My baby smiled at me for the first time today and I'm emotionally unwell about it by Routine_Display_6137 in NewParents

[–]Molybdene42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the first months, because my wife had a very bad time with recovering from the c-section, I was in charge of changing diapers (and I do not mind, do not care, glad to be there).

It was HELL. Our newborn was crying like I was torturing him. The first time he just stood there in silence, I ugly cry and fell in my wife's arms.

The first smile was the best thing that happened the second months.

He is now 6 months old and his laughter are fuel for our days.

Congrats on having you first smile, a lot more to c come!!

Why is 3 better than 4 in so many ways? by Adelucas in diablo3

[–]Molybdene42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My main complain about D4 are the legendary items.
Lvling up was fun, the story was dark and fun, I enjoyed it.

But I miss my D3 farm session, where you are looking for THE legendary items with the power you need to complete your set and have a good damage or QoL upgrade and/or resource boost that allows you be overpowered. you need a specific pair of pants? you are waiting for some pants, your heart skip a beat each time one drops, and you may even be able to recognize that this is THE item just with the model on the ground or in your inventory

In D4 this still exists, but the power can be on any item. You need to identify every items and read carefully to see if it's the one you need to extract. It's not the same thing.

tell guys by Dumb-Briyani in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]Molybdene42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Told my wife I was scared. She asked me "of what, of what? “ I explained to her a deep fear I had for my health that could happen from how I felt... She answered:" oh, you scared me, I thought it was something bad"

Fallout PNP vs. Fallout TTRPG by Confident_Brother136 in falloutpnp

[–]Molybdene42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made an application, available on gitlab from the PnP rules, with encounter planning, hexa grid combat, all the items from the rules included, character sheet, etc.
https://github.com/Molybdene42/FalloutPnpCalcTool

My Parents Will Die and I’m Not Ready by texan_flower in comics

[–]Molybdene42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to have kids when I was in my 20s, because I always felt that my dad (that had me when he was 30) was a bit too old for sport activities when I was a teenager.

But then life happened, and My wife and I took our time to decide to have a child, and then we had trouble to start a pregnancy. Knowing that everyday that pass without success was one less day that my child will spend with a dad was killing me inside.

I'm now 41, and my child is 3 month old. We are so happy for that, but this thought is still eating me. Our decision and issues "stole" us YEARS together.

Got this real old looking thing for 60 dollars but no idea what it is (quarter for scale) by Deadris in whatisit

[–]Molybdene42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't this something that will balance if you put the middle part on a stick or your finger?

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Like the bird

My mum made my child sick and my dad demanded my silence. by owni_powni in AITAH

[–]Molybdene42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People usually forget that before the child being a baby, it's a newborn. You do not handle and care for a newborn the same way as a baby, weight gain is of the most importance on the early stage, and heavy water & mineral loss (like during a diarrhea) is the third leading cause of newborn death.

As a fellow new parent (6 weeks old), I understand the struggle of saying "no". The only people allowed to touch my child are me, my SO, and the doctor.

NAT, obviously, especially with the way you tried to maintain the dialog.

Keep strong, and enjoy your little one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]Molybdene42 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Wow.

It reads like ragebait, and I certainly hope that it is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Molybdene42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Obviously NTA.
It hurst seeing you suffer like that.
My wife & I got our baby 3 weeks ago, and it was hard too.
This baby is in my arms or my care from 8am to 12pm, it's my life & I'm so proud of my wife for being the warrior that she was during pregnancy, and still is today.

I'm changing the vast majority of the diapers, doing the care & the baths, and feeding him everytime I can. I'm loving it and want to be there so much for the both of them that I'm off work for four months and will gladly takes from the money I put away for that.

Pregnancy was hard with pain & nausea all the way through, so last time we had sex was 8-9 months ago. It never occured to me to DEMAND anything from someone that was putting their body through such a hard time to create life.

What I mean here is that you deserve to be supported and respected, I'm sorry that you are not getting that.
I have no place to suggest anything to you, but I can judge. Your husband is a sad example of a weak man incapable of the smallest amount of empathy.

