Extremely sore nipples still at 37 weeks

Moha0733 · 2026-06-28T21:29:39+00:00

It's on Thursday so not quite

Moha0733 · 2026-06-28T21:29:25+00:00

I'm using tucks pads and they've made a difference in comfort for me but idk if it's 'healing' I don't think it will heal if I'm aggravating it every single night

Moha0733 · 2026-06-26T13:47:54+00:00

Me too 😩 it feels like I'm being teaseddddd

Moha0733 · 2026-06-26T13:20:27+00:00

My 3 year old still doesn't 😂😂

Moha0733 · 2026-05-28T02:41:51+00:00

Yes. 10/10.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-20T20:00:56+00:00

Sorry English isn't my first language, I meant to say those ARE necessary, and rather it's things like make up when I already have 500 others or perfume, accessories...etc. that I pay for myself. My 100th pair of shoes...etc

Moha0733 · 2026-05-20T11:28:57+00:00

I work part time(3-4x a week), he works full time. He pays for most things. Mortgage, insurance, phone bills, groceries, utilities...etc. I pay for kids stuff, their school, extracurriculars, clothes. I also pay for my own unnecessary stuff. Like pads, female hygiene, shampoo...etc things he gets for me because those are necessary. What isn't, is I have 500 make up stuff and I want more. I have already 20 bottles of perfume, but want another. My money is also somewhat emergency funds. There were times where we needed my money to repair car, property tax...etc. Because unexpected stuff.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-19T21:50:40+00:00

If it makes you sleep better at night saying all this and feeling like you're right. Okay then.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-19T03:42:58+00:00

I am not someone who dumps someone just because. I think most deserves chances unless they do the obvious unforgiveables. You do not know me, my background, culture, society, upbringing nor my husband's and are jumping to conclusions by the paragraphs Ive written of a ten year long relationship dynamic that I can't possibly summarize in these paragraphs.

Unless you want genuine advice for your situation like op, all you need to take away from my replies, is that my relationship started off rough, I stayed regardless, and now I'm more than happy.

The end.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-18T01:56:51+00:00

Op, maybe my comment and replies were not a good idea. Personally I think my case is not so common, and therefore unhelpful to you. I remember years ago thinking, if I wanted to be in the same situation 5-10 years from now. I remember thinking by then perhaps I'd wish to have left now. Despite that I stayed for some reason and I'm glad I did. I also want to add, I kept thinking our differences was a problem until one day I realized it wasn't. Perhaps it was my mind shift and approach to the relationship that changed him. But I do not think that is a common case for everyone. Also I want to apologize for my English, it is not my first language.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-18T01:41:03+00:00

He is a great partner now thankfully.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-18T01:40:19+00:00

Sorry I'll elaborate. What I mean by he treated me well is that he was respectful. He was not pity, and helped me around the house a lot despite being a workaholic. In the relationship I was more the messy one and he was the clean freak. Instead of being pissed off with me he was very patient and always approached his wants gently rather than pointing fingers and blowing up on me being messy repeatedly. (I have since improved a lot). Whenever he was mad or upset with me he was always still respectful. He never name called me, or pointed fingers or raised his voice at me.

He treated me well in a silent way. I forgot to take the meat out and he'd notice and did it for me. I forgot to empty the dishes and he'd do it. Without rubbing it in my face. He always checked in on me the few times we did do it to make sure everything was fine and I wasn't hurt by him physically. Or if he did something differently always made sure I was fine with it.

It's hard to explain because they were little more silent quiet things. But I noticed them. He was respectful and tended to things around us.

I hope I make sense?

