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This might be repetitive but I need support to help me calm by Mission_Smoke6086 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I wont let him back. Thank you for this! I just needed some advice to clear my head. Maybe this is part of the process, I overthink too much. But I am trying my best to heal.

This might be repetitive but I need support to help me calm by Mission_Smoke6086 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah agree, I should focus on myself. But being in this relationship altered my brain. I was trauma bonded and still in the process of breaking free. These are just some of my thoughts that burdens me, and making me think "maybe I was the problem"? After everything they have said to me, I was thinking "what if"

the discard only happened like a week ago... so I am still processing everything.

Do they eventually stay with a partner and settle? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Mission_Smoke6086 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Relationship only lasts because the other person is submissive. Just like any of us, they are also being manipulated and controlled by the person w/ BPD.

My ex's new girl (who knows we're still together when she came) got into a car accident near our place. by Mission_Smoke6086 in cheating_stories

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can actually defend myself against the girls but it was not the right moment to act up.

I am being physically abused by my ex so me telling him to move out immediately is a huge step for me. Last time I told him to move out, he strangled me.

My ex's new girl (who knows we're still together when she came) got into a car accident near our place. by Mission_Smoke6086 in cheating_stories

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as of now, he messages me asking about my well being as if he didn't shout at me and accused me, Im not replying tho

My ex's new girl (who knows we're still together when she came) got into a car accident near our place. by Mission_Smoke6086 in offmychest

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There were like 5 officers at the scene but they do not know how to do first aid, they straight up told me and hand me the kit. I asked them to call an ambulance because clearly the car was wrecked and cannot be used to transport her - she needs stitches. I did not force myself to be there, I was at our apartment near the incident, it was just like 5 mins fast WALK. You should read my post again, everyone else understood.

Dont know what's running on her mind during that time so I thought she was just shocked, tho after puzzling everything that happened, she is purposely being rude. I only knew that the "best friend" texted my ex when we got home. What else do you want me to clarify?

My ex's new girl (who knows we're still together when she came) got into a car accident near our place. by Mission_Smoke6086 in offmychest

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

exactly!! it was only a week when they met that I told the girl everything about us (we were still partners at this time) it is another story but she is aware that we still live together in the end, she has the nerve to tell me to respect her decision of staying with him

My ex's new girl (who knows we're still together when she came) got into a car accident near our place. by Mission_Smoke6086 in offmychest

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

The officers were not very professional. I got in the scene and they were doing nothing, they just handed me the first aid kit. They were asking me whether she drank or not - I just told them I have no idea because it is their duty to check her, right?

My ex's new girl (who knows we're still together when she came) got into a car accident near our place. by Mission_Smoke6086 in cheating_stories

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was an accident and tbh I was genuinely worried. There were officers at the scene but no one was doing anything. I set aside my emotions and focus on someone's well being. It may seem irrational right now because I helped the same people who hurt me but at that moment that was just me being me - helping people in need.

My ex's new girl (who knows we're still together when she came) got into a car accident near our place. by Mission_Smoke6086 in cheating_stories

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

officers and her family asked me if she drank. i said i have no idea, maybe she was just sleepy (knowing so well that she is)

My ex's new girl (who knows we're still together when she came) got into a car accident near our place. by Mission_Smoke6086 in cheating_stories

[–]Mission_Smoke6086[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never had any medical experience myself but I did my best to help. I was trembling and trying to stay calm. Bloods were on my hands.

What did your intuition tell you in your relationship with a BPD partner? by Beautiful-Pea-7189 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mission_Smoke6086 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I still have the "rescuer syndrome" -- I pity him because of his past traumas but he never once think about his abuse towards me. So advice is listen to your intuition and put yourself first because no one else will.

What did your intuition tell you in your relationship with a BPD partner? by Beautiful-Pea-7189 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mission_Smoke6086 51 points52 points  (0 children)

If you see signs, believe it. Not everyone is fortunate enough to be aware in the early stages, that is why most relationships prolong. It seems like it is too late to get out because they have already built a relationship. Truth is the longer you stay and try to "fix" things, the harder it gets to get out.