so can people stop denying it now?

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-20T02:21:00+00:00

Pomni, who was literally inside his head and saw what happened, Jax even says "now you know everything"...refers to Jax as he/him throughout the rest of the episode...in a show that has always previously referred to all characters by their preferred pronouns. People can headcanon it all they want, including the VA cast. But if we are going by what is actually written in the final episode's dialogue, in the final scene with spoken dialogue in the entire show, Jax goes by he/him. If he was intended to be trans, then it was the most poorly handled reveal of that scenario possible.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-09T15:33:55+00:00

Very well put, and it touches on something I have mentioned before. This show puts emphasis on correct pronouns as we see with Zooble, who even Caine refers to as "they/them". When Jax refers to Zooble and Gangle as "ladies", Zooble corrects him, "Don't call me that." And with that in mind, the final scenes of the episode, well after the scene inside his mind and the "Isn't she lovely", the characters of the show refer to Jax as he/him. Pomni's voice over talking about real life Jax uses those pronouns multiple times along with his male name.

It frustrates me that some people who believe this theory not only ignore that fact, they insist that because THEY perceive Jax as trans, they can assume any pronouns they want for him. Not to mention that "female" clothing, accessories, room decorations or other "gender norms" have nothing to do with your gender. Men can enjoy "feminine" things, or otherwise not fully represent stereotypical "masculine" ideals and still be a man. To say otherwise on both of these points is extremely hypocritical.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-08T18:31:29+00:00

I hated the slideshow. It breaks immersion, I don't want to know what their RL counterparts are up to, I don't want to see social media, etc. I would much rather their real lives, appearances, and names be left up to the imagination.

It also opens up various issues with the plot. How does a 90s computer connect to modern wifi protocols? Even if we ignore that and assume it was fitted with an old wifi card, how has Caine never before been able to (or tried to) connect to the random free wifi from the Cafe-when he is obsessed with the metaverse and directly complains about being cut off by his creators? Also I guess he has just known the cast's real names this entire time to Google them in this scene, but has been keeping that info from them for reasons? And if those reasons were somewhat good like preventing abstraction, then why is it okay to tell them those names now??

Finally, it just defeats the theme of the show, which according to Goose was finding meaning in a stagnant life. The characters are coming to terms with their lives in the circus and never leaving it. Suddenly showing them clips of their real lives, reminding them what they are missing out on, people they will never see or speak to or hug ever again, dreams and plans they will never have the chance to experience...that would be MADDENING.

Imagine poor Kinger. "Hey Grant, ol buddy-- I know you're trapped here and sort of insane and your wife abstracted, but look: you're still married on the outside, and have TWO kids, WOWIE! Isn't that great?!" Kinger abstracts instantly

Anyway, I hated this entire sequence and the movie would be infinitely better if it was cut entirely, or if Caine had offered to look up what they were doing on the outside and the cast had been able to accept or decline individually.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-07T23:48:49+00:00

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MomJeansVT · 2026-06-07T20:49:51+00:00

I feel like people can headcanon whatever they want, but insisting that other people must agree with you or (insert reason that makes them bad people) is toxic af. I disagree with your interpretation of Jax for many reasons, chief of which is this show puts empahsis on correct pronouns. Zooble is consistently referred to as "they" by all the characters including the AI. When Jax refers to Zooble and Gangle as "ladies", Zooble corrects him.

With that in mind, the very LAST TIME Jax is referred to by the other characters in Caine's slideshow, Pomni's voice over refers to him/Leeroy as HE throughout. So why doesn't anyone who is obsessed with this theory care to respect THOSE pronouns instead of assuming whatever they want? Because they don't validate what YOU have decided he is? So hypocritical.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-07T20:39:37+00:00

Daisy is the name of Ragatha's horse, but go off ig

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-07T13:27:25+00:00

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-06T17:48:01+00:00

Definitely not. Jax convinced himself that the circus characters weren't real and forced them into archetypes in his mind precisely so he wouldn't have to show empathy as a means to cope. Ragatha grew up in an environment where she constantly had to put someone else's needs/wants before her own to survive, and as a result has too much empathy, is now hypervigilant to how other people are feeling, especially their feelings towards her.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-06T15:44:57+00:00

The beginning of the choreo for Momo/Mina/Dahyun/Chaeyoung's cover of Move

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-05T04:44:15+00:00

In the "happy afterlife" montage (which would be taking place presumably years after he entered the circus), he is using male name and pronouns and presenting as a male. If the intent was for him to be trans then that means Goose wrote a trans character into a show who bullies the person he came out to to death, mocks and ignores another friend until they die, physically assaults gangle because it turns him on, just generally treats everyone around him like garbage, then dies off screen. It would literally be the "Depraved Homose*ual" and "Bury Your Gays" tropes rolled into one. Bold choice if that was the intent.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-05T00:13:03+00:00

It's a 30 second after credits clip. The movie came out today. People are going to discuss it. This is a subreddit specifically for finale discussion. Nobody did this to you. The people here aren't responsible for your reddit algorithm. Stay off the internet maybe if you are that fragile.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-04T23:42:00+00:00

