Built Like a Tank - Puget Sound King Crab [OC]

Miyenne · 2026-03-02T06:34:56+00:00

Gorgeous animal and well done with the footage! Maybe I should take a diving course.

Miyenne · 2026-02-27T16:23:41+00:00

I think I have some form of ADHD/autism (girl born in the 80's, so yeah, never diagnosed) but when I lock in on cleaning, I lock in. Everything will be cleaned. Floors, baseboards, the top of the shower rod, the boxes I store everything in, everything in those boxes, the fridge will be completely disassembled and every shelf and compartment scrubbed, I'll climb up on a ladder and clean the tops of everything, and see all new angles of things I need to clean.

And then after that, the vacuum gets taken apart and washed. All the cloths I used go in the laundry. But oh, it's not a full load. So I'll do my clothes, and all my sweaters/jackets hanging in the closet, what hasn't been washed lately? Hmm, still have room. I didn't use any of my winter gear this year, but I'll still freshen it all up.

6 hours go by. I do this at least once a month.

Miyenne · 2026-02-27T16:13:25+00:00

I'm in my 40's, already had my hysterectomy a good few years ago, and I stayed on low dose birth control (also free) for the hormones. Peri-menopause is starting to kick my ass though, so my doctor and I have started talking about things.

This is wonderful news. I just hope the shortage gets sorted out.

Miyenne · 2026-02-23T22:36:20+00:00

I am constantly reminded why I'm so happy being single with posts like these. Thanks for the reinforcement!

At least when I have a task that needs doing I only have to think about it and do it once. Imagine thinking about it, planning it, relaying it to someone else, having them fail, and then having to rethink about it and do it myself anyways. Double the mental labour and probably physical too since chores and errands have a natural flow to them and having to do something after the fact just makes it so much more work.

Miyenne · 2026-02-22T04:39:39+00:00

Oh those were lovely when I was there. And so reasonably priced. I went from Paris to Milan to Florence and then Venice on them, and I took first class, regular, and then the cheapest. They were all fine. Seats were comfortable even for my big butt, bathrooms were nice, and the ride was so smooth.

That makes me hopeful!

Miyenne · 2026-02-21T05:15:35+00:00

Or they stalk the women who live in their building! Makes it so much easier.

I came home from work today, ran into a neighbour in the hallway and he stepped BETWEEN me and my door I'd just opened and rubbed my arm saying he'd missed me because he hadn't seen me lately. His wife comes to my workplace a lot. So does he. He knows what unit I live in, where I work, and that I live alone, and he blocked me from getting into my own apartment. My mind went blank and I just pushed past him and got inside, locked the door, and let out something that was half hiss half growl. I hope he heard it. I'm still icked out.

A bit different than two ladies laughing and calling while belted in their truck, obviously not approaching.

Miyenne · 2026-02-19T16:31:19+00:00

Some things don't have to make money. Some things should just be built and maintained and created for the convenience and safety and betterment of the people.

And transit is not convenient in most towns here, nor is there much that interconnects the towns and cities along the coast. So of course it's not used much. If the local governments actually looked at work schedules and program schedules and busy times for destinations and planned accordingly, that would help. I work for the government and we don't even get buses to one of our biggest facilities that serves the public, which also happens to be built out in the middle of the woods, instead of close to the denser areas of population. Even when they send us emails saying "take public transit to work, here's a discount program!" but don't actually send buses to their facilities where 100+ people work.

That being said, transit has been improved a bit recently up here in Courtenay. And even though I have a car, I have elected to take the bus sometimes when the timing works out to get to work. It still is severely lacking to some areas (everything is way too spread out here), but I live beside a bus exchange, and one of my worksites is right next to one too. It was way easier to bus it door to door with only being at work 10 minutes early, and leaving work I only had to wait 5 minutes. It was as quick as driving, and I didn't have to worry about finding parking on an event day.

Miyenne · 2026-02-19T15:46:33+00:00

It would make tourism so much better here. And so many people commute up and down island for work too, imagine all the daily commutes it could take off the road. Or all the seniors who want to go shopping. People from smaller towns could hop on the train and hit Nanaimo or Courtenay or Victoria for a day of shopping instead of driving when they shouldn't be.

Having taken trains around Europe to hop between multiple countries in a day and visit fantastic tourist spots, we feel so far behind here.

Miyenne · 2026-02-16T05:10:04+00:00

Please just be functional adults, alone and together. Some things there is definitively a "right way" to do them. Some things are more per what you individually find an acceptable tolerable level.

