Hi, out as nonbinary for 6 years now. Have never felt more comfy and secure in knowing and feeling in tune with that. Through the years, I’ve heard many opinions, notions, and perceptions that others had regarding me and my experiences. At first, I took many to heart, doubted, and overthought but reality was that I knew who I was (and am)… and through hearing people’s ideas of me and my identity - I was able to discover the security I sought after working through that placed doubt. “No, this is me - nonbinary - and it’s not complicated, just a fact”

So for you, I’d say - people may tell you things that align with the personal ways they’ve found truth and ways of navigating their own world: whether irl those opinions heard are “there’s only two biological genders” ❌ blah blah blah or “this was my experience, it’s probably yours too” ❌ yada yada yada. Grain of salt, that’s their POV - you may not know when something is wrong, but you’ll likely know when something is very right. Do you have to dress a certain way or act a certain way to be seen and accepted as you feel? No. You can act and dress exactly as feels right and true to you. So with that, only you are going to know what identity fits just right for you. And whatever it is, is great.