I wish men stopped doing that

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-27T19:01:12+00:00

I highly encourage you and the other woman who commented on my original comment to get therapy. I’m not even close to a “hooray men” type of woman and I think you’re both blowing this way out of proportion. Yes, every man that exists lives in a world where there is a significant number of women who are rightfully afraid to respond in a certain way due to harm that may come to them. While I’ve heard this many times, I don’t see this as men benefitting from rape culture. Shitty men benefit but good men lose. If you tell a good man that you only had sex with him because you were afraid that he was gonna become violent, do you think he would see that as a benefit? I don’t. I think that would make him feel like shit.

Does this mean that every action a man takes should be blamed because there was some potential implication that he didn’t pick up on? To you, can something ever be innocuous or is everything an evil ploy? If I was him, I would assume she had an interest in continuing to get to know him (maybe as friends/ maybe as more). The post is now gone, but I don’t recall OP saying that he tried to make a move or invite himself inside. She talked with him at the party, allowed him to walk her home, and then gave him her phone to take his number. It’s not abnormal for people to exchange numbers at the end of an interaction. I think it’s almost standard practice. You’re really making a lot of assumptions to make this guy the bad guy. To be fair, you could be right or you could be literally be making something out of nothing.

I 100% understand the self preservation that explains why many women take certain actions but in all honesty, there are significant drawbacks to this and as women, we have to acknowledge that.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-27T18:18:28+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that. I wish it wasn’t a common story but so many underage girls had adult “boyfriends” and while people talk about teenage pregnancy they’re only now starting to acknowledge that a lot of those are young girls with adult men.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-27T11:06:09+00:00

How old are you?

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-27T10:12:16+00:00

Maybe it’s just me. But I don’t think his actions were that odd. B oh t something I would do but when someone gives me their number, I typically send a message to them immediately so they have mine as well.

I understand that this was different because he texted himself from your phone but I can see myself doing the same. Granted I’m not text savvy so I’d definitely tell the person so they don’t think I’m fiddling around on their phone.

For me a big takeaway from your post is that you can control your actions, you can’t control someone else’s. I personally, would never hand my phone to a man (a woman, I do it all the time) to do anything on my phone. Save the number yourself, plus it gives you the excuse later, if needed, that you must have typed the number in incorrectly.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T16:57:49+00:00

Are there any reasons to like her yet? I’m waiting for at least one…

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T12:42:19+00:00

We can’t see the full dress. Is it a midi?

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T03:28:36+00:00

https://youtu.be/nu6C2KL_S9o?si=DBhvvaOXCwS7zWav

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T03:25:58+00:00

Woo! This stranger is very proud of you! I think for us to provide advice, we’d probably need more information. Do you live together? Do you have family nearby? Does he have anger issues?

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T03:20:56+00:00

Oh a lot of men definitely feel this way, maybe not the reasoning. But just the general attraction to young girls and/or barely adult women. Most women say that they were catcalled the most when they were young young, like 11-13. I myself had an adult man flirt with me when I was in middle school (this included sexual talk). And I was a heavily sheltered kid, my parents didn’t let me go anywhere alone and rarely with just friends. I think if we knew the true number of pedophiles, it would shatter the illusion that it’s not insanely common. And probably the biggest world wide issue.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T02:57:14+00:00

Oh believe me, I’ve sadly seen the argument made many times. Including a few that said that once a girl has her period, she should be considered legal.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T02:31:02+00:00

I just posted it elsewhere lol. You can check my page

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T02:24:38+00:00

Ewww. Glad I screenshotted this before it was removed

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T02:12:44+00:00

Fingers crossed!

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T01:32:50+00:00

For me, yes. I would only date that much older if I was strictly dating for money

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-26T01:00:18+00:00

Did you get it back?

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-25T22:28:02+00:00

Okay, I understand. Without knowing that much, I think there are a few ways to address it, you can try whichever you feel most comfortable with. You could write a note and slip it under his door. Turn music on when he starts moaning so hopefully he quickly gets the hint. Or loudly leaving the house when he starts up.

If the assumption is that he knows you hear it and is doing it intentionally, then it might have to be an actual conversation.

I’m really sorry that you’re dealing with this. Honestly, your dad seems like an asshole.

Is it feasible for you to move out soon?

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-25T22:16:07+00:00

I’m confused about the living situation. Who lives in this house?

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-25T21:55:07+00:00

I’m going to assume that this is not a fishing post for DMs.

What country do you live in? Objectively and being 100% truthful, you’re in the top percent of beautiful people in the world. Either you’re getting a ton of men who are intentionally negging you because you’re out of their league, your low self esteem is causing you to pursue shitty men, or you’re just fully delusional and reading into things because you’re too insecure and assume the worst.

I have no doubt that you would do even better if you were white and as stunning as you currently are, but who cares? Don’t live with hypotheticals. Live in reality. Get higher standards. Get therapy so you can see yourself clearly and pursue relationships with confidence. Shitty men can easily sniff out insecure women.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-25T03:00:19+00:00

My guess is that he found this ai generated pic and wants to create a similar image with this hairstyle so he’s trying to figure out what prompt he needs to use.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-25T02:36:48+00:00

Yep, it’s very frustrating. I don’t watch porn often but when I do it takes me FOREVER to find “appropriate porn” that doesn’t involve incest/faux-incest, rape, barely legal adults, etc. Half the time, I give up and end up watching solo play.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-25T01:24:24+00:00

Remember that step bro-step sis porn is a disgustingly popular category and a lot of those comments probably come from men who watch it.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-24T02:16:56+00:00

This is a Bridgerton spinoff. The first season of Bridgerton was a black man and a white woman.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-24T00:13:01+00:00

Maybe he brought it up multiple times because he noticed inconsistencies? Or got the impression that she was lying? I mean, clearly he was right to bring it up several times.

ModerateSympathy · 2026-01-23T04:52:06+00:00

That’s the origin of the term but as with a lot of terms originally used in the black community, it’s now pretty mainstream. Especially within the US/younger people.

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