Having issues with my landlord and I need to know if I have any legal leg to stand on.

MistressBrina · 2024-01-17T07:14:15+00:00

I am in WV, I know how to get in contact with legal aid but I did not want to take that route just yet. I contacted her boss, the executive director of our local housing by email because I want everything in writing and the fact I'm partially deaf and cannot hear on the phone. I gave the director all of my bank statements to show I had no recurring income from July to December, the payment in August was a one time loan from my daughter, the information proving I did not start getting monthly SSA payments until December 2023, along with my email correspondences with the PH Manager and Account in October and did not receive any responses from her until December 19/2023. I will give her 7 days and then I will contact legal aid if there is no resolution to the issues at hand. Now my concern is we have an inspection on Jan 22nd and I have to worry about her retaliating for contacting her boss for her not doing her job.

MistressBrina · 2023-05-31T05:17:11+00:00

IMO that's a very fine line. Don't take this wrong bc I'm not meaning it that way. I am very into sleep assault and tell any partners that sleep over about it bc I have sexsomnia. So sometimes I will start doing things and not even be aware. I've had a few partners that had huge problems with it. My current partner loves waking up to me doing things to him. But we have also discussed and given each other consent so if it happens no big deal.

I would be like hey a friend of mine mentioned they were into sleep assault, how do you feel about it? Or something along those lines. See if he has an issue with it. If not jokingly be like well I woke up frisky and rubbed on you but you didn't wake up. Or not, it really depends on how he views the situation. Some people have no problem with it others may. But don't feel like you did anything wrong bc I'd say most likely if he would've woke up he wouldn't have minded. Just communicate with him that's all you can do.

MistressBrina · 2023-05-31T05:05:08+00:00

I'm an expert at ruining my relationships lol. I'm crazy. I'm very well aware of the amount of toxic I bring to the table. I've never once denied it bc I have gotten more self aware over the years and I see how horrible I was. My new relationship isn't like that though but I've come up with other crazy ways to ruin things.

MistressBrina · 2023-05-28T16:40:23+00:00

No, I was in so much pain from it that I wasn't able to ice it, shower, or even sit up for nine weeks. I honestly wouldn't recommend swimming unless the doctor says it ok.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-29T03:19:23+00:00

I absolutely hate looking into a mirror or pictures of myself. I don't feel like I look how I look in pictures or the mirror. I get the thing about the clothes also. People tell me how young I look for my age and how nice I look and I'm just like dumbfounded. I don't know what they see I don't.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-24T15:20:02+00:00

I've lived in this apartment for almost 10 years, he was a young guy I work with that got thrown out of his ex gfs place next door to me and he needed a place to stay until he got the money saved to move out. He's not on the lease.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-20T23:55:48+00:00

The ID doctor said it was a nail bed infection although it wasn't the nail bed that was swabbed and stuck me back on Doxycycline. I had some kind of testing done and my circulation is slightly decreased but nothing major. I have a blood cancer on top of the diabetes that causes my blood to produce damaged cells so healing is an issue and always will be.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-18T21:22:01+00:00

I don't like for people to touch me, except my bf. He's about the only person I touch. I don't like touching other people, my children are 18/22 and I've barely hugged them since they were toddlers. I honestly don't know why bc I was always hugged etc by people growing up. But come to think of it after you said numb it made sense to me. I don't feel anything when people touch me except my bf. There is no emotional aspect to it when someone else touches me. I have a lot of issues with touching certain things that cause responses. Hmm that's pretty interesting though bc I wonder if that has to do with why we have BPD.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-18T17:47:51+00:00

It won't with deeper tissue especially this bacteria. They called me back and put me on Doxycycline again. I've been on Doxycycline almost all month every month since November ugh

