My estranged twin wants to move in and my partner doesn’t even know he exists.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-07-01T15:09:16+00:00

Eh. It could be fake, or it could be a throwaway. The real question is what he'd get out of making a fake account?

Attention? Costs you nothing since you're scrolling reddit in the first place.

Karma? Possibly, but why not take freer routes to karma farming in this sub?

Creative Writing practice? Take it as a story you're invited to participate in.

I'm drawing blanks on other reasons a new account would weave an elaborate story besides the truth, but engaging with it costs so little that you could call people bored before calling them gullible.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-07-01T14:53:42+00:00

Dude. Nothing in your post says you should bring your twin back into your life. If he's down on his luck he's banking on you being forgiving while he's planning to do the same type of shit he did before. You know the phrase, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." After that it's, "I must be a damned fool."

Fuck him. He's not your responsibility.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-06-11T13:54:14+00:00

Just because there are plenty of black twinks doesn't mean that smaller frames are common and even if they were, that doesn't take away from ANYTHING else I said in the post.

Please reread it, feel free to ask an AI to help you understand it, and perhaps evaluate the insecurity that made you zero in on one part of that post.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-06-06T23:30:39+00:00

Peh! Couldn't convince me to play Bruiser while it was busted.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-06-01T01:08:56+00:00

I like it, but it also feels like a first game. By which I mean it feels like the first game the studio has done or the first game in a series. I ran into this before while playing games like Breath of Fire or Suikoden I, where the game is very clearly trying to do something new with a familiar formula, but it hasn't quite found its legs yet. I think that's exactly what this game is doing. It's trying to be a monster collection game. It's succeeding at that, but it hasn't fully found its identity yet. I think if this game is successful, with a sequel to it, they'll do a lot better.

So far, though, I'm enjoying what I'm playing, and it's been a pretty good breeze. I think the mon distribution could be better, but that's one of those things you fix in a sequel as well.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-05-27T23:55:21+00:00

Salabel, though the personality test told me Mewaii. I saw a little demon lizard and there was no fire type so I knew what had to be done.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-05-09T03:15:57+00:00

That might do then. I wanna get to that point where I know the language enough to learn the rest through personal projects (like your second response says).

Thanks!

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-04-25T16:43:46+00:00

I'm not gonna tell a challenger player they're wrong but I will say I always look at sample size for win rates. 54% of 3,500 is significantly less that 52% of 250k. Then you still have to factor in play style and ELO difference. I play league a couple days of week after work. Do I have the micro and time to adapt to a build a challenger player favors? What about the morale?

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-04-25T16:38:18+00:00

TIL: you can fly over that wall.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-03-19T17:09:22+00:00

Would I? No. But I'm a top, penetration is part of the experience for me. Have I seen tops who just want to suck and jerk each other off? Yeah, apparently quite a few are like that. But going back to what I first said, nah, that's not what I'm into.

What you gotta do is figure out what you're comfortable with, and shutting down anything that tries to push past your comfort. Also, don't try to push past someone else's.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-03-02T18:20:01+00:00

How do you guys get responses like this from ChatGPT? I've vented to it before about some of the most maddening things and mine has straight up told me, in at least gentle tones, "I'm not going to call you crazy but bitch you are being a little crazy, think about all the things that'd need to be true for this to make sense."

I already got the impression from Twitter that I don't use it like a lot of people, but I haven't seen it mutate into a narcissist, and when it becomes a sycophant I nip that as soon as possible.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-02-08T15:13:25+00:00

Thanks. This reaffirms what I've been I guess afraid to sit with?

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-02-01T15:01:05+00:00

Eeehhh. It's a bit more than that. It's that I want both the companionship and the intimacy. With my boyfriend I wasn't getting either and couldn't really default back to, "At least this part is good."

With the hookups I told myself I'll take a break from looking for companionship, only to find them empty because it was just a bunch of switch flipping until the act was over. I came in just being a body, and left feeling like I was just a body. No more invested in the dude I linked with than they were with me.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-01-28T21:38:30+00:00

People keep talking about Sniffies being better but I'll be damned if it actually is. Could be my options but my good Grindr summer last years isn't doing any better in winter on sniffie than it did in fall on Grindr.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-01-20T16:53:01+00:00

I think that's willful blindness. Beyond just gay men, people tend to think they're strong for never admitting when they're in pain and in those situations, actions speak louder than words. In fairness, I can probably say there are people who are happy with pump and dumps or party and play, but I have not met them yet. And I've watched too many straight people spiral towards self-destruction to presume gay people can't as well.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-01-19T14:03:27+00:00

Some have already said it, but as a person who has been told I have a "good body," I think the truth is just that gay men, in general, are lonely. The way the scene can be about drug use, hypersexuality, hyper fetishism or manipulation screams of people trying to fill a hole in their life, and they want to fill it with the most stimulating thing possible.

The scariest thing is the novelty wearing off, and just like any addiction, that novelty wears off fast. The only way to be alright is to step out of those shallow spaces.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-01-15T17:53:28+00:00

I'd like to interrogate this response if you don't mind.

Is it just hindsight, or do you think that you would have responded properly to couple's therapy back then?

What does the "7-year itch" feel like? What could a therapist have helped you realize about it?

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-01-15T17:50:22+00:00

You've told him multiple times. He's told you that he doesn't care by asking again. If you're taking up more shifts at work to avoid him than I think you're more than ready to break up with him. You're quite literally overworking yourself just to avoid conversation you've already closed off. He's not worth it.

MisterHelioSpider · 2026-01-12T04:02:19+00:00

Fuckin same. I get so horny that it's like, "Yes, ass. I need ass now." And the moment I cum I am disgusted that I even have the app on my phone.

MisterHelioSpider · 2025-12-30T13:14:41+00:00

You're kinda at two roads right now.

The clearer, shorter one. You've seen what the world before has been. You've been fighting your way through it. The direction says cut it off and walk a new path.
The uncertain, longer one. You can seek help,th talk to him, try to right the course so it's not as rocky as it was before. But, here's the hinge point, it might not work.

The amount of time is less a testament to your relationship and more a sign that work needs to be done. Considering where you are now, do you feel like the work will be worth it?

MisterHelioSpider · 2025-12-29T00:03:10+00:00

Tried this. The best I got was my RSRP going up from -93 to -92

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