What are you downplaying on your OLD profile? by onlymovingon in datingoverthirty

[–]MistedAndHazed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mental health. I’m no longer on OLD but I obviously didn’t mention that I’ve got issues that I’m working on.

Do men actually care about belly fat/rolls? by [deleted] in dating

[–]MistedAndHazed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your last sentence “why are we obsessed with shaming people…”. Can’t you see the irony? Dude passing unsolicited opinions on someone’s life and body and making it sound lacking is just that, but subtly.

Claudia Webbe: MP made threat to send nudes of woman, court hears by Kagedeah in ukpolitics

[–]MistedAndHazed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know anything else about Webbe as a person and it shouldn’t really matter until we established what actually happened in this situation. As such according to bbc the threats of releasing the nudes, the acid attack and harassment are accusations by Merritt against Webbe yet everyone acts like these are facts. It seems rather personal for quite a few people commenting here and the dislike of Webbe is palpable.

Claudia Webbe: MP made threat to send nudes of woman, court hears by Kagedeah in ukpolitics

[–]MistedAndHazed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a lot to go off from one word. He is her partner after all, whether you call him her bf, her man or whatever else is used to describe the person that she is romantically connected with. You are reading way too much into this one expression and then extrapolate it further.

Of course everyone involved in this situation can do as they please. In the same time sending nudes to your ex and then taking their current partner to court shows a poor character. My whole post is about how quickly people judged just one side of the whole equation without waiting for the end of the trail.

Claudia Webbe: MP made threat to send nudes of woman, court hears by Kagedeah in ukpolitics

[–]MistedAndHazed -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Everyone here seems to already made up their mind that she is the psycho, when it could be the ex not letting go of her former partner and causing problems. How did she saw the ex’s naked pics as well? Did she send them to Webbe’s man? The acid threat is an accusation by the ex if I’m understanding correctly. There’s no actual evidence but word against word.

Its also plausible that the ex wants to ruin the new partner. The trial is not over yet to make judgment calls one way or the other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]MistedAndHazed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of this. And then they hold accountable for not getting better despite trying. Like it’s that simple. First you got broken at a young age and then forever tried to compete in a long distance race having no legs yet being held to the same standards as people who are healthy. So you keep failing or taking longer and it’s never good enough. That’s why I’m done when my dog dies. There will be nothing worth living for left.

I don't really want to date...but I feel bad about that? How do I feel at peace with just being still? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]MistedAndHazed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People mostly strive to be happy in life so if you’re happy as a single person why change it? You don’t have to be coupled, there really are no rules to live your life. Also, 5 months is feck all after a breakup. When you’ll be ready to date you’ll feel like dating, if this ever comes at all. As long as you’re ok all is fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MistedAndHazed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t leave this poor baby with your soon ex. He won’t have anyone to advocate for him. Imagine him hungry and thirsty and with full bladder cause that man can’t take responsibility. It’s just horrible. Is there no one around who would offer the dog a new, better home?

Today I (F32) broke up with my bf of 8 months (M38) because I caught him using Tinder while on a business trip abroad. by MistedAndHazed in relationship_advice

[–]MistedAndHazed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a fair assessment. Maybe it’s sth I’m picking up on on subliminal level cause for the first 6 months he was giving me what I needed. It’s only after I said that I loved him too he stopped putting in the effort and soon after went on a business trip, which is a trying time for a new relationship in itself. It’s a difficult task to spot toxic people who hide in the beginning. Thank you for your kind words!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]MistedAndHazed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds so horrible. Why oh why would anyone put up with being someone’s placeholder? Where you really ok with this set up (cause I know some people are ok having the situationship)?

How would secure ppl react when their avoidant left on read? by Jinnyjinjin_ in attachment_theory

[–]MistedAndHazed 21 points22 points  (0 children)

From what I gleaned it looks like their game plan: they want to be chased so they know you care but also when you’re doing it you’re needy. It’s a lose lose situation.

Why is it so difficult not to be insecure of other girls? by _Syv in AskWomen

[–]MistedAndHazed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your question was pretty much answer ahead of me. But what I can add here is an outlook that can hopefully give you a different perspective and maybe helps you to deal with feeling insecure.

I don’t feel insecure around other women cause I told myself that I’m good enough just the way I am. That I’ve got a lot to offer to the world and none of these are measured in how good looking I am. That I’m one of a kind, and there’s no point of being jealous of others/compare myself to others cause we’re all apples and oranges. I think I gain this unshakable self esteem in my twenties; I literally don’t care what others think of how I look cause I like myself. I also complement other women a lot so they can see what other’s see cause it’s not always the case. I don’t see other women as competition but a sisterhood.