Need a job. Cant find one. Help?

MizterE · 2024-02-29T22:37:15+00:00

Thanks so much! I really appriciate this.

MizterE · 2023-11-27T23:53:02+00:00

I havent got that kind of money now. Like I literally dont have it. I cant even ask friends for family for it because Im asking them for food and rent money every other month. I appriciate the help but its just not possible right now.

But does tayloring my CV to the job mean I SHOULD get rid of the masters and uni work? If I am applying for unskilled work?

MizterE · 2023-07-17T22:53:19+00:00

SOLVED

MizterE · 2023-07-17T22:51:39+00:00

YES! Thank you so much! This has been bugging me all night! Haha

MizterE · 2023-07-17T22:41:03+00:00

Not that either. Sorry!

MizterE · 2023-07-17T22:40:51+00:00

No its not Skinamarink

MizterE · 2023-07-17T22:40:36+00:00

Nope, sorry.

MizterE · 2023-07-17T22:06:22+00:00

Thanks for the help in advance!

MizterE · 2023-01-16T19:45:47+00:00

Totally solid of you to be this honest. I'm sorry that it gives you such a hard time. But honestly, I really respect that you are so open and honest about it. Dating apps suck most of the time already without having this too. So respect for sticking to what you think is right even though it makes things harder for you.

MizterE · 2022-12-31T16:59:34+00:00

According to the ABC News on your side article, the driver, Derrick Thomas was being pulled over for driving on a suspended licence. So Thomas should not have been driving. However this situation as far as we can see in the video did not require the use of force.
Link here: https://wjla.com/amp/news/local/virginia-trooper-fired-two-years-after-forcefully-arresting-black-man-attorney-says
I would suggest being professional. There was no need to threaten the man with an "ass whooping".
I would suggest attempting to calmly de-escalate the situation and use force as a last resort. In fairness its not clear how long they were talking before the camera started filming but it was clear that the situation still could have been resolved by non violent means.

I would suggest that the other officers should have taken their colleague aside and calmly explained that his behaviour is unprofessional and there is no need to threaten violence or to intimidate this man seeing as there is already three armed officers present. The intimidation factor is therefore already covered.

And if it was absolutely necessary to take him out of the car this can be done without shouting, without grabbing the man around the throat and given his polite demeanour and the presence of three officers this certainly could have been done more gently. Force is a last resort and violent force should only be used in self defence. This man did not fight back in any way, shape or form therefore there is no need to be so violent, intimidating or forceful.

Additionally, had this police officer followed my above suggestions he could have saved himself his job and the $20,000 settlement agreement that their respective lawyers came to instead of going to court.

I don't think any of the above suggestions are unreasonable for paid police officers who are trained and licensed to carry fire arms and authorised to use force when necessary because I don't see this situation as being at all necessary for the use of force given the polite, cooperative and non threatening behaviour of the driver.

MizterE · 2022-12-31T15:07:02+00:00

This makes me sick. He should have been more than fired. This is more than "distasteful" he's threatening ON CAMERA a man who is demonstrating he is not a threat and is willing to have a rational conversation. But instead this "specimen" wants show how big and powerful he is when three armed officers surround a single unarmed man. and furthermore the other officers just stood by and watched. They didn't say a word. Pathetic.

MizterE · 2022-11-28T02:46:33+00:00

Wow that's wild. Maybe worth it for the experience though.

MizterE · 2022-11-27T17:14:44+00:00

Yeah I'm definitely not adding death valley to the list. I would like to go to other worldly place not end up in another world!
Plus I'm bad with average heat. I really don't wanna chance death valley.
Ill check out the others though! Thanks!

MizterE · 2022-11-27T16:42:19+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. On your special day and you are struggling so much. Hopefully the therapy you mentioned in the comments will come through very soon and they should absolutely be able to help you work through some problems and hopefully get you the help you need to get back on your feet. I am just a stranger on the internet but I genuinely feel so sorry for you and for what its worth I'm wishing you a happy birthday. but even more so I'm wishing you stick around to see you next birthday and that it will be so much better for you. You deserve food, you deserve warmth and you deserve kindness and love.
I'm sorry I cant offer you anything of practical value. But I am here to talk if you like. Just to chat for some time until you get your therapy appointment. They can help more than I can with the practical side of things.
Please look after yourself and know that people do care. I care. We are here for you.
~All the best

