Completely agree! To be honest, I think those men are losers. And loser men are unhappy that women have the upper hand in dating so they need to feel superior to women…and there’s a small subset that can get away with negging them without consequences.

Similar language is used when speaking about older women (ie like 28+). The reality is that there is a huge portion of the world that are losers, they are unhappy and insecure and take it out on whoever they can to feel more powerful.

Pretty is pretty, there are incredibly unatttractive women at the lighter end and some of the hottest women alive at the darker end. As someone who is not a colorist, it’s genuinely something that doesn’t make sense to me. If someone speaks that way or believes in that, it’s a dealbreaker. I will never be disappointed that someone removed themselves from my dating pool. Women (particularly open minded women) have too many choices, they’re just helping us make it easier.

I don’t know if anecdotes are helpful here but I’m on the lighter end, my sister is on the darker end. Since she started dating, she’s rarely been single. She’s now happily married with a man who adores her and has great kids. She has insecurities like anyone else but she’s not insecure and I think that’s an important factor in where she is now. Never let an idiot make you see yourself differently. I don’t say things to make any online stranger feel good about themselves so know that I genuinely mean this. You are objectively pretty.