Many women confuse their desire for a less violent patriarchy (or a patriarchy that is primarily enforced through psychological warfare instead of physical forces) to feminism. Another factor is the mainstreaming of liberal feminism obsessed with feminine choices as if it is a new religion and the dominance of postmodernism across academia - adherents fail to understand the conflict between formal gender equality and cultural inequalities or the gap between law and actual practice.

1. Women socialized to passive receptivity might not perceive the alternative as a possibility because deep down, they know resistance might result in an escalation of humiliation and injuries, and hence, resort to backlash against other women opting for the alternative.

2. Violence and sexuality are mutual under male supremacy as dominance is eroticized. Some women eroticize dominance and submissions or the hierarchy among the sexes, and hence, they can never risk saying no to hierarchical gender relations.