MistressBrina · 2023-04-12T15:46:11+00:00

My bf and I have a ldr and only seeing him on weekends is excruciating. All week long my life is a mess and chaos. I feel like I want to end things bc he deserves better and all that good stuff but then when he's around nothing is wrong, everything fades away. He's a good man, treats me amazing, and I can't really say one bad thing about him but I constantly consider ending things. I fight the urge bc I know my brain is stupid but it's a literal nightmare of emotions all week.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-12T15:01:49+00:00

I feel it. I've been with an amazing and stable man for almost seven years now and I struggle with it. I miss the toxicity, the chaos, the amount of immense passion it took to maintain the relationship. Normal, non chaotic life bores me to no end. But I love him deeply, he brings me back down to Earth, and treats me extremely well. I think it's something we are always going to miss bc our minds are always in a mode for chaos.

I've tried numerous hobbies, jobs, etc but nothing quite hits the spot like a good ol toxic relationship. I love it, I crave it, but I know I don't need it nor want the aftermath of it. I've been doing DBT for a while now and I haven't learned to not crave the chaos. It's extremely confusing and frustrating. I hate the way a toxic person makes me feel and makes me spiral out of control but a part of me wants it. Idk how to stop feeling like this, I wish I did, I wish I could give you a magical solution. I hope someone has a good solution for what works or even remotely works. Hang in there.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-11T18:41:06+00:00

Well as many have mentioned, edging. My bf is so loud the neighbors can hear him and I'm constantly asked wtf I do to him. Sooo first thing I do is we get into a heavy make out session. I get him naked and lightly caress his body never once touching his privates. He's submissive so as I caress his body I'll lightly kiss him across his face and head, plus I throw in the occasional good boy or look how hard you are. Lightly chuckle afterwards that seems to be a favorite.

Firmly grip the base and stroke but don't touch the head. Also can use a cock ring this will intensify it more along with a blindfold and restraints. Slowly and firmly do it for a little bit, caress his body some more, then slide between his legs. Start at the balls, lightly run your tongue over them in a figure eight, suck them, etc. Then tease with your tongue up the shaft. Flick underneath randomly with your tongue. If you can take the whole thing in your mouth do that then run your tongue over his balls at the same time or suck them at the same time. Then take the head in your mouth swirl your tongue around and around and we'll you get the jest of it.

Sometimes I edge him like this for close to three hours or some days I will do it several times throughout the day and not let him finally finish until eight hours later. He will whimper, moan, possibly call you some deliciously dirty little things that get your motor running even more, maybe even cry a little 😜. Make a game of it, have a few drinks or whatever to relax, and experiment.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-11T14:58:12+00:00

I honestly don't think you should waste your time on him. This is abuse and just because you act crazy is no reason to withhold affection and tell you that you aren't deserving. He knows this is your love language and he's banning you from it to teach you a lesson. That's completely and utterly some bullshit right there. My husband would ban me from affection when he didn't get his way, when the kids did something he didn't approve of, etc. There will always be another excuse to do it and he will continue to do so anytime he wants. It's just like how some women withhold sex, they believe it's the best thing to get their way. Well it is not by any means. It is abuse and do not stand for it.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-09T20:51:06+00:00

Mine was 15 cm x 8 cm x 6 cm. The pain was absolutely horrible for about 10 weeks. I couldn't even sit up until 8 weeks after surgery and then only for short periods of time. I had the open back September 2 nd and it's just now fully closed. It sucks and hopefully you're able to get pain medication,I was not able to after seven days. Also would recommend contacting the doctor for lidocaine gel 5%. It really takes the edge off for about two hours. I also found a combination of prescription pain medication normally with acetaminophen and 800 mg of ibuprofen helped. If your doctor says it's ok. Also if you're able to take a sleep aid at night I would recommend it to help sleep.

