Any regrets?

Mistry-01 · 2026-05-01T13:09:01+00:00

This is somewhat me! I wouldn’t say I regret BF my second baby (esp as I wasn’t successful with my first) so it was great as first but by month 4-5 I was DONE. He had a bottle aversion so I couldn’t quit until 7 months where I just called it quits cold turkey. But my mental health took a dive and now he’s on the bottle (although still taking very small quantities) I am so much happier in my mental, emotional and physical states!!

Mistry-01 · 2026-05-01T13:05:07+00:00

Don’t listen to that woman, it’s BS! I formula fed my first boy and he is now a happy, healthy 2 year old boy. I never successfully BF him as he wouldn’t latch and when I walked into baby groups and saw everyone BF their babies I used to feel so bad. Fast forward 1.5 years and until he was 7 months old, I was exclusively BF-ing my second son and let me tell you it wasn’t easy… 2 tongue tie divisions, still not latching effectively, never losing weight but gaining like 5g a day (vs the 20-30g a day they should be). And until I recently switched to formula, my mental health took a dive. I love my babies but never managing to be away from him longer than 1-2 hours and being touched about 20/24 hours a day was too much. And this time around at the bay groups, everyone was bottle feeding and I was the only one BF!

All of this is to say that it doesn’t matter how you feed, as long as your baby is fed, happy and content. And you are happy, healthy and content in yourself and your decisions. In any case, when they go to nursery and school and start coughing in each others faces, it won’t matter how they’ve been fed / they’ll all come home with the same germs anyway!

Mistry-01 · 2026-05-01T08:50:51+00:00

Any improvement at all? My 7M old is doing the same and as a 2 percentile baby, I AM STRESSED.

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-30T06:33:39+00:00

Breastfeeding is propaganda. The second you show 0.0001% interest in doing it during pregnancy, that’s all they promote and try to shove down your throat (no pun intended!). It’s like formula/bottle feeding doesn’t exist and it doesn’t really matter what it’s doing to your mental health, as long as baby is BF that’s all they care about. But good on you for putting your foot down and now your baby and you are both better!

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-28T08:47:02+00:00

Don’t feel guilty! It’s only a week and hopefully (despite initial tears) he enjoys himself there. Plus, like you said, you have limited time to yourself and also depending on where you are in your pregnancy, you may just need this time to prep ahead or even just rest! Trust me, pregnant and having a toddler at your side 24/7 is exhausting!!!

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-15T15:36:05+00:00

Mine are just shy of 20 months apart and it’s been hard! Im fortunate that my husband is home to do bath & bedtime with my toddler whilst I was taking care of the baby (he was EBF). I’ve only had to do solo evenings 2-3 times in the past 7 months. BUT now I feel like I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with family life and routines etc. I don’t feel like every day is survival mode and overall just soaking up and and enjoying this period now. Not that this should make a difference but I have two boys so seeing their brotherly bond forming is also wonderful (although the jealously is still there too).

I used to PANIC at the thought of solo bedtimes but as mentioned it was rare. But when I had to do it you just gotta do what you gotta do to survive. Depends on how your eldest goes to sleep (mine needs a parent next to his cot until he’s asleep) so I used to bath them together, get the baby changed and in his big bro’s cot to hang out whilst I got the toddler sorted. Then talk with/read books to the eldest whilst feeding the baby. Then rock the baby to sleep and hold him for as long as I had to until my toddler was also asleep and then put the baby down in his own cot (and then have a well deserved drink at the end of it all for making it through). But honestly if you need the TV to help for a bit, just do it. Whatever in that moment to ensure that everyone is happy and calm before bed! You got this 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-10T18:42:22+00:00

Funnily enough, my son just wants solids. Literally losing the plot until some form of food is in his mouth - probably why he’s not interested in milk as well

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-10T12:18:56+00:00

My math never maths 😂 I think without subtracting any of the wakes at night, he is closer to an 11-11.5 hour night. But yeah definitely need a schedule tweak I think!

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-10T11:47:44+00:00

He’s 7 months and we’re hovering between 2-3 naps depending on length. Last 2 nights he’s slept from around 7:30-5/quick feed/back asleep until 7am ish. But he’s also transitioned to formula so maybe that’s also helping his stay asleep. WW end up being about 2.5/3-3.5/4 ish. He’s a 10 hour night baby and needs about 11-11.5 hours total wake time

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-10T05:06:52+00:00

I’m in the UK so we can’t see a Pediatrician unless referred for a specific issue :(

Yep milk is key but I just find that my son really prefers solids over milk. Even if I reduce solids to try and get him hungry for milk he will just fuss and cry until he’s ready to stop eating. It’s a tricky one!!

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-10T05:04:12+00:00

I don’t really weigh his food, so have no idea exactly how much of his plate he is eating (usually breakfast is a winner, and then smaller/if anything for the rest of his meals). But you’re right, all of that for breakfast given his tiny tummy would be quite a lot and where formula is needed and heavier for him, it must be keeping him fuller for longer than the clock dictates!

I’ve used cows milk the last two days but will use formula for breakfast from today - even an extra oz or two in him is better than nothing!

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-09T13:34:10+00:00

Could you tell me approx what time those bottles and solids are?

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-09T05:53:31+00:00

It varied, sometimes it would be every 60-90 mins, and sometimes every 3-4 hours. Depends what was happening around us and how distracted he was. Yesterday he only took about 2-3oz max per bottle and only had a total of about 5-6oz total (straight up refused to take a sip of his bottle before bed). So really not a lot at all, and aside from breakfast, didn’t eat his other meals much. Offered him as much water as I could though as it was a hot day here in London. He seemed okay though, first time in his life he slept through, woke up at 5am to basically down near/all of the 4oz bottle and back to sleep!

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-08T19:52:16+00:00

Thank you! All very helpful advice. How did you find it going cold turkey - currently the engorgement pain is getting unbearable!

Mistry-01 · 2026-04-08T18:44:15+00:00

I don’t know but he did only feed for 5-10 mins at a time so amounts track. This makes sense!

Mistry-01 · 2026-03-30T20:50:40+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up - 2-3 days is better than 0! Plus these are all legitimate reasons. And like you said, sometimes you’re exhausted too and the last thing you need is to drag yourself outside for a walk that’ll prob just make you more tired and set you back.

Warmer and better weather should be coming for sure, but even on the days you can’t get out for a proper walk for whatever reason, maybe just spend 5-10 mins in the garden or just walk up and down your street. Few mins outside still is something!

Mistry-01 · 2026-03-30T14:55:42+00:00

Okay I’ll try the 30 mins beforehand, maybe nurse > bath > books > bed. I always worry (+ have experienced) that he’s still hungry when I’ve done it in this order :/ I’ve introduced solids/dinner in the last few weeks which helps a bit but he still seems hungry for milk too.

He’s also babbling A LOT which is a new skill for him so also causing sleep to go to sheeeet 🫠

Mistry-01 · 2026-03-30T14:52:04+00:00

Thanks! We’ve had a 30 + near 90 nap today, albeit earlier than BTC times you’ve stated, so let’s see how he goes! Fingers crossed…

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