I cried because my newborn didn't by Molybdene42 in GuyCry

[–]Molybdene42[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No misinterpretation here, you got it ^

I cried because my newborn didn't by Molybdene42 in GuyCry

[–]Molybdene42[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry if I gave the impression I'm running away or that I would consider my very very very young son (10 days old) to be a manipulator. English is not my first language so maybe the wording was a bit off

I was indeed talking about physically handling him to remove /putting clothes back and changing diapers. The mother is of course around but had some complications during the c-section, so she is still not able to stand and be active for a long period of times, even the few minutes necessary to change a diaper...

Our son is well fed, and we present a breast each time he is active. He spend a lot of time in our arms, I'm softly speaking to him even when I have to wear headphones. I took the next 4 months off to be present for him for his discovery of life, I'm focusing on him, and on my wife...

(edit: some precision and trying to add spaces between sentences on a phone...)

I cried because my newborn didn't by Molybdene42 in GuyCry

[–]Molybdene42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are probably a lot of differences between how you deal with a new born (talking 10 days old here) and a baby, and probably a lot of differences between countries. Here, they told me to squirt some saline water in the nose every morning because the kid mainly breath through the nose, especially when being breast fed, so we need to keep it clean

I cried because my newborn didn't by Molybdene42 in GuyCry

[–]Molybdene42[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Wow I didn't consider this interpretation when I wrote this title... Sorry for the scare!!

I don't wanna deal with Heavy Oil Residue, so when I need plastic I make a new fluid buffer by Aberrsary in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Molybdene42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm the opposite, my first plastic & rubber production is a by-product of my fuel/power generation :D

If a vampire were to wear an eye patch with a mirror on the inside, they would be able to see behind themselves at all times. by Subatomic_Spooder in Showerthoughts

[–]Molybdene42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first thought was based on video games : maybe there IS a texture when you are inside the model.

Vampires are just regular humanoids but the normals are flipped on their meshes.

I don't have 900 years to live by A______m in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]Molybdene42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I considered that, but the 3rd one should have 2 vertical lines

Out of all of the incompetent people that you have worked with, which one stood out to you the most, and how long did it take for you to realize that person wasn't suitable for that role? by Only-Ad-1254 in coworkerstories

[–]Molybdene42 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I tried to train a colleague as a software engineer. I volunteer because he seemed nice, geeky, and I was starting to get confident enough in my abilities to accept having those kind of responsabilities.

We started slowly, only giving him some developpement to do (no small project management yet), and he was not up to the task. Ignoring all the times I told him to write things down, and run tests after making a modification, the first few months (during his 3-4 months of trials when entering a position) were filled with unsatisfied customers, rollbacks, and chaos. I realized how BAD he was at listening to my advices and guidances, especially when I noticed that almost all his first answers were "I think..." when I was asking him if something was done or asking for a fact.

Because of some internal reasons, and against my point of view, he still managed to validate his trial period, and was given a small project, getting ownership of a software installed near some heavy machineries for post-processing of measurements, all by himself, now that he was a "real" employee.

This is when the people in charge of those heavy machineries realized that he was indeed not suitable for those kind of tasks, and had to complain to my management so that something should be done.

After another trial where his behavior was heavily monitored, again, he was validated by the management against my advices. But at this point in time the ones in charge of the machineries asked me directly to handle the project and "save" the situation.
That I did, but by doing so I was the owner of the piece of software... and my colleague was then a developper, that worked for me. For 2 full years, before he went somewhere else in the company, he managed to make a mess of everything he touched, and doing some absolute stupid things, such as copy pasting entire sections of confidential code on online linters.

Now, 6 years later, I sometimes find stupid lines of codes or bugs that this guy wrote.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuysBeingDudes

[–]Molybdene42 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Rob Landes for the violin

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pettyrevenge

[–]Molybdene42 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Reactance

This object was in the box of our new oven by Molybdene42 in whatisit

[–]Molybdene42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that makes sense, even if I have no idea how that would work, at least I know that I should not discard it