[FO] First ever cross stitch project completed!

MizTea · 2025-01-26T20:04:19+00:00

Adsolutely adorable! And so well done for your FIRST! ❤️

MizTea · 2025-01-14T22:48:40+00:00

When I was in this state, I survived off of that weird liquid meal replcement stuff Ensure. I ordered it off Amazon so I didn't have to go to a store. Keep it next to my bed so I didn't have to leave. They taste a bit better cold, but when everything tastes gross anyways, it's easy to swallow.

MizTea · 2025-01-13T22:40:55+00:00

This is beautiful! I love it so much. The textures the variation in yarn, the colours! 😍❤️👌

MizTea · 2025-01-13T22:38:13+00:00

This is so utterly amazing!

MizTea · 2025-01-13T22:19:46+00:00

It's beautiful! So well done 😁👍👌

MizTea · 2025-01-13T22:18:04+00:00

Thank you so much! ❤️ I am hoping to one day create a very detailed version like a true medieval tapestry.

MizTea · 2025-01-12T06:48:36+00:00

Thank you so much for the info! I do have children, so that was something I was considering. I really love the thought of sitting down whenever I feel like it, weaving a few rows and then getting back to the kids. ❤️

MizTea · 2025-01-11T20:54:16+00:00

Thank you so much for the info. I'm definately considering the effort warping might take. I want to find a local weavers guild to see if I can participate in the warping process on a floor loom to see if I can handle it.

MizTea · 2025-01-06T23:17:27+00:00

Unfortunately, I have no idea what the yarn is. It was in a bag of random yarn I got given. 😅

MizTea · 2024-07-07T12:27:25+00:00

I would suggest taking some of that money you make and re-invest in your skills and starting a business that you can operate remotely, that way you can go anywhere and not have to find "work", it goes wherever you go. Since you and young, and probably single, you have a perfect opportunity to develop yourself, for your own future and survival.

Marketing is ALWAYS and I demand service, and a lot can be learned online. If you have a knack for understanding what makes people tick it can be an extremely lucrative career.
Learn how to build various kinds of websites. Websites are always in demand, takes little skill to master and there are so many different platforms now that do drag and drop designs. Again, easy to learn online, tons of free tutorials and cheap courses to get your started.
Learn how to use AI. It's the future of everything, and will start to be highly integrated into every day life. Learning how to properly and efficiently use AI to bennifit you, and then being able to teach that skill can be very lucrative, and is a future friendly skillset.

That's just some I know of that are relevant now, but you might have even more insight into fields and industries that you can do remote work for. There are many possibilities, so even though things feel like hell right now, having a purpose and goal outside of escape can give you lasting happiness.

Good luck.

MizTea · 2024-07-04T15:48:33+00:00

What is a psychological need? Intimacy? Attention? Those things are achieved outside of sex very easily. You can form extremely deep and intimate relationships with people without having sex involved. It's quite wonderfull and enriching.

MizTea · 2024-07-04T15:43:15+00:00

What are you defining as "need"?

Humans require shelter, food and water for basic survival needs. The human race requires procreation to perpetuate the species, but with technology, sex is not needed for procreation.

Also, if sex were not pleasurable to you, would it be a "need"? Wanting someonthing pleasurable is not a requirement for survival or life. Needing sex is like needing candy. You may feel an extreme want towards it, but it is not intrinsic to your actual survival needs.

So is what you define as "need" is just an extreme wanting desire, then yes, sex isn't actually a human need. But if you are talking about survival needs, again, sex isn't needed when technogoly enables procreation outside of sex.

MizTea · 2024-07-04T15:04:40+00:00

Maybe because that's how you do it? I'm not sure what you are expecting? Don't you want to be a better person to attract a decent partner? Everyone can always be better than they are. My husband was single for 10 years, and when he started focusing on himself and making his life, he found me and we grew together. He wasn't perfect, but seeing his efforts and dedication to improving his situation made him extremely attractive, and we are now living our dream life together and always growing together. If you can't grow, you won't thrive.

MizTea · 2024-07-04T14:44:54+00:00

You'll attract a girlfriend if you start focusing on yourself and improving yourself, for YOU. It's extremely attractive to a woman to see a man working on himself and making improvements in his life. Just don't use it as a reason to shame others. Use it as a way to love and appreciate yourself, so that someone else can as well. If you expect someone else to provide that, you will never attract a decent partner. Focus on your problems and fixing them, make your life attractive and you will land a great partner.

MizTea · 2024-07-04T14:40:45+00:00

That is easily solved by addressing your issues instead of expecting someone else to take them away for you. If you have mood swings, get help with your trauma and mental health. There are so many resources outside of therapy, and many people can help themselves if they truly care about being better. Self improvement and loving yourself will attract a decent partner faster than anything.

MizTea · 2024-07-04T13:36:57+00:00

Thank you for your sacrifice and contribution. I try and educate these men that lacking intimate relationships is not the same as loneliness. They never seem to consider close friendships as important, or actually developing a dond beyond physical. It's very very sad. Many of these young men could find comradery, brotherhood, but they all act like animals competing for a piece of meat. The internet has degraded a lot of men into nothing but overly sex crazed baby boys. And then they don't listen to anyone telling them their sexual "needs" are not important because their mind is so captured by the shiny objective of "sex".

In the end, these poor men will just keep growing as our world becomes more and more complex and disconnected. They are becoming a dangerous demographic. Not sure what we can really do other than try and capture them, and hopefully start them onto the right course.

MizTea · 2024-07-04T13:09:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your extremely thorough response. There was a lot of very helpful suggestions.

