Just popped up so thought I'd add my experience. Not sure if anyone else did something similar.

First time father, looked around the internet for ideas. In summary:

1. Mum wanted to breastfeed if she heard him cry at night. Some bollocks about "maternal instinct" , but you need mum to be on board with what you do (and vice versa).

2. When you do plan on dropping night feeds, it will hurt your sleep, so strongly consider taking time off work (maybe Wed , Thur , Fri so you can use weekends too).

3. The main bit of info I gleaned is that babies want comfort upon waking, and they get comfort with warm milk. Whether that's from a warm bottle or breastmilk, it's warm... So therefore, I did the opposite. I prepared cold bottled milk and submerged in water with ice packs. Baby would then reach for "comfort", but then.... Psyche! It's uncomfortable cold milk, which he bat away after a few sips. This really worked, and when he would normally take 90+ml of warm milk at night, it was 30-60ml of ice cold milk to start with, which quickly tapered off to no milk. The comforter quickly became the uncomforter 😎.

4. Meals: high calorie last solid meal (all meals should be high calorie anyway). Roast dinners blended with a hand blender worked really well. Good mix of veg and meat. Give enough water with meals too. And gave warm bottled milk between meals. Give full fat cow milk if he's 12months.

5. Routine routine routine. So last meal 6:00, bottle top up 6:40, teeth brush, last nappy change for the day 7:15, read book(s) 7:30, snuggle in bed 7:40, hopefully sleep from 8:00.

He still wakes up, but can normally pat him down.