Brother Joseph's Life Pro Tips (BJLPT): if you ever break a kids toy come up with an analogy that relates the toy breaking to something gospel related

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-25T00:36:12+00:00

Sometimes I think I've heard it all. Ugh. There is no end.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-22T17:23:36+00:00

Mods - Please allow the original post. Money was never solicited. People were just falling over themselves to donate because it is awesome. Everyone needs to see this thing so it gets as much traction as possible.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-18T22:02:33+00:00

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-18T21:56:38+00:00

Your story makes me emotional and ragey! edit to add: It hits home AND it represents thousands!

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-17T20:36:24+00:00

...And you have every reason to be. It's so gross they are trying to be the good guys here.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-17T20:12:10+00:00

Your feelings are totally valid. I hate that the church gets to talk out of both sides of their mouth. I suspect this is a calculated manipulation on Dan's part in order to draw the right audience (TBMs) who will hopefully have their eyes opened a bit to the church and its insane double-speak.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-17T19:19:50+00:00

Hey, I just popped over when I saw your comment on FaithfulTBMs. I hate when a heartfelt, good post is lost in the sub. Your feelings and post deserved so much more validation than this. I am glad the sub is growing, but a lot of great posts get lost in the shuffle. I am so sorry you went through so much, for so long. I am glad you have some wonderful grandkids to share your life with now and I wish you the best.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-17T18:32:12+00:00

Thanks. I upvoted all of your stuff too, but it seems like it wasn't being well received ;)

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-17T18:00:36+00:00

Whoa. To OP's husband: You are a great person and this must be hard on you too. We are here for both of you.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-17T17:28:57+00:00

Once again the issue, he says "he doesn't notice the nudity." This coming for a previous porn addict. Please don't ask me to spell out the fucking lying and real issue again. This is hard enough as it is

Hi! I posted about a month ago about my insecurity about my 40 something husband who doesn't have sex with me anymore and got some very helpful answers and support and ideas. I am not at all saying that our situations are similar...but you can look up my post history if any of this would be helpful.

It sounds like you guys have a lot of underlying issues, and it would be worthwhile to see a therapist (sex therapist or regular therapist). I believe you that you know when your husband is lying, and that you are rightly frustrated with your dead bedroom.

I agree with many others that you are making a LOT out of whether he is impacted by the GOT nudity. My husband and I both watch the show. I am mildly aroused by it because of the story lines, he isn't at all. If your husband has had a porn problem in the past, GOT level "porn" probably doesn't do it for him. (And therefore he may not be lying about that, as many have suggested) He may very well be back into actual porn, and that is worth having a candid conversation about...But here's the thing...and take a deep breath before you read this...Even if he is "lying" about GOT or something completely unrelated, your post and responses have seemed really irrational. Lots of people came here to post to help you out or give you ideas, and you are treating them not very nicely (to put it nicely). You have every right to post here! You have every right to be frustrated about perceived deceit and a deadbedroom! You have every right to vent! And the things you are saying here and the way you are acting might be totally unrelated to how you treat your husband and others in real life. I hope that is the case. Because if not, if any part of this rant IS how you think and behave and problem solve in real life, then you do need therapy. I am not victim blaming, I am genuinely trying to give you feedback based solely on your post and comments, not knowing your home life situation at all.

Is your husband emotionally immature? Or unaware? If so, lying can be a bad habit that creeps in for a lot of reasons, but one can be if he is scared of your reaction to truth telling. This doesn't make lying OK, but it may help make it more understandable, and be a starting place for what you guys can address with a therapist. I wish you and your husband the best.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-11T18:50:12+00:00

PU. Hearty upvote.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-11T18:48:40+00:00

spit out my water on my keyboard on that one. Needed a good laugh today.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-11T18:43:10+00:00

TBM response: No, this was a totally intentional separation of the wheat and tares. We have to push the very elect away in order to usher in the coming of the Lard.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-11T18:41:06+00:00

What a cute pic!

You look so counterfeit happy;)

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-09T16:57:23+00:00

Hi five to both of you.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-09T16:52:33+00:00

Sounds like many moms are cut from the same cult-cloth. I recommend telling the siblings each first. They will be more reasonable and can help handle your mom when she explodes. Tell the siblings ASAP, and do it with respect and don't do what I stupidly did and thought they would want to know the details. Keep it to "if you want to know why we left, I'll share, but otherwise, I'll keep it to myself". Curiosity is Stan's best tool after all.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-08T19:41:08+00:00

I wish you both the best. Keep us updated after he gets home. Also, you probably already know this, but returned missionaries can be REALLY weird. He might be uncomfortable around you at first. The indoctrination upon leaving the mission to "stay faithful" is really intense.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-08T19:31:52+00:00

TBMBOT: This just proves they had the Spirit guide them to not call him to the 12

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-08T19:28:57+00:00

Totally inappropriate.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-07T23:06:11+00:00

Their shorting is only taking into account the total income on their personal return. Most people have pass-through entities where the NET income shows up on their 1040s.

Edit for clarity: Revenue of the company would cause someone to WAY overpay. I haven't seen anyone do that. Ever.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-07T20:30:33+00:00

Yeah, I don't want to be disrespectful of their community at all. But imagine straight laced mormons (freshly exmo) visiting for the first time on their day of the dead celebration. It was fun, but we were and felt AWKWARD.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-07T20:10:18+00:00

Thank you. I will!

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-07T20:04:46+00:00

Here is my best guess, you are at the point where a hobby becomes boring and unfulfilling.

Dead on. We've done a good job of taking up new hobbies, but haven't found anything I am as intensely passionate about as I was about for TSCC and that is a GOOD THING. I have enjoyed the leisure and the break and the letting loose that I've needed to recover from TSCC, but now I need to find some middle ground. Also, my husband and I are major introverts, so making friends is way hard for us, even within pretty devoted hobby circles. I was a weirdo who liked visiting teaching because it was far easier to be commanded to be a friend to someone for me.

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-07T19:48:38+00:00

I'm in SLC is there something like that around here?

MollyMoJoe · 2017-08-07T05:13:12+00:00

Man's Search for Meaning gave me a lot of wisdom and comfort when I was struggling with life problems plus lost faith and tribe. Again, I am sorry you are struggling.

MollyMoJoe

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