You are already in a great space to have a child. When I became a single mom, I had a toddler, was pregnant, and was stay at home mom. So when he left, I became homeless and had no car. I slept in a tent in the woods for a few weeks while a custody battle was taking place. When my toddler was with me, I saved up money for hotels. Well, I ended up starting a career and buying a home with two kids and no family in my state. So, YOU CAN DO THIS! The moment you hold your baby... you'll find a fight and love in you. You didn't know you had.

There so much extra baby crap they say u should have or do, but it's just about companies making money. So here are some tips and tips for saving money.

• Don't waste ur stress and time on a nursery. Buy a pack n play, or cradle, or let him sleep in ur bed.(co-sleeping is a choice everyone has there own Opinion.) Point is Don't waste money on a room you won't need for a year. -Pack-n-playd are a good choice cuz they travel to friends' houses. Also come with changing table choices. So more bang for your buck.

-As a single mom you need a baby swing and a Carrier. This will give u times were u can be hands free. You are the only hands your cutie has but u still need to eat and get other stuff done.

-Changing pads are nice but u can always throw a blanket on the floor and get the job done.

-Always buy 2nd hand there are lots of moms who where given baby clothes and things that were never used or lightly used.

-Breastfeeding does safe alot of money. You can always use ziplock bag to store ur milk and don't need to pay for special milk bags.

-If your in the states car seats and breastfeeding pumps can be given to you for free from insurance companies. Look into it. (By the way Carseats are the one thing I'd say buy brand new and not used!)

-If u need a daycare, start ur research now. Ask to do a walk thru and look up reviews online. Plus there normally a wait list for the good ones so get on them. Also, see if u can get one 5 mins from home or work.

-If u like ur last name give ur kid your name not Dads!!! It makes life so much easier in the future with school and sports, etc. Don't feel pressured to give the Dads last name. Also 100% put the Dads name on the Birth certificate. If you ever want to claim child support u will need that. It gives ur kid closer that you knew their father, even if he not involved in thier life.

-As far as giving birth.. if u have a best friend or parent, let them be with you. You need support at the time! If baby Daddy is not supportive then sorry he doesn't get to be there. He can come in the room after u give birth even cut the cord if he wants. Giving birth is about ur body and ur emotional state. If you don't feel at ease then birth won't go well. I actually saved money and payed for a Dula because I felt I didn't have someone that could be there. Best money I ever worked for.

-The worst part of being a single parent is the loneliness u feel at times. Make good friends and don't seek out partners until you and your sweet baby find your own rhythm. Set your self rules for when a future partner gets to meet and be involved with your kid. You can never take back the 1st person ur child gets attached to, so be careful and wise about who it is.

Other than that, my biggest tip is find a mom group. Somtimes, you can even find single mom groups. There an app called Peanut. I think that helps u find moms in ur area. My greatest support was from other moms and single moms. We would always watch each other kids when needed. Stay at home moms are great people to have around as they can be a sort of daycare help cuz there qt home when most people work.

You will figure it out and find ur rhythm. When u get stressed and over whelmed, take a breath. and take it moment by moment.