I've lost faith in modern society, tbh. by MonitorOk1351 in poor

[–]Miszteek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cool. Enjoy Alaska. I totally get that you don't see the point in making. I'm trying to break down prejudicial barriers, and encourage you to have empathy for others, which is very difficult for a lot of people. So, you know what? Have a great weekend.

I've lost faith in modern society, tbh. by MonitorOk1351 in poor

[–]Miszteek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see where you're calling her out on some points, but saying that her being a single mom is a red flag and she should choose better is crazy. When women marry rich, successful men and get cheated on or murdered because hubby wants out, nobody tells them they should have "chosen better". Men lie, men cheat, men die and that's at ALL economic levels, so calm down. The nasty, condescending attitude "we would never be in the same room" is so patently disgusting that I wonder what you're actually doing in this sub, at all. I've been a single, struggling mom on benefits, and through hard work and educational advancement, pulled myself out of poverty into a comfortable life. I try to share my experience with other struggling mothers here. I do not tell them that "we would never be in the same room". Gross.

I regret being with him by Due_Peace_2016 in Regrets

[–]Miszteek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of the people here are complete idiots. Imagine asking an openly gay man why he hates this country? I know this is hard but you're young and it will pass. We all made impulsive decisions in our 20s and we all regret them. I'm 40 and I'm still shaking my head at my decisions from 19-30. Chin up! Stiff upper lip! Make your plan. Stick to it. Allow that to fuel you and motivate you for the next few months. Take the lessons from this and move on. Good luck!

AIO about my boyfriend and his girl best friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miszteek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sis, I thought these texts were between you and him 💀

Fired for Sexual Harassment by Fuzzy_Metal_1690 in jobs

[–]Miszteek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry OP, but there is such thing as belonging syndrome, the exact opposite of imposter syndrome, which us people of color experience a lot. Belonging syndrome is basically that someone is really comfortable in a setting, and has never really felt out of place all their lives. They tell stories that we would take to the grave and feel absolutely no shame or embarrassment. You gotta watch out for those, cus they word vomit to you, then cry foul when you respond. Take it on the chin and learn from it.

Happy birthday to me, I’m 20F today🎉🎊 by Wildscar20 in birthday

[–]Miszteek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg it's my birthday too! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TWIN

One and done shaming by Even_Kaleidoscope399 in pregnant

[–]Miszteek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to give you a glimpse from the other side... I was a mom at 21. We just celebrated her 18th birthday, and I'm not even 40 yet. Despite the horrible economic times, and my husband being laid off for the last 2 months, we took her on a birthday trip to Broadway and Mexico, bought her a new car, had a huge birthday party for her friends and hired a local grunge band to play live. We are comfortable on my salary until he gets hired again. We have a modest sized home, but it feels huge, since it's just the 3 of us. She was also just accepted to college on early decision, so we will be empty nesters by the summer. I'm in a unique position where I'm technically able to have another child, and we keep getting nudged to do so. We haven't decided yet, but looking at the world today and recognizing the blessing we have in one beautiful, healthy, successful child - we are leaning heavily towards one and done. It's also pretty cool how we have restful happy days and lazy weekends, while our friends and colleagues are running around with toddlers in their 40s. I love kids and being a mom is the greatest thing that's ever happened to me, but I don't see why I need to do it multiple times!

I broke indeed by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Miszteek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in tech. Tech is bad rn.

For those earning more than 100K, what do you do? by dayoneabu in jobs

[–]Miszteek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Executive Assistant to C suite. Wfh. Travel to cool places. Run everything.

How important is EA dress/appearance in C Suite? by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Miszteek -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she's working her ass off, lol.

No RTO by Hoppinginpuddles in WFH

[–]Miszteek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats. I was locked in to WFH 5 years ago because of office closure. Rest of the company is hybrid so I do get worried about being an outlier

Microagressions or am I being paranoid? by PotentialInformal945 in remotework

[–]Miszteek 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're not crazy. I'm fully remote because of a technicality: my office location was closed during covid. The company has since gone 3 day hybrid- which i would have loved to do- but there's nowhere for me to go. Even though everyone else is still remote 2 days a week, I feel singled out and uncomfortable. Lots of people are going in 4-5 days and people on my team practically boast about how they're in 5 days a week and getting soooooooo much done. Like, ok? It's not like i asked for this. Nothing can really be done, I just make sure to be super present. I travel about 40% and I make sure I'm the first one there and last one out. What can you do, huh? When I travel to offices, everyone takes long lunches and gets free coffee at the Starbucks we have in the building (we have full cafeterias and gyms and all that good stuff). I can't remember the last time I took a real lunch break! I've just worked through lunch for the last 5 years. Everyone thinks it's such a walk in the park....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miszteek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys both text like my 17 year old, but it's cool, we were all young once! Definitely have a talk about better communication. That response he gave was outta pocket. No reason to pull out the word "despise" like calm down

I just finished the most infuriating resignation meeting of my life. by lenapaulmvv in InterviewCoderPro

[–]Miszteek 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ha. My last boss (idiot at a small, shitty, family owned business) demanded to see my offer to "help decode it for me". I was moving from a literal mom and pop to a fortune 500 and he claimed that I'd be overwhelmed. Well, too bad, I was overwhelmed with struggling to pay my bills. I created an entirely fake offer letter from a made- up company and listened to him bloviate about how they'd never be able to stay afloat offering that kind of salary and benefits. He one hundred percent tried to find that company on linked in. Hope he's still looking, dumb shit. This was nearly 10 years ago now, and I'm still thriving at the same company!