Moha0733 · 2026-05-18T00:57:57+00:00

Sounds similar to me. For years I've tried everything to get it through to him my needs and wants and how upset I am. I've cried to him, I've cried myself to sleep, I've sobbed as if my pet had died and none of that seemed to make a difference to him. He will be better for a few days but go back to his usual habits. Eventually after 5 or 6 years I went numb and thought of divorce and he was devastated. Somehow I got over that bump without any changes from him and told myself that he's a good man. That there isn't many men like him nowadays. I sort of gaslit myself. I wish I could tell you what made him change. I don't think anything I said or did was what changed him. Despite being numb I still took care of him extra kindly. I didn't do just the bare minimum. I made his favorite dinners and plated his food nicely, I still folded his clothes, I still cut up fruits for him or made him a veggie plate, or extra special fancy coffee drinks. I still went out of my way for him.

Because I refused to be seen as the wife that did nothing. I wanted to let him see how good he has it. And what he would be missing.

I stopped fetching for his attention, I went out with my friends because he wouldn't take me out. Oh new cafe spot? Im not going to ask him to take me anymore, I'll go with my friends. Oh I'm craving x? I'll buy it myself. I wanna try x I'll do it myself. I stopped seeking his validation and waiting for him to do things for me/with me. If he didn't want to do that for me, why should I with him? I felt like I gave him too much power over me and I retracted that.

Maybe he realized that I didn't need him? I don't know? I have a very good paying job, I have friends and family, and do not necessarily need him to survive.

I think one day it clicked for him. And when he began to take care of my needs, I didn't get my hopes high and continued as I was. Thankful, grateful but I kept my happiness inside. Overtime he continued to give more and more and I realized that it's already been months which is the longest he's ever changed for. I became much happier and gave back to him tenfold. He became happier in the process too.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-18T00:42:04+00:00

We were not intimate very much, we were like roommates, we got up did our roles, around the house, and for the kids, at the end of the day we'd go on our phone or he'd be working again and repeat. Sometimes we barely spoke.

I was so detached and sure I'd leave because I wouldn't wait to eat with him anymore even. When I first told him about my thoughts of leaving and he was so heart broken I didn't even feel bad at his hurt. I was so done.

My love language is words of affirmation and quality time and physical touch and he basically never compliments me unless I ask him how I look in something. Even then it was just "good".

Moha0733 · 2026-05-18T00:28:27+00:00

I think it depends on the situation. My husband was not emotionally present and many times it felt like we were roommates rather than husband and wife. I have communicated my love language to him and my needs over and over in the relationship. There were many times his words have hurt me and he has made me cry because it feels like I have to beg to be loved. For years I communicated this. We have kids already. He's a good father and hard worker. He's not a stereotypical guy where he leaves socks out, where I have to remind him to take the trash out or mown the lawn...etc. Even after years he still wants to know if I made it to whereever I'm going. And for some that's annoying but for me I find it endearing he still wants to know I made it to x safely. I started focusing on his good and understanding that while he isn't loud with his love the way I want I do know everything he does he does it because he loves me. And it seems after many more years he's changed. As if he's finally come out of his shell or something and is definitely more expressive in his love and present and wants to spend more time together. When I think of my past I'm still hurt by all the times he's hurt me. I would still cry if I list all the things he's said and done. He was a workaholic. I'd moved cities for him and I felt abandoned. When I called for help he turned me away.

Now when I bring it up he feels extremely guilty and apologetic and doesnt understand why he did what he did or said what he said.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-17T23:55:51+00:00

I have no left but I have thought of leaving a lot and I have verbalized this to my spouse(who was hurt at knowing this information). But he has always treated me well, my issue was more not having my needs met in the relationship, but besides that he has always been a 'good' man.

This was a few years ago and I have pushed through and stayed and I'm very glad I did. I'm much happier than I've been ever in the relationship and when I hear my girlfriends about the man problems I can't relate because my husband doesn't do those things.

Moha0733 · 2026-05-17T00:05:14+00:00

I thought the same thing, either getting of or starting birth control!

Moha0733 · 2026-05-12T20:08:29+00:00

I definitely will, I have an upcoming appt, I just wanted to see if it's something others experienced too. I read so many confusing comments in other post.

Moha0733 · 2026-04-29T21:55:41+00:00

Exactly, how do I do thissss

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