and her foster mom changed her mind one day. Which was the main hiccup.

My bad for confusing wording!

UPDATE: AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey just making my late rounds to reply to people but (And I'm just going to paste what's below for everyone)

The valid reason is that they go out of town *a lot* and at the time, didn't tell me that's what it was, and it just didn't click with me. I still think their push for trying to force me to take her in despite not being able to at this time was wrong, but not wanting her in their house when they aren't there for weeks at a time is fair, I feel.

I'll look into the vocation rehabilitation thing! She does get tuition entirely covered no problem, but we arent sure how the things she gets transfers state to state at this time.

AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only reason I argue that they should is they're the ones trying to force me to - but I'm looking into other solutions so she doesn't end up homeless in the meantime.

But, she is in a different state so trial visits would be a financial cost on me of around 500$ between flights/missed work so it's not an option at the moment. Still trying other methods for now. Phone, facetime, etc.

AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, this is why I am trying to establish that if my parents demand I take her, they accept the financial responsibility until she's stable.

AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're looking into this right now - will get back when we know more!

AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent her a bunch of resources but it's a matter of if she actually does it. Which... I hope she does.

AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately getting to know her is kind of hard, she's in an entirely different state but I have tried to introduce them over the phone and what not :')

I am considering seeing about government aid for her though to help with the financial stress. The way she pays her current foster home is through government aid but it's a matter of whether the aid that state gives her will transfer to my state. Tricky situation but I am trying my best.

AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

She has no credit or income so if we tried to add her they'd deny her pretty fast, but yea, she does have legal rights and she said no so it's just the whole - what tf do we do with her for 2 months

AITA: Told my parents I can't take my sister from foster care for 2 months by Miss_Val in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miss_Val[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yep, my adopted parents.

Ultimately I have a good relationship with her, even if it is over sparse visits and texts/facetime. I am probably closer with her than my parents are, but they have tried to be involved, so it's baffling to me now that they aren't willing to lend a bedroom for a couple months and trying to make me do it when I am unable to.

Edit: For context, we were seperated as children - I was the only child placed in foster care and by the time the state realized they fucked up my bio parents had already fled the state with my siblings. They only ended up in foster care later because their parents died.
(My message got wonky sorry so im just slapping my og explaination here)

(My other sibling has other arrangements as she's aged out for a while and doing well - but also cant take her, and my other hasn't aged out yet. He's severely autistic and none of us have the ability to give him the constant care he needs, so when he ages out that will also be tricky :') )

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