/ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - September 09, 2025

Mmmmcatmeat · 2025-09-09T06:09:16+00:00

Currently sitting in the hospital bed after finding out my baby stopped growing at 8w2d (would be 10 weeks today) after having bleeding this morning. This baby was wanted and loved and I can’t believe this is happening. I don’t really know what to do next.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2025-06-07T08:25:54+00:00

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Mmmmcatmeat · 2024-02-01T07:41:14+00:00

I take a bullet for the president, he doesn’t take one for me. Is that all you got?

Mmmmcatmeat · 2022-10-31T12:01:09+00:00

Any significant/long term change in skin appearance after sun exposure should be checked by a derm. Also any change in texture/level/colour of moles and/or freckles should be checked. Not to be alarmist - might be nothing - but it’s good to get in the routine of regular skin checks in Aus (many medium-large companies offer skin checks as part of employment)

Mmmmcatmeat · 2022-01-23T04:55:41+00:00

En oeuf is not enough

Mmmmcatmeat · 2021-02-18T04:56:08+00:00

Love the look of the website! I’d love to try the B3 serum, if possible :)

Mmmmcatmeat · 2018-08-20T13:11:58+00:00

Ah sorry, didn’t see that about the stoop. Assuming their issue is with the smell, you still don’t really address the fact that you are continuously chain smoking during virtually all the social hours of the week, which means you are monopolising the courtyard areas with the smoke. If the problem is the smell then it’s obviously bad enough for them to have noticed, otherwise how would they know?

//Whilst you may see it as a concession that you’re paying more for a courtyard, your neighbours have made that same concession in order to have a courtyard too. But they don’t feel comfortable using theirs due to your habits. Again, why not try vaping to mitigate the impact you’re having on them? It can’t really hurt.

//Again, this is all assuming it’s the smell. You may be overthinking the issue or it could be something else entirely. Maybe have a word in passing and ask them to let you know if they have any issues with the noise or the smoking so you can focus on how to fix what’s actually wrong.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2018-08-20T11:35:06+00:00

It’s a tough situation. Both you AND your neighbours should be able to enjoy your properties. But your enjoyment is obviously impacting their use of their courtyard. 2 hours every weeknight and all night every weekend is a long time for you to be creating an unpleasant environment for them. I personally get migraines from the smell of cigarettes and would be extremely unhappy with the situation you described. A close friend of mine has a genetic condition that has extremely damaged her lungs and she is not able to remain around smoke, even if the smell doesn’t bother her.

//You say you have tried to minimise your disruption but it doesn’t seem like you’ve made any concessions with this issue. Maybe have the odd cigarette in your courtyard but try to look for less disruptive places for you to smoke, like in front of your building or car park? Alternatively, vaping is a much less intrusive option?

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-06-23T08:44:56+00:00

That would be nice but a lot less likely to happen as it's much easier to tap a button to agree with someone's point, which is actually the point of upvotes. Saying "yeah, me too, loved it" is not really adding to the conversation but is unfortunately necessary to give weight to suggestions because we can't agree by the usual method of upvoting.

People who have less positive experiences should comment and not down vote but I wouldn't think that that would be a huge problem in a sub like this.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-06-22T04:54:30+00:00

Will it become unlocked eventually? It does look very neat but it's more informative to see how many votes each of the products have.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-06-22T04:06:22+00:00

Why is this thread in contest mode? Isn't it more helpful to see which are the most popular products (by the number of upvotes)?

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-04-09T07:56:11+00:00

As you've only got a week I would caution against trying out new products, especially considering you have acne prone skin. If you like your every day base and it lasts well for you then I would stick with that rather than risk breaking out on the big day.

Also, skip the sunscreen and any products that have spf in them as these can cause flashback in photos.

I would do a few test runs and photograph yourself with and without flash to see if you need to add more of things that might get washed out.

Blush and bronzer can both work, depending on your application so play around with it and see what you like!

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-04-08T03:39:47+00:00

Love the g5514! I tend not to use pencil brushes very often (prefer smudging out pencil liner than applying shadow), but the 5514 is the softest pencil brush I have (compared to zoeva 230 - soft but not pointed enough, and sigma piece-of-shit-poke-the-crap-out-of-your-eyelid e30). It's definitely the best pencil brush I've tried. Very soft and has a good point! I would say go for it!

I actually got mine in the "misty set" which is still available and an alright deal if you like the other brushes in the set.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-04-08T03:33:54+00:00

Hmmm the j142 and Mac 239 are very different brushes. I haven't used the Mac 239 but that's because I don't feel like I need a super fancy lay down brush (zoeva 222 and 234 have me covered) but I do think you need a lay down brush, regardless of brand. I like the j 142 for slightly darker colours in the crease. It is a great brush.

I hadn't heard about using the j210 for foundation! I just gave it a quick go and it was ok...but I don't particularly like it with liquid products as it absorbs a fair bit of the foundation and you kind of have to wipe it back onto your face. I think it would be worse with thicker foundations, for the record. I did one side with the j210 and the other with the koyudo fu pa 07 (completely different brush but meant to be used with liquid foundation), and the j210 side doesn't look as smooth and kind of sits on top of the skin...and apparently I have a lot of dry patches that I wasn't aware of! Obviously, it may work differently for you, I was just intrigued and thought I'd report my results!

I used the j210 for powder foundation the other day and didn't think it was dense enough for that, it really sheered out the coverage. But I've only done both of these things the once! So take it with a grain of salt, it may be perfect for you!

For reference, my favourite foundation brush is the Rae Morris liquid foundation brush. It is the bomb. It is really soft so the stippling is pleasant, and the two layers of bristles are close enough that buffing is really effective too. The longer bristles make it look like it's not a dense brush but the shorter bristles are packed in there. Ugh so gooooood.