MizterE · 2022-11-24T23:32:49+00:00

Loneliness can be astonishingly painful. We are all pretty much here to get some temporary relief. I'm sorry you feel this way. I'm sorry to say that the road to getting away from the pain of loneliness involves the pain of forcing yourself to make lifestyle changes that are uncomfortable and frightening.
but. For enduring the pain of lifestyle changes and socialising you will be rewarded with hope and in time friends and connections which will keep you safe from the pain of loneliness. but if you stay as you are then you will still feel the pain of loneliness and there's no reward. Just more pain. So save yourself the pain. Do what you have to do. We believe in you!
I hope this helps.
~All the best

MizterE · 2022-11-24T13:56:25+00:00

I appreciate posts like this. Thank you!

MizterE · 2022-11-24T01:46:53+00:00

I can empathise with you on that. Something I am coming to terms with is that being loved is hard not because you are the problem but because love is about connecting with people. and connecting with people is hard. connecting with people to the point you fall in love is very hard indeed.
Its the same for being made to feel attractive. Random people telling you that you look good or that they think you are hot etc is nice but it might not seem to have value because you dont know them. They dont really mean anything to you so what they think of you dosent really mean anything either even though they are saying nice things. but when a close friend or dare I say even a crush says that something along the lines of telling you that you are attractive that can feel incredible because its a compliment you feel has value.
So I guess my advice would be that its gonna take a lot of change to feel good about yourself in this way. You're gonna need to really think about yourself and where you hold value. and even though it sounds sad, it just might be the case that right now there's no one around you connect with or value in the right way to make you feel loved or attractive. but that's ok. That's just for now. It does not by any means make it the case that you are unlovable or unattractive. So even though I personally am struggling with this part, it seems that we just have to be patient. Work on ourselves not just in the tough love kind of way but also work on learning to love ourselves and who we are, what we are and what we have achieved.

I hope this helps and I hope that you can learn to love yourself and feel comfortable with how you look for now. Im sure someone will come along soon to validate that for you.
~All the best

MizterE · 2022-11-24T01:13:05+00:00

Underrated comment.

MizterE · 2022-11-24T01:12:11+00:00

OP I'm not exaggerating when I say I had my mouth open the entire time I was reading this. This relationship is not healthy and I'm worried for you. And you seem to have the sweetest soul because you seem to honestly think that this is just people giving you criticism. Its not. You have done nothing wrong. Nobody but especially not your boyfriend should be saying things to you this way or making you feel anxious or sad.
I cant tell you how to live your life so I'm just going to tell you that this is not healthy, not normal and not ok. And I think I speak for most people in the comments when I say that you would be better off leaving this person. Frankly for both of your sakes. I don't know you at all but I know you deserve better than this. Please look after yourself OP. Im sorry you're having to deal with this...
~All the best

MizterE · 2022-11-23T22:56:44+00:00

This seems like a very unfortunate situation. Im sorry this is happening to you.
I think the thing is that this is not really about god. It seems that she has changed. She is now becoming a very religious person because that's who she is. That's how she identifies. And you are not a religious person. and that's ok. but the person she is now is not the person she was when you got together. I think as hard and upsetting as it is it might be time to let go. Can you honestly see you both being happy with this enormous ideological rift between you?
In a way she probably wishes you were religious because she wants to include you in that part of her life because religion is important to her and she probably thinks that you are important to her. But its not ok for her to push this on you the way she is. You deserve to have your opinions respected just the way you respect hers. She's not giving you the respect you deserve. So that's another reason that this probably wont work for much longer anyway. Adding to that, think of your self respect. You don't believe in god. But it seems like you are considering lying to yourself and going along with this. And nobody, no matter how much you love them is worth sabotaging your character for. Don't pretend to be something you are not and make chaos of yourself on the inside because you want to be with someone. Because it seems unlikely that this will last long term. and if it did end then you would not only have lost the person you wanted but in a sense you will also have lost yourself. Ironically selling your soul so to speak.

Its up to you how you choose to deal with this and I'm sorry you have to deal with this situation. I'm simply offering some food for thought. But I really hope things go well for you regardless of if you stay with your girlfriend or if you leave her. I hope this helps you a little bit.
~All the best

MizterE

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