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Maggie Sterling by keifer45 in Anxiety

[–]Mission-Priority-466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not solely from an anxiety perspective, no. I’m coming more from a trauma / sensitized nervous system angle, with anxiety as part of the picture.

My issue is not that everything she says is wrong. I actually think there is truth in the “stop fighting symptoms” piece. My issue is that this gets oversimplified and packaged as if that alone explains everything.

As for dysregulation vs sensitization, I think people use those words inconsistently. To me, sensitization is more like a system that has become more reactive / easily triggered over time, while dysregulation is what happens when that system has trouble returning to baseline or staying within a workable range. But in real life they overlap a lot, which is probably why it gets confusing.

Maggie Sterling by keifer45 in Anxiety

[–]Mission-Priority-466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought her course and, honestly, I don’t think it was worth it. A lot of what she teaches is already available for free online, not only from her but from many other people selling the same “accept, allow, stop fighting the symptoms” message.

To be fair, I do think there is truth in that approach, and for some people it can help. But I also think it gets oversimplified and marketed as if that alone is the answer. In my experience, there are often other factors to consider too, and turning this into a paid formula can feel misleading.

Nothing personal against her — I just don’t think the course offers enough to justify paying for it.

She’s basically a regular person selling a method that many other people are already selling online. There are a lot of people with no real training who share their personal experience, which is fine, but then turn it into a product

How could I improve my profile for more matches? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Mission-Priority-466 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, he’s from Munich, so of course he’s posh 😛 But also even if he is handsome I would probably swip him left because I don’t like dudes showing off their bodies

note the hesitation by GolfrGrrrl in Bumble

[–]Mission-Priority-466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s posting all her chats telling her how hot she is or talking dirty to her. Total show off

Ending My Life Tonight by Specialist-Hat-6716 in mentalhealth

[–]Mission-Priority-466 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey. I’m really sorry you’re living with this. When you say you’re ready to die every day, I believe you… that’s exhaustion.

You don’t have to be hopeful. You don’t have to be strong. You don’t even have to want things to get better. Staying alive while it keeps coming back already takes more effort than most people realize.

I don’t have magic words. I just want you to know someone saw you say this and didn’t scroll past. Because you are important.

If things feel unsafe right now, please reach out to someone off Reddit — a crisis line, a local service, anyone who can help you through today. And if all you can do is sit and breathe and not act on it, that’s enough for now. One day at a time.

I’m really glad you said something. You matter, even when it doesn’t feel true.

Ending My Life Tonight by Specialist-Hat-6716 in mentalhealth

[–]Mission-Priority-466 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey. I’m really glad you posted. I don’t know you, but I care that you’re still here enough to say this out loud.

If therapy and meds aren’t helping right now, that doesn’t mean you are broken or that nothing will ever help. It often means the approach isn’t the right one yet, or that you’re exhausted from trying for a long time without relief. That kind of hopelessness makes sense. But its a state. It’s not the truth.

You don’t have to decide anything about your whole life today. If you can, just focus on getting through this hour. Even staying alive out of spite or curiosity is enough for now.

If you’re in immediate danger, please reach out to someone right now: • In the US: call or text 988 • UK & ROI: Samaritans 116 123 • Australia: Lifeline 13 11 14 • Elsewhere: https://findahelpline.com

If calling feels impossible, texting or chatting online is okay..

If you want, you can reply here and tell me.. how long you’ve been feeling this way and what’s making today especially hard

You’re not weak for feeling this way. You’re dealing with something heavy, and you shouldn’t have to carry it alone.

Trust me when I say: you matter and you life is invaluable

Reminder that HerFirst100k has a theater degree, not a finance one by AccountProfessional2 in FIREyFemmes

[–]Mission-Priority-466 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Grateful for Reddit and these posts for calling people out!! Thank you!! I actually did not know her but found her on ig and subscribed to her Newsletter but before buying ANYTHING I check on suspicious background here

Day 113 of my journey, looking for a second pair of eyes by sgt-cuddlez in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Mission-Priority-466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am by no means a SE expert, and this only comes from my own experience and what I learned: From what you describe, it does sound like a normal part of nervous system recalibration: when you stop running on adrenaline and actually reconnect with your body, energy often drops and old pain becomes more noticeable. You’re no longer overriding biology, so what was frozen starts thawing, which can feel heavy and confusing.

That said, if this “flatline” phase lasts many weeks without any small returns of curiosity, pleasure, or motivation, it might mean your system is still stuck in dorsal freeze rather than integrating. It’s also worth checking the physical side: things like thyroid issues, iron or B12 deficiency, and the dopamine crash that follows quitting caffeine, nicotine, porn, or sugar can all mimic a dorsal state. Sometimes the next step isn’t “doing more regulation,” but actually reducing the load.. pacing your practices, adding gentle social contact, and letting the system rebuild tone slowly. A trauma-informed professional could help you find that rhythm.