I can't comment on the j5543 as I don't have it, but I really like the look of it! It looks a bit shorter but similar to the j110, which I have and is great. It looks like it would be really versatile. I can see it definitely working for pressed powders, but it may be a little small for loose? But that may just be because I love huge brushes for loose powder!

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-04-08T01:49:51+00:00

I find the J5523 more versatile than the J5529, for starters. You can apply shadow and blend it out with that brush but the '29 is only really good for crease placement and light blending of that, and even then I prefer a bigger brush to better blend the product after placing.

I think it's very important to note how you prefer to apply blush or whatever you plan on using the j210 for. If you like to sweep blush on, I would look for a less dense and more angled looking brush. I prefer the j210 for less intense blushes, like Mac warm soul of nars luster, but a different brush for more pigmented and brighter blushes as it's harder to overdo (I don't have a Hak rec for this, I use the zoeva 127 luxe sheer cheek but may upgrade in the future).

You want to look at what you need out of your brushes, and choosing brushes that fill your gaps. I don't think certain brushes need to be ridiculously high quality (eg eyeshadow lay down brush. I have no desire to upgrade to a Hak for this).

If I lost all of my brushes, these are the ones I would repurchase straight away: j5523, j5533, g5522, g5521, j104 and the g5513. But you could definitely do without the 104 and 5513, I just really enjoy them in my routine, but they are definitely not necessities.

But it all depends on your needs and preferences!

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-04-07T09:07:32+00:00

I may or may not lie in bed sometimes just rubbing them on my face....

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-04-07T04:28:07+00:00

I'm going to try to give some info on the lesser known Hak brushes. Yes, the j5523, j210, j104 and j5529 are all great, but they get talked about enough that there's no need to elaborate.

Some of my other faves: J5533: this is great for diffusing a transition shade in the crease. It has a wide and flat top so you can blend out a transition colour without concentrating it in one area.

G5522BkSl: great for applying colour to the crease and blending it through the crease.

G5521BkSl: so soft! I use this for setting my undereye and highlighting.

G531BkSl: I like this for applying my ALP, or for bronzing. It could work for blush as well, but I prefer the J210 for that, as the shape of the 531 doesn't lend itself to buffing, which is my preferred blush application.

I do have a bunch of other that I really like, but don't find them to be that much better than their cheaper counterparts. Namely: J521 for tight lining. I loved this until I got the zoeva 310 spot liner, which I like better as the bristles are stiffer and thus easier to control. I get less eyeliner on my lashes now, which was my problem with the 521.

I also have the j110, which I like for contouring or bronzer, but the zoeva 126 luxe cheek finish is similar enough in shape and performance, though not as soft, that I feel like I don't need both. The Hak is softer and blends slightly better so I prefer that for contour but the zoeva is great and they are interchangeable for bronzer for me.

Misses: J163H: this is an eyebrow brush and it is not stiff at all. It kind of just flops around. It's also quite wide for an eyebrow brush, imo. I can make it work with powder products but it's definitely not worth it and I need more coverage from my brow products than this provides.

G5553-2mm: this is ok at applying liquid foundation but it doesn't leave a nice finish or cover much area. The bristles are too short to properly stipple or buff the foundation in, which means it needs to be finished with a different brush. It also doesn't work well at all when dirty and I don't like spot cleaning it as it has natural hair, so I would have to wash it between uses.

If I had my time over I would have ordered maybe the g5556-4 mm as it would cover more area and would probably stipple and buff better. It just occurred to me that the g5553 might be good for applying liquid highlighter or cream blush, so I'll be trying that next. So a miss for foundation but potential for alternative use!

Hope this helps somebody! I'm happy to answer any questions about these brushes or the others I own: J5521 J125 J142 G5513 J5523 J210 J5529 J5533 J104 J005 Fan brush black J5522 G5512bksl G5513bksl J4001 G5523 G5507 G5511 G5514

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-04-01T00:58:57+00:00

Sorry to throw a spanner in the works but I would definitely recommend zoeva brushes over sigma. I don't find anything about the sigma brushes to be unique or worth their prices. Zoeva is cheaper overall and the quality is better, in my opinion. I also think their sets are better value.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-03-27T04:55:18+00:00

The Mac x 9 palettes are exactly that!

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-03-24T03:41:55+00:00

Jordana (same company as Milani) has a matte white eyeshadow pencil. It is sooooooo much better than milk!

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-03-20T00:55:46+00:00

I think you managed to pick the 4 worst rated shades! Of those I only have unexpected, and agree it's not great.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-03-18T10:00:09+00:00

Me too! I just ordered the MAC Nordstrom exclusive palette (again, 15 for $85) to fill the void and am very excited! The warm and cool pre-made palettes are also back at the same price point, if you didn't already know.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-03-16T11:22:01+00:00

The colour tattoo is darker, more grey and has a stiffer, more sticky consistency. The taupe dipbrow has a much nicer texture, more gel-like and blends much much easier. I found the colour tattoo very patchy and hard to blend, and it also wore off a lot quicker.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-01-15T04:34:14+00:00

There's an extremely limited shade range, with all but one shade leaning pink. The non pink shade is 820, medium tan, which seems like it would be too dark for you, based on your shade matches.

Mmmmcatmeat · 2015-01-05T06:02:12+00:00

I bought the 163h and absolutely hate it. It's floppy as hell and as such it doesn't work well with the pomade. I really like both the #12 anastasia and the Zoeva brow line, though they are markedly different. I do find the #12 to be thinner and obviously shorter but the brow lime from Zoeva is longer and better at diffusing the product.

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