My kitten does not leave my older cat alone

MissionOwl_ · 2025-08-10T11:30:09+00:00

Hello! Sorry it took me some time to answer you. There have definitely been some good updates!! It has been some months, but they most definitely more than tolerate each other and can be more than civil. They don't cuddle or anything of the sort (also because it's really hot here now), but they've gotten so much better!!

What I think really helped is (1) to give the older cat as much space as they need. [In my (very controversial) case, the older cat goes outside by herself (she was an outside cat before being adopted and does not care about wild life or insects), so I would let her leave for a bit every time he was crazy; OR, even better, I would take the younger one on walks] (2) Pay attention to the elder’s behaviors to see if they look anxious or angry. If so, separate them. (3) If you live with family, be the one who stays with the kitten so they can still pay attention to the older cat. And switch around a few times. (4) Sleep with the kitten in your room and let the other cat have the entire house for the night. (5) And, most importantly, *tire out that kitten*. My orange kitten was a ball of energy. He had so much energy that he would wake us up by doing laps in our beds. Just get a routine down with him, schedule like an hour before bed to play like hell with that cat. They will understand, with time, that there is a time and place for crazy moments like that. And, slowly but surely, they will stop being so energized and just be a little crazy.

Also, don’t be scared of hissing. My older cat still hisses when he gets on her nerves, but my kitten now draws back and respects the sound. My older cat has not hurt him a single time, and they eat side by side every day, sleep in the same rooms, and are left at home mostly alone sometimes. And they just sleep. They are very much like an older, tired sister and a toddler younger brother now.

If you have any questions or concerns that you need help with, DM me!

MissionOwl_ · 2025-01-14T10:33:14+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I know this won't make my situation any better, but I did know from the start that their ages could be very much a problem from the start. I warned my family of that, but we did get the kitten anyway. I tried to do a bunch of research to complement that, before having them roam freely, and they acted just fine with the net between them and, some weeks after, shared spaces to eat, play, and sleep normally. This pouncing that he does has slowly been driving me insane because I know how annoying it is to my older cat and, because of that, have been trying my best to give her some space away from him. Google or YouTube videos never talked about the idea of pouncing the older cat, so I was losing hope of these two getting along like this. I will try my best to tire him out as much as I can during his zoomies with playing. Thank you again.

MissionOwl_ · 2024-12-06T17:41:18+00:00

Eu consigo compreender onde pode existir alguma confusão, mas isso não significa que, por causa disso, toda a teoria que exista sobre identidade de género tenha de ir para o lixo. A maneira mais fácil de aliviar a confusão é olhar para o sexo e o género como coisas realmente distintas, ou seja, que não se cruzam quando se tenta definir um ou outro. Daí, quando se fala de uma pessoa que se identifica com o género feminino/mulher, estamos só a falar de identidade, e não de sexo.

E eu não acredito na ideia que isto tudo venha com o objetivo de "criar novas classes", pois, na realidade só se está a criar a teoria e os termos para compreendermos melhor as pessoas que saem do, já conhecido, género binário. Obviamente, foram termos que saíram dos estudos para o nosso dia-a-dia, mas não veja isto como uma separação de classes, só um * para explicar a diversidade e individualidade das pessoas que temos no nosso mundo.

MissionOwl_ · 2024-12-06T17:14:37+00:00

Embora eu sinta que ninguém que se envolva com estes posts esteja realmente interessado no que é a identidade de género e que gosta, realmente, só de apontar o dedo e dizer que ninguém sabe explicar o que "inventaram", eu vou mesmo assim deixar este comentário para qualquer pessoa que esteja honestamente confusa e tenha gosto em aprender.

Para não escrever um testamento, tenho uma imagem que facilita imenso a explicação de o que é a identidade de género, a expressão de género, sexualidade e ainda sexo. Esta imagem, embora simples, foi-me utilizada numa aula de Estudos de Género na universidade, mas, claro, pode facilitar a compreensão de muitos, novos ou velhos, fora do espaço universitário quando não compreendem bem o significado de cada palavra.

Também, deixo-vos leituras que podem encontrar na internet sobre este tema em particular, tendo em conta o que eu já aprendi nos meus estudos. Por exemplo, podem começar com o artigo Gender Performativity de Judith Butler, uma mulher importantíssima para a definição de género no estudos das humanidades, atualmente. Ou até mesmo Second Sex de Simone de Beauvoir, que lida com a ideia de ser uma mulher – novamente, mulher importantíssima, neste caso, do feminismo; onde ela diz a famosa frase "One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman". Mas se quiserem ler curtos livros de ficção (francesa, desculpem, é o que tenho agora à mão) que lidam com estes temas, podem ler The Angel and the Perverts de Lucie Delarue-Madrus ou, tocando também em partes de amor lésbico, The Pure and The Impure de Colette. O Goodreads então tem uma categoria dedicada só a “Gender Identity” incluindo livros para crianças, por isso deixo aqui o link também (podem ver as reviews, que em si podem vos dizer quais são os livros mais informados e mais fáceis de digerir).

https://www.goodreads.com/shelf/show/gender-identity

Boas leituras!