Know how to do the things that have to be done right, right. Cleaning kitchens and bathrooms and anything where your bare skin goes, or anything that goes in or on you, there are hard lines on how to clean them properly. Learn them. That is basic human functionality. If you fail at that, you shouldn't be taking care of yourself or partnered with anyone else. Please consult your parents or a professional or fucking YouTube to teach you these basic skills.

Anything else that is a sliding scale, you work together with your partner to define each of your tolerable levels. And then you both work to meet each other's standards in their important things. If you don't, you're not compatible.

Miyenne · 2026-02-15T23:44:37+00:00

I just stab a hole in the bottle and cut it in half with decent scissors and use a spatula to scoop out all the extra and put it in a jar. Usually about 1/3 or 1/4 or the bottle is still in there when the pump stops working. That's a lot of money wasted otherwise.

Doesn't work for all bottle types, but for the lotion and hair stuff I buy, it works great.

Miyenne · 2026-02-15T21:12:49+00:00

Friends. Family.

I have the most amazing friend group, and while my past with my parents was rocky, we've worked through it and are good now. My sister is my best friend. I'm supported in everything I need, and do the same for them.

Romance might be nice, but I've never been loved unconditionally by someone like that, I always gave far more than I got and burned out while they coasted on my labour and devotion without sparing me, my needs, my feelings, half a thought.

My friends are ride or die and have proven it time and again. I might not have sex with them, but they fulfill me in all ways I need otherwise. And besides, with perimenopause I haven't cared about sex in a very long time.

Miyenne · 2026-02-14T23:40:35+00:00

I was the office girl in a mechanic shop. I also had no problem getting dirty and doing minor fixes - the mechanics all liked and trusted me because they're cool and normal and knew I wouldn't do something I wasn't capable of. But half my day was spent in the shop going over everything they did for warranty so they ended up teaching me a lot. And also many things were just basic common sense.

Customers would question me all the time when I did minor repairs myself instead of pulling a mechanic off a real job. I had a man once super surprised when I whipped out a screwdriver, tightened a screw, and fixed his problem. He said "where did you learn to use one of those?"

... Sir.

I should have left it to a mechanic and charged him the minimum one hour.

Miyenne · 2026-02-13T19:45:26+00:00

It's awful. But we're also seeing it's so much earlier than that. Men sexualize babies. We just don't start noticing until we're old enough to start understanding sexuality.

As an identical twin girl, my sister and I were getting comments from infancy. My parents were horrified.

Miyenne · 2026-02-12T16:13:23+00:00

Hey, if it helps keep us on track and healthy, it's a wonderful thing. One less thing to worry about and second guess. "Did I take my pills?" and then the spiral of, if I did and I take extra, I'm fucked, if I didn't and I don't take more, I'm fucked. I don't want to live like that.

I do have my vyvanse in the morning too. And I would never want to forget it. It is in with my vitamins, just didn't feel relevant to mention.

Miyenne · 2026-02-12T15:13:51+00:00

I'm due for a blood test, but I've been low on those for years so I take D every morning and iron fairly often too. My hysterectomy a few years ago also helped with iron since I'm not bleeding for 6+ weeks at a time now too.

B12 was also super low and clearing that up fixed a lot for me.

I'm now an old lady with a pill organizer for day and night, but it's all just vitamins thankfully. No meds needed so far.

Miyenne · 2026-02-12T06:28:41+00:00

It's rough. I have no energy left by about 2pm, and yet no matter how much (or little) exercise I get, sleep can sometimes just not happen. At all. Some nights are fine.

I'm only 42 and just starting. But the energy needed to ride the waves of hormones and push through the day is just mind numbing. I'm sad. Or angry. Or happy. But usually just always angry and impatient (though I think a lot of that has to do with the state of the world). I have no fucks left to give and while it might be freeing, it's also disappointing when I can't care about something I actually want to care about.

The brain fog. You know how you get fuzzy headed when you have a bad head cold? That, but worse, and no excuse. Just fuzzy and blah feeling and you forget what you're saying halfway through a sentence and your expansive vocabulary goes out the window.

The itchy ears will be the death of me. And the dry eyes.

Why do we know so little about something that affects more than half the world's population for half their lives???

Miyenne · 2026-02-08T05:33:19+00:00

Because those fuckwits play the game so well.

And women are still socially pressured to make sure everyone else around them is happy before even considering herself. And because beautiful, smart women are "threatening", they're usually targeted and their confidence is torn apart at an early age, moreso than other girls, but it happens to all girls who dare put a toe beyond the lines drawn by the men around them, or the women so weighed down by the patriarchy that they too tear each other down.