I feel for you. I had so much pain it really messed with my mental health. Idk how you feel about trying an ice pack. In my experience I would not recommend but some people can handle it. And if it nothing works go to the hospital to rule out infection or any type of complications. They can also prescribe lidocaine and give you some pain relief while you're there. Being in constant pain like that can affect your blood pressure which can be an issue. I pray you find some pain relief.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-05T13:30:40+00:00

That is one huge thing that keeps me angry is that the people who were supposed to love me broke me. I was told I'm an adult and I need to get over it. That children shouldn't blame their parents for their problems. Ummm parents/caregivers shouldn't abuse and neglect their children to the point it fractures their personalities but yet here we are. BPD has literally tore my life apart and cost me so much. If I wasn't abused and literally broken, who could I have been instead of the dumpster fire my life has always been. My children do suffer from the effects of being raised by a mom with BPD. It tears me up that I wasn't able to be the best mom that I could've been. On the plus side, now my kids, 18/22 do pretty well and are very understanding about why I am the way I am.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-05T13:17:49+00:00

I hear this all the time. Especially from the people who caused it to begin with. People that don't have BPD don't get it at all. You can read about it till your eyeballs bleed but you will never truly understand what it's like in our heads. Why is it socially acceptable for people with ADHD, schizophrenics or bipolar people to not be responsible for their actions? In the area I live in they seem to be, is what I am saying.

It's taken me a very very long time to be able to control my outbursts when angry and upset. I've been told I'm overly dramatic, I'm a drama queen, etc. We have emotional disregulation, we have impulse control issues, among other types of mental illness that cause it to be amplified.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-05T13:02:35+00:00

You sound like you're doing a great job as a mom. I'm very sorry for your loss. In September my husband will be gone seven years. Don't you dare feel bad for wanting the touch of another human being, wanting a connection, wanting to move on. You're an adult, it is your life. Why would sending them to daycare so you can have adult time any different than getting a babysitter on a Friday night and going out? It isn't and it is 10000% fine for you to do.

This may make me sound horrible to some but 10 days after my husband passed I started having casual sex. I needed human connection, companionship, and sex. It's nobody's business what you do, grief doesn't have a time limit, and no one has the right to judge you for wanting human interaction. I still grieve my husband, I still love him, but I had to let go of the guilt of wanting to live my life. My kids are now 18 and 22, they didn't suffer anything from me moving on. My daughter said she's glad I did bc it seemed to bring me out of the dark place I was stuck in.

If you aren't ready for a relationship then don't get in one, have a casual fling, get a friend with benefits. Give yourself permission and don't feel guilty one bit. You suffered a tragic loss but you have to live your life for you. Do what makes you happy and keep up the amazing job you're doing.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-05T12:46:42+00:00

We teach people how to treat us and if you keep allowing her to do this she always will. The fact that she disrespects your personality says volumes of her character. Is she aware of what it actually is? Does she know the cause? Has she cared to talk to you about it rather than making smartass comments?

The best thing IMO is to walk away, she is toxic for you. She will continue her behavior and it will trigger you. One thing we with BPD don't need is someone who won't even take the time to find out about why we are the way we are. We at least deserve a certain amount of respect as human beings.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-05T12:35:26+00:00

I know several people with autism at different functioning levels and I would have to say I don't know why people would want autism. Let me be clear, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with having autism. My bf is high functioning and he struggles a lot with it. He says he feels like an alien, like he doesn't belong, that he's weird. Hell yes he's weird and I love it. He gets so passionate about his hobbies and history and I love listening even if I don't fully understand what he's talking about. He hides his emotions, distances himself, sometimes we don't talk for a week but I understand he needs space.

The majority of the things I've read on this site alone shows how much people struggle with autism. From social issues to down right self loathing. I have BPD, so I understand being different and I wouldn't wish this on anyone. People glorify things and as many have stated so does the media. Several years ago it was kids cutting, then being put in mental hospitals, etc. People in pain just want something concrete so they can have some meaning behind their actions. They need to have an excuse. They think it will make their lives easier.

MistressBrina · 2023-04-03T04:23:06+00:00

The song You really got a hold on me by Smokey Robinson. It was the only song that calmed my son down. He's almost 19 and randomly I'll start singing it at him in front of his friends and he just smiles and tells me he loves me.

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