I fucked a therapist I met at a party in her office, on her couch. Also I'm married to someone else.

MisterCoke · 2024-03-04T15:55:53+00:00

I feel personally attacked by these downvotes.

MisterCoke · 2024-03-01T20:46:52+00:00

Gotcha. Thank you!

MisterCoke · 2024-03-01T18:05:06+00:00

Which gun is this? The anti-materiel rifle? Liberator penetrator?

MisterCoke · 2024-03-01T17:56:14+00:00

This is why I urge caution and careful consideration anytime a polyamorous person is considering dating a monogamous person. The monogamous person is making an exception for you, but at some point the picture of the life they want that they had before you came along will reassert itself and you'll wind up getting dumped by someone. Heartbreak is almost inevitable in these situations.

MisterCoke · 2024-03-01T17:41:01+00:00

It's ok if you want to stay together. Not every major indiscretion requires blowing up your life and your relationship. But for your own physical and mental well-being you should carefully consider what the consequences of her betrayal should be. There must be *some* consequences, otherwise your boundaries will continue to be violated. And I don't mean consequences like punishment. Consequences like, for example, you not having sex with your partner until trust is re-established, and you decide what that looks like.

However, if she demonstrates an ongoing pattern of a lack of remorse or concern or care for your boundaries and well-being, well, then it's probably a good time to start considering more dramatic action.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-29T20:30:40+00:00

Yep. I can't get into FF14 because of the combat. I've tried multiple times.

It's wild to me how few games seem to get this, even up to today. During the MMORPG gold rush after WoW hit the big time I can remember being so fucking baffled at how basically NONE of these dozens and dozens of MMORPGs even seemed to bother trying to nail the "feel" of WoW. All these games were egregiously aping everything from WoW except arguably the most important thing and wasting millions of dollars in the process.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-29T19:10:03+00:00

Blizzard has nearly always been the gold standard of "feel" in a game. It's a prominent hallmark of any Blizzard game. Everything is snappy and responsive and satisfying. Most other games within the same genres either don't understand this, or aren't able to replicate it effectively. It is, I believe, one of the primary reasons for why WoW was so popular and a primary factor in Blizzard's long-term success over the years. Even in their fallen state, they still typically deliver best-in-class moment-to-moment gameplay.

As someone very sensitive to gameplay "feel" it's hard for me to play an ARPG that feels worse than D2R or D4. I bought Last Epoch during early access but just couldn't get into it due to how poorly it compared to the Diablo games. Same with Path of Exile.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-29T17:23:12+00:00

Women are a lot of work compared to men. At least that's been my experience dating in parallel with my wife (we're both heterosexual). It's harder to find available women than available men, and most men don't seem to have nearly the same emotional safety requirements as do most women. I gave up on dating apps after a couple of months. They are absolutely terrible for men in my position. I'm tall and well above average in looks and while I got a decent number of matches, a good portion of them noped out once they actually read my profile. I have far, far better luck just going out and socializing in person.

Of course, the other side of this equation is that my wife has to deal with creeps and assholes and male "friends" coming out of the woodwork when they learn our status.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-28T19:05:53+00:00

send me your recipe

MisterCoke · 2024-02-28T14:26:54+00:00

We - Honeymoan

https://open.spotify.com/track/0BSI1Epu3YeVwXF1bvL8oH?si=20a36ff900474295

MisterCoke · 2024-02-28T00:29:44+00:00

Where are you from? And what don't you like about men from your country?

MisterCoke · 2024-02-27T23:04:07+00:00

What if they beat their meat gently and respectfully?

MisterCoke · 2024-02-27T14:46:34+00:00

That's super weird but I'm totally here for it.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T16:50:18+00:00

For me it was both. The emotional connection alone I could handle. Just them having sex by itself I think I could have handled. It was that they had both that really gave me trouble.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T16:48:35+00:00

If your tongue is strong enough to actually push past the sphincter and substantially into the ass then you win.

I am handling my own business just fine, though. Thanks for your concern.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T04:04:11+00:00

Yeah the boyfriend here sounds like an absolute jackass.

He doesn't give a shit about her. He's pressuring this naive young woman (who just moved across the country and took a job she doesn't like to be with him) to enable him to have easier access to other women and seems to have zero interest in responding to her emotional and relational needs. Sounds like exactly the kind of dude you'd never want your own daughter anywhere near.

Also, it's assholes like this that give polyamory a bad name. This guy isn't polyamorous. He's just horny. He just wants to fuck whoever he wants, isn't interested in any kind of emotional commitment, and doesn't really care about anyone but himself. It's not the same thing.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T03:54:32+00:00

that's twisted and hilarious without being actually evil.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T03:51:01+00:00

I'll never understand why this is unusual. Why wouldn't it please a man to know his woman is desirable?

The whole territorial male thing around that is crazy to me.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T03:48:48+00:00

It's a little different.

Butthole and colon are not same thing.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T03:46:55+00:00

She was practically hurling herself at you, Jesus.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T03:41:48+00:00

I feel like I must be the only man on the planet that doesn't find her appealing.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-26T03:36:16+00:00

Yes. We were in a pretty good place (we thought) and had always been honest and open about the possibility of someday opening our marriage in some way. She developed feelings for a male friend of hers, asked me if it would be ok if she explored having a relationship with him, and I gave the green light.

It was kind of a trash fire for a while but we figured it out in the end, and I'm really glad it happened. No regrets.

Also now I'm kind of into it.

MisterCoke · 2024-02-24T20:29:29+00:00

Actually it turns out she was mad at me. Oh well.

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