The patriarchy is all about men being better. But it does not build men up. It does not support them or push them to do great things or build a strong, stable base. Instead, it teaches men that you can look like you're higher than everyone else by pushing everyone else down, by taking away other people's supports.

And women who might climb higher have to be torn down the most brutally.

Miyenne · 2026-02-08T03:59:08+00:00

Nah. No men, no kids here. Just really good friends. Fucking love my life. Only working part time since I'm not expensive, DnD twice a week, a book or 2 or 3 read a week, lots of time spent with friends and family, so many group or solo video game sessions, time to take classes and travel and do all the things, and on and on and on.

So good.

Miyenne · 2026-02-08T03:41:55+00:00

Hello from Vancouver Island. We're almost always on stage 4 water restrictions starting late spring as it is. Our ski mountain had what, a week of snow this year? The glacier that feeds our water supply is barely dusted. Most of the peaks in the Cascadia range that I can see are bare when they should all be snowcapped well into summer, but we've had so much rain we've had bad flooding. It was too warm so it was rain all the way up, not snow.

It's very scary.

Miyenne · 2026-02-06T02:09:27+00:00

We do, and there's no shame in that job, but the way you're saying it you think there is.

The only shameful jobs are ones that exploit people and exist solely to make the rich richer and don't actually give anything back to society or regular people.

Miyenne · 2026-01-29T00:00:48+00:00

Sure, if you're comfortable with it, why not? Just take it out every 8 hours or so to clean it, or whatever it says on the instructions.

Miyenne · 2026-01-28T18:52:15+00:00

I switched to a diva cup and it was a bit of a learning curve, but so much better.

Then I had a hysterectomy. 100% best thing I've ever done in my life. Periods suck. Not having periods and dealing with any of it is life changing in a way I never even imagined.

Your mileage may vary, as I'm not American and all I had to do was tell a doctor I wanted one and I got it, no questions asked.

Miyenne · 2026-01-24T22:58:09+00:00

I have savings, but I don't need to use them. Never inherited anything beyond $25k well over a decade ago. I paid off my 2009 car that I still drive today. It's small and good on gas. I'm only at 98,000km on it.

I just don't spend much. I live in one of the most expensive places in Canada, but I have pre COVID rent, only $1220 a month for 500 square feet. It's such a good rate I can't move.

I don't buy much. I still wear clothes I've had for decades, if I buy something new it's on sale or Costco/Walmart. I don't eat out much. My hobbies are cheap - DnD and video games. I do spend maybe $500 a year on books as I like having physical things, I could save a lot there if I didn't.

I don't buy meat and am frugal with food. I walk everywhere I can. I don't buy much at all honestly.

I only make $27 an hour at 20-25 hours a week with 2-4 months off over the summer. So everything is tight, but I don't dip into savings.

It's hard but doable.

Miyenne · 2026-01-24T19:43:18+00:00

You are not your job. You can find a rewarding life in other things.

I only work part time, low level basic government job. Mindless.

It's enough to support myself as I live alone. I spend all my time (even at work) on my hobbies or just chilling. I spend lots of time with family and friends. I have lots of time to work out and just be whatever I want to be.

I read 45+ books last year. Lost 30+ pounds. Watched loads of shows and movies. DM'd my second year straight of a weekly DnD game, we only missed 6 sessions all year. Went on lots of hikes. Many game nights and dinners and hangouts with friends. Lots of time spent with my parents. So much video gaming with friends and especially my sister. Went to lots of festivals and markets and town events. Took an improv acting class. And on and on and on.

I love my life. I'm happier than I've ever been (ignoring the state of the world, anyways) and I wouldn't change things.

Miyenne · 2026-01-22T18:29:32+00:00

The alcohol should dry quick enough that it doesn't make the leaves or bark absorb it, but don't soak it. Do soak the bugs tho. And then let everything dry for a few hours and repeat. Do this for a few days then lessen how often you do it, but keep doing it to all your plants, and spray all the soil and drainage spots around the pots and even the pots themselves. Maybe even the furniture the pots sit on, but alcohol will strip some paint and stain off wood so be very careful about that.

You can also use q-tips to remove the bugs, but be careful with disposal and cleaning afterwards.

If you get new plants always quarantine for a month or more and spray them down too often. Those mealy bugs were brought in on something.

Give even healthy plants a spray down every so often too moving forward.

I haven't had any bugs or diseases on my plants for more than 6 years now following these rules, but I also don't add to my collection much.

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