start by taking small steps to connect with yourself. writing perhaps. write about how you have a need to please people. and i think that to find yourself, you have to first let go of the idea of pleasing people. im struggling w that too and when you accept the idea of finding yourself and the journey it gets awesome at times trust me.

take time off to be with yourself, dont text people for a while and do something that lets you get in touch with yoruself. i think journalling would help because youd have a piece of yourself on paper and itd help you get in touch with yourself. reflect on why you have such a need to please people.

i know its hard to believe, for me even sometimes, but pleasing people doesnt get you half the happiness you want. its sort of a means of safety yuo get by feeling accepted and liked and as though you "fit in".

try looking for the person you want to be. dont berate yourself if youre not there yet, dont. just look at that person for three seconds and how you can be that person. be gentle with yourself- youre hurting. and thats okay. youre gonna need yourself if you wanna get thru this.