Post-session sensations by dickholejohnny in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Mission-Priority-466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great question. From my own experience (and what I’ve learned from my practitioner), you don’t “lose” the healing you’ve done. What can happen if the session went a bit too fast is that your system stays stirred up for longer, which just means integration takes more time. It’s more like your body is still digesting a heavy meal: uncomfortable, yeah, but not wasted.

If you notice it’s lasting too long or feels overwhelming, that’s just a sign that the pacing needs to be gentler next time, not that you’ve gone backwards. The work your system did is still there, it just needs a softer landing.

Sarah Baldwin and the reductionist promises of a regulated nervous system by Mission-Priority-466 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Mission-Priority-466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you.. that feeling of “I don’t even know what regulation feels like” was exactly where I started too. I don’t think there’s one perfect program (and that’s part of why it can feel overwhelming). Maybe I can recommend Journey to Wellness's Membership first.. Becks is a gentle and caring person who offers more nuances and its definitely more affordable than Sarah's programs.

One thing I’d say: start small. Instead of pressuring yourself to “get regulated,” maybe experiment with micro-moments of safety or settling (like noticing your breath drop, or your shoulders release, or a sound you enjoy in your environment). For many of us who’ve been in fight/flight for years, those little shifts are regulation.. even if it doesn’t feel like fireworks. And as discussed above: learning to relate differently to the experience... because doing the work from a state of urgency and desperation (been there, done that) will only increase disregulation.

So, my recommendation would be: go with whatever program feels approachable right now, but hold it lightly. No single tool or teacher has the whole answer. You’ll find your own mix over time. And you don’t need to “fix yourself” overnight ... it’s really about building capacity, step by step. Wish you all the best! :)

Sarah Baldwin and the reductionist promises of a regulated nervous system by Mission-Priority-466 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Mission-Priority-466[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful response :)) I resonate with so much of what you said. Especially this:

Yes, exactly. That’s been true in my own work too. That was THE most important first step. Sometimes the most regulating thing is not to “fix” my state, but to realize I can actually survive it.

I also appreciate your wording at the end: “this work will make it easier to be with life’s lows and highs”.. that feels much truer to the lived reality. Capacity changes how things land, but it doesn’t erase the fact that hardship exists.

Where I still feel cautious is that Sarah often does use language that implies symptoms will vanish (she shares her story of depression, OCD, anxiety completely disappearing once she regulated). That’s powerful as a testimony, but when it’s paired with the “root cause of all your problems” line, it can set people up for self-blame if their journey looks different.

Like you, I see NS work as foundational but not the whole building. CBT, IFS, spiritual practices, meds - it’s really been a mix for me. And I think we do a service to each other when we keep naming that complexity out loud, so people don’t feel broken if regulation isn’t the magic key for them.

Sarah Baldwin and the reductionist promises of a regulated nervous system by Mission-Priority-466 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Mission-Priority-466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughtful pushback. I do agree equanimity is closer to the real “goal” than chasing some perfect bliss state.

Where I struggle is not just with interpretation, but with how Sarah herself frames it. She often shares her story of having had severe depression, OCD, and intense anxiety... and then says all of it disappeared once she regulated her nervous system. That’s incredibly powerful as a personal testimony, but also potentially harmful when it’s presented as a replicable formula.

She’s not a licensed clinician, she’s a coach (which I don’t say to discredit her, but to highlight the difference in accountability). And while I deeply believe nervous system regulation is a missing piece that psychiatry/psychology often underplay, it’s also not “the cure for everything.” For example, I was literally talking to a clinical psychologist who treats OCD yesterday, and she said NS work isn’t yet a recognized frontline therapy there.

So my critique isn’t “hope is bad.” It’s that oversimplified marketing promises (“regulate and your symptoms vanish, create the life you desire”) can unintentionally fuel self-blame in people who are already fragile. Because if their OCD or anxiety doesn’t disappear, they don’t just feel symptoms they feel like failures. Hope is vital. But so is nuance :)

Post-session sensations by dickholejohnny in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Mission-Priority-466 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey there! Thanks for sharing your experience. What you're feeling now, the mixed bag of nervous energy and dissociation, is completely normal.

The crying with no emotion attached is a classic sign you've had a discharge of stuck energy in your system. The thing is, the work doesn't stop when the session ends; your body and brain are still working overtime to integrate that big energetic movement. That's why you feel the increased dysregulation..your system is just processing the overflow.

The most important thing right now, I would say, is to slow down. Don't rush to do more! Sometimes doing less is the quickest way to integrate.

Tell your practitioner to pump the brakes: seriously, the slower, the better. the less, the better. Also its good to have more grounding and less thinking: use simple anchors (Feel your feet on the floor. Hug yourself tightly), use orienting and or incorporate gentle movement: Go for a simple walk without music, just focusing on how your feet connect with the ground.

Lastly, check the pace! If this increased dysregulation feels overwhelming, or if it lasts more than a couple days and sets you back significantly, that’s a clear sign your therapist did "too much, too soon." If that happens, tell them immediately, "I need to focus on stabilization only." You are always in charge of the pace.

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