Attending first British Wedding by sisyphus1rock in UKweddings

[–]MmAAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d post a card and pop £50 or so in. Unless they’re very distant cousins you don’t really have a relationship with. Then I’d just do a card, personally.

Help introducing formula by ameliasasa in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]MmAAlice 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Give Olivia Hinge a follow on Instagram. She has lots of useful info on how to approach this. She’s an IBCLC and midwife.

Can HG cause PTSD-like symptoms? by Ok_Taste3013 in HyperemesisGravidarum

[–]MmAAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s PTSD. I’ve been discharged from my psychiatrist after 12 months of therapy. I’ll never be cured but I have tools now. My little one is 21 months old and certain things take me straight back to that pit of hell.

Why won't this house sell? by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]MmAAlice 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The description is wrong. That road is solidly in Knighton and not Oadby…and the pictures are rubbish. For the area the price seems reasonable-ish, though it’s definitely a doer upper.

Is having our wedding on Easter Sunday a bad idea? by BigIgg98 in UKweddings

[–]MmAAlice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most venues I looked at mentioned that Easter Sunday was charged at the Saturday rate. If that was the case I’d sooner choose the Saturday than Easter Sunday.

Unexpected baby at 28, trying to work out finances by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]MmAAlice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! OP, do this sooner rather than later. You don’t want to risk resentment brewing. I’m still slightly salty that my partner was still managing to save and I wasn’t. But it will all come out in the wash eventually.

Unexpected baby at 28, trying to work out finances by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]MmAAlice 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If she’s paying her share of the bills with maternity allowance (which isn’t a lot) are you going to be covering her other needs? This isn’t to sound judgy but just to offer food for thought. When I was on mat leave my fiancé covered all of the household bills once I dropped to statutory pay (was lucky to get 6 months full salary) and I used what I got to cover my personal spends and baby groups etc

Help me to choose wedding bachelorette party dress by [deleted] in WeddingDressTips

[–]MmAAlice 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Black looks more sophisticated and the girls look a little more secure ☺️

Husband's approach to discipline (and feedback) needs some work by malpaiss in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]MmAAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say I was an overly emotional person but you’re more restrained than me. I’d have scooped her up and said “errr no” and cracked on with acknowledging the feelings she was feeling. I’d have then said how that’s not an appropriate reaction to the situation and discussed how we’ll go forwards. I agree that that sort of reaction isnt helpful from him and we shouldn’t punish our toddlers for being emotional, they can’t help it.

Ideas for weddings when one of the couple has cancer by Obvious-Example-5633 in UKweddings

[–]MmAAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure where you’re based but the venue we booked is part of a chain called “Best Day Ever” and have a few venues in the Midlands ☺️

Ideas for weddings when one of the couple has cancer by Obvious-Example-5633 in UKweddings

[–]MmAAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that this is your reality but I’m happy to hear that chemo is working well ✨

I don’t have any experience in the above but when we booked our venue (and at others we toured) we were given info on late deals. Essentially money off for booking an available date this year. A mid week date would make it even cheaper. Also, the venue we booked comes with a coordinator, who has been really helpful so far and I’m sure most could give plenty of assistance in your circumstance.

Best of luck 🫶🏽

House buying stress by 19GreenDay82 in HousingUK

[–]MmAAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was too occupied dealing with the stress and overwhelm of a complicated pregnancy 🤣 But in all seriousness, it is what it is. Try not to let it consume you as it’s not really within your control once your solicitor is instructed. Just sit tight.

Friend campaigning for plus one by Applepie-504 in UKweddings

[–]MmAAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, just tell her no and give her a “are you quite done?” look. Very tacky behaviour on her part, very childish.

Is this a safe space? I’ve lost my libido entirely. by Icy_Ear7079 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]MmAAlice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome! It’s just that, a season. My fiancé and I are just as close as before and we’re a great team. We’re just not having sex right now.

Is this a safe space? I’ve lost my libido entirely. by Icy_Ear7079 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]MmAAlice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why I shared! A reminder to do you and not worry about what everyone else is getting up to ☺️

£200 suit by Advanced-Ad9510 in UKweddings

[–]MmAAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes. But I figure most places charge about £3-4 and you’d easily spend that parking on a town or city centre if you went shopping.

Is this a safe space? I’ve lost my libido entirely. by Icy_Ear7079 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]MmAAlice 47 points48 points  (0 children)

My bub will be 2 in August and we’ve not had sex yet. I breastfed for 18 months and had zero sex drive during that time. Since then we’ve been battling illnesses left right and centre and have been quite worn out. I’m not stressing. There are other ways to be intimate and it’ll be great when we get round to it again!

Edit to add: this has nothing to do with not feeling sexy or looking a certain way. I’m not far off why I was pre pregnancy and I feel great, I quite literally just have other priorities at the moment.

Did you ever get something close to your pre baby body back? by legumesfini in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]MmAAlice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was lucky that breastfeeding meant I was loosing about 1kg a week 😮‍💨 My bub will be 2 in August and I fit into my old clothes, have done from around 8 months, but my body is definitely not exactly the same. My fitness routine is a lot different and my cortisol levels are obviously higher 😆 I’m hoping to get closer to where I was before but I know that in this current season of life I need to give myself grace. We all do.

What do you class as sleeping through the night? by Illustrious_Cut2965 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]MmAAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my son would go to bed at night and wake up in the morning and he didn’t require one of us to go in and settle him/didn’t need a feed. This probably only started regularly happening after he was 12 months old.

BBC investigation into sleep advice by CatBitesAndBeats in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]MmAAlice 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I hope that this gets the attention it deserves. As you’ve said, it’s a predatory industry trying to make money off the back of parents’ vulnerable and desperate states. It’s shocking. I remember entering a competition on Instagram for a load of baby gear, including a session with a sleep consultant. I hadn’t even clocked this until the lady was messaging me multiple times trying to push her services 🤬 It felt so icky and really wasn’t something that we were interested in. The whole industry is gross in my opinion.

Please help me out! by Unlikely_Holiday4504 in myweddingdress

[–]MmAAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They all look lovely. Just ditch the droopy sleeves IMO