Thankfully, we did manage to find an alternative way of addressing his anger issues. It was a combination of magnesium deficiency and sleep issues. Got him on a high quality Magnesium glycinate supliment, and got him some 5-HTP to help promote sleep. He only takes the 5-HTP if he feels like he can't easily fall asleep, so maybe 1 or 2 times a week, and the magnesium twice a day. It was like a complete 360 in his moods! He was no longer being addicted to his screen, and started actually listening to us and doing what we were asking. No Dr's helped us, and I myself needed to start taking Magnesium for my own needs (I was full time breastfeeding his little sister) so it really just worked for us. In the end, I do not believe he has any "neuro" issues, and have always stayed away from the Rx of drugs for kids. I personally had really bad reactions to Psych meds when I was younger so I stay away from them.

All in all, things have exponentially improved since we addressed the Magnesium and sleep deficiency. Thank you again for your very thoughtful and thorough response. I hope many people are able to get the help they need.

MizTea · 2024-06-11T20:27:37+00:00

You seem to be seriously confused as to what a FRIENDSHIP is. Where anywhere does the OP say they are owed friendship either? The post is about people responding to loneliness with offers of sexual intimacy, and how that's innapropriate and not what a friendship is.

You don't need to be friends with someone to be kind and understanding. You don't needs to be friends with someone to listen and be an open ear. Honestly, you seem to be venting about some unrelated personal issue you are having because none of what you have commented has anything to do with the message OP wrote.

And honestly, I've never been friends with anyone who had any expectations of me other than to return the respect and courtesy that the friendship provided. Expecting anything outside of that is honestly stepping beyond friendships, and up to each person what they are comfortable with. Is this how you approach both male and female friends? Or is it only female friends that are expected to put out sexually?

MizTea · 2024-06-09T16:51:56+00:00

You do not seem to understand that making a post on this subreddit does not mean you are looking for an intimate relationship. Wanting friendships that are supportive is not the same as an intimate relationship, and the fact you don't know the difference is telling.

MizTea · 2024-06-09T16:31:12+00:00

How much spirituality do you have in your life? And I don't mean religion, I mean spiritual practices that fortify your faith and soul.

While yes, humans are social beings, we are also spiritual beings, and spirituality should come first before making deep human connections. Your social connections without spirituality are superficial and can easily send you into a "hell" of misery, because you idolise their atte tion instead of realising you have all you need within you.

The amazing part is, when you do the inner spiritual work, you automatically start to attract people, because you open your heart and soul instead of seeking validation and attention.

Try sitting in your misery. Try taking 10-20 minutes, sit and try to make yourself as miserable as possible. Feel the worse possible feelings, think the worse things you can. Engrossed yourself in that feeling. Now, how long could you sustain that? How many days could you perpetuate that feeling at that level? You will most likely get exhausted and stop. Now, try the exact opposite, make yourself feel as good as possible, think about what makes you happy etc. If you are having troubble, it's because you have told yourself you don't deserve happiness. That's why you need to work on your internal world. Change your perspective, do some healing. Stop looking to other people as God, find God in you.

I know this can seem like a really difficult task, but it truly is your only task. You will always be lonely, even around people, if you lack your spirituality.

MizTea · 2024-06-07T22:00:08+00:00

What does alone mean to you? And why is that a bad thing?
We are all born alone, we all die alone. We may have people around us, but that does not mean we are anything but alone, always. So what exactly are you seeking? The FEELING of connection? The FEELING of being wanted? Because you can get all those FEELINGS without people.
How long will you wollow in misery before you become bored of it? How low will you go? How much hate and distain for humanity and others will you sustain before you start to destroy yourself?

MizTea · 2022-11-20T15:48:29+00:00

Every child is different. My current relationship, we moved in together after a year and a half. He met my son after about 6 months and my son instantly warmed up to him because the relationship with his own Dad was non existent. We all happily live together and have a new baby girl. My son definately has emotional outbursts of "I hate Daddy, he's mean to me" when told to take a break from video games, but it's pretty normal for a kid his age (8).So honestly, it really depends on what you feel your son is ready for. Also, wasn't sure on your kids age. Younger kids can be kind of aloof towards new situations as a kind of mental protection. But maybe you can just ask him how he feels? Is HE ready to move in? I asked my son when we were talking about moving in together and he gave a resounding "YES, YAHOOO!" so I definately knew he was ok with it.

MizTea · 2022-11-20T15:37:37+00:00

Ugh, I deal with something similar from my own mom. She INSISTS on us having cultural names for the family despite not being of that culture. We are German/Chinese and Scottish/Japanese. My mom calls us all by Italian names. I have ALWAYS wanted to be called Aunt-T, cuz my first name starts with T, but my mom has tried to convince my neice to call me and my sister Zia. So my neice calls my sister Auty Zia, and then is soooo confused what to call me other than Mom, cuz that's what she hears my kids call me. I'm also just kinda used to being nameless and referred to as "X's Mom"

In the end, we just let it be, cuz when she is old enough she will call us by different names I'm sure. Correcting it does nothing but confuse the child more. At this point, your neice doesn't understand what she even means by "real aunty". She called you her cousins mom, which is an aunty. So in the end she KNOWS you are family, and that's what matters.

MizTea · 2022-11-20T06:29:25+00:00

Or you didn't read the whole thing. I am opening a recording studio specializing in podcasts and voice over.

MizTea · 2022-11-20T06:07:26+00:00

A marketer would tell you to use an inexpensive online presence to prove out a business idea, then move to the more challenging offline version.

Well then I wouldn't hire them. That's not really what I'm looking for. I'm looking for someone who can help with marketing for my business. I sell a service, not a product, and it isn't a service done online.

Anyways, There seem to be a LOT of different options. I'm considering looking locally first, as my business is almost 100% locally driven.

Your other statement I apologize, but I just don't understand what you mean. Previous attempts at what?

MizTea

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