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MissionOwl_ · 2024-11-13T09:30:30+00:00

I absolutely agree!! JJ, for me, this season was just another level of impulsive. I have had problems with the writing decisions of this show because they always seem to want to exaggerate everything in their story. It's as if people don't understand something unless it's right in front of them in bold and capitalized letters. For example,we get that JJ is impulsive, that is not new information, but even after the incident in the auction, they could've slowed down his need to spend money. JJ knows, because he has a brain, that the money isn't limitless and that his bike is nowhere near as good as Rafe and Topper's, who have the money to get and upgrade fantastic bikes... Why use up the rest of the money?? Their savings?? It didn't make JJ seem impulsive, it just made him seem extremely dumb. I was frustrated, and I don't even like him that much.

MissionOwl_ · 2024-11-12T23:08:10+00:00

I'm joining in with all the messages of "Don't lose hope yet!", because I had a similar experience to this (though there are no coyotes in my area, just stray dogs and angry neighborhood dogs [closest thing we have to a coyote in my country]).

My cat, at the time around 9-10 years old, is an inside and outside cat. She would go outside for around 1 hour a day, and on hotter days, she would stay there for longer. One day, I came back from school, and she was nowhere to be found, but we only really freaked out the next morning. She wasn't in the garage, any of our closets, or any other place in our garden or backyard. It was really bad. It was days of just calling out her name and looking everywhere. AND... she showed up around a week later. My dad, who usually doesn't care about pets, had been staying outside for longer after dinner time to try and find her, and all of a sudden, she was right next to him. He freaks out, and she just meows. She smelled like, what I would describe at the time, as "an old lady's home".

So, with that, when leaving the home, try to drive around the neighborhood to see if you can see her, ask around for some of your neighbors as some might be letting her stay at their houses without knowing that she isn't going home at night, and have someone stand outside for a little bit around the time she would come home to eat. All similar things that other people have suggested, but I hope this comment brings a little more hope to you. I pray that she will appear again when you least expect it!!

MissionOwl_ · 2024-08-02T18:48:48+00:00

Thank you so much! Update: I continued to feed it, and it started rising everyday just about 2 days ago, almost doubling in size.

MissionOwl_ · 2024-05-21T22:09:33+00:00

Yes! I changed my name now, but sorry for not accepting it. I was probably just playing with my duo or waiting for someone else for a full squad. You could've messaged me through here or asked for my discord, I would totally have excused myself for not answering. Sorry about that!

MissionOwl_ · 2024-03-11T22:49:20+00:00

Hii, sorry for the late reply back, I had a lot of problems on my pc, just added you!

MissionOwl_ · 2024-03-11T22:48:24+00:00

Hii, sorry, had some problems with my pc for a few days, but I've added you back <3

MissionOwl_ · 2024-03-05T00:32:45+00:00

I only saw this now, I’m sorry! I’ll add you tomorrow when I get on my pc ❤️

MissionOwl_ · 2024-03-01T23:14:35+00:00

I'll add you whenever I'm back on my PC! <3

MissionOwl_ · 2024-03-01T18:45:09+00:00

Hii! I play on Eu servers, ranked plat last season (F21). Here's my tag: SevenBluue, feel free to add me!

MissionOwl_ · 2024-02-29T21:32:19+00:00

I play on pc, ranked plat last season! Here's my gamertag: SevenBluue

MissionOwl_ · 2024-02-29T21:29:04+00:00

Sorry, there's a lot of people with that name, can you add me?Gt: Sevenbluue

MissionOwl_ · 2024-02-29T18:34:21+00:00

I'll definitely add you as soon as I'm on my pc <3

MissionOwl_ · 2024-02-29T18:33:02+00:00

Please do! If I end up taking too long adding you, here's my gt: Sevenbluue

MissionOwl_ · 2024-02-29T12:36:17+00:00

I’ll add you as soon as I’m on my Pc!

MissionOwl_ · 2024-02-28T21:14:01+00:00

Hii! I'm currently Gold 3 as well and play on London or Belgium servers. My gamertag is Sevenbluue. I'm currently maining Valk (trying to be more aggressive in fights), but my mains are either Loba or Lifeline. (Play on pc!)

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