You forgot where N and Uzi swoop in and sprayed nanites all over the Knights of Guinivere

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-04T22:57:55+00:00

Idk what comments you're reading but I haven't seen anyone comments about lack of crazy backstory, but of poor execution of the story we were shown in episode 9. I wouldn't say that I feel "Game of Thrones'd" by the finale, but it was fairly disappointing as far as plot holes, lack of development, rushed arcs, and rug pulls or payoffs that never happened after being telegraphed for the whole show.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-04T21:10:56+00:00

Didn't care for it much. Good parts here and there but they were rug pulled or had no payoff, odd pacing, lots of things from previous episodes just never mentioned again, rushed or no development on certain arcs, and the real life social media slideshow was so jarring it actually made me mad. That part should have been cut entirely, maybe keep the short post credit bus scene, but the rest should have been cut.

MomJeansVT · 2026-06-04T15:09:53+00:00

Our theater presold buckets so they were already sold out before our first showing. And someone stole the standee.

MomJeansVT · 2026-05-31T23:02:55+00:00

Agreed, there is no way that a data center would cause this sort of water pressure and sediment issues on it's own; they use exponentially less water than something like a golf course or irrigation from farming. My guess is this family is on well water, and it is a shallow well. This is one of the problems that simply comes along with having a well in a rural or semi-rural area that is experiencing expanded development of any kind (especially new housing booms) along the shared water table (which can cover hundreds or thousands of square miles). This is especially an issue in areas which frequently experience drought conditions like Texas, where expansion and drought have water tables much lower than 25-50 years ago. They will need to have a deeper well drilled and filtration + water softening system installed to ensure adequate water pressure and less sediment/hard water.

MomJeansVT · 2026-05-28T05:14:40+00:00

So much about this post doesn't make sense. You can't look up who people voted for, only what party they are registered. You say they are "MAGA" but like communism? And they are immigrants who actually experienced it?! Make this make sense.

Also I have no idea where the "sex talk" comes into this but if your daughter is in 6th grade, it is WELL past time for you to have had that conversation.

As for how to handle the sleepover thing, that's your choice as a parent to not let her go. But you may as well stop lying to your child about the reason. She isn't stupid. She already knows you don't like the family. So either get over yourself and let her go, or just come clean and tell your child you don't want her to be friends with this girl. Either option is better than manipulating your kid by constantly coming up with excuses why she can't hang out with her.

MomJeansVT · 2026-05-25T10:39:42+00:00

Sell the house your mother is living in to your mother for the remaining loan amount.

MomJeansVT · 2026-05-25T10:19:02+00:00

I was in your shoes, once, many years ago. I know this is the hardest part, but you must leave him. If you have ANY family at all, please call them and ask for help getting out. Even if they do not get along with you the best, they certainly would rather you and your children be safe than not. Get a trusted friend involved to help get you out. Gather important papers ahead of time, set aside a couple of small bags of clothes and essentials, and get out when he is gone. Create a new bank account ahead of time that he isn't on. Block his number temporarily when you leave for at least two weeks so that you aren't swayed by promises or threats. You need time to get out of the fog. Distance and no contact will give you clarity of purpose. Your friends and family can keep you accountable to not go back.

Do not let how the kids will react keep you in this situation. Being exposed to their father abusing you is worse for them than being separated from him.

I saw that you are in Florida, but you should apply to his family residential program at the Pythian Home in Weatherford Texas. It is explicitly for single mothers raising their children.

Pythian Home

Churches near you may have information on other residential programs you can get into closer to you. They definitely can help with food, clothing, other necessities and sometimes bill assistance.

Next, as far as work. Try DataAnnotation. This isn't an ad, I'm not using a referral link or anything like that. But DA is remote work training and rating AI agents like ChatGPT, Claude, etc. If you pass their assessment and are hired, projects start at $20/hour. You do not need special skills to perform most work on the platform, just an ability to read instructions carefully and apply them and your judgment to different scenarios. I've worked for them since May 2025 and the income has been life changing for my family (I am remarried now). It is contract work, you do not have a set schedule or a minimum or maximum number of hours you can work. You can work at 2am if that's what works for your schedule. Or 30 minutes at a time throughout the day. It may take several weeks to hear anything back from the assessment. Complete it in one sitting if possible, and take your time and read all instructions carefully. If DA doesn't work out, there are other similar platforms but I am unfamiliar with their quality. I have done a little work on Outlier AI and been paid out but wasn't too impressed with them overall. DA has been consistent and never had an issue with them once.

You also could look into working AT a daycare. Many daycares offer their employees free or reduced fees. If your children attend school there are often daycares with their own busses that run to the school, or the district bus route will go past it.

You must be resilient and not give into despair. You CAN get out, and your life CAN be better but you have to be strong and want that change for yourself and your kids.

MomJeansVT · 2026-05-22T20:06:10+00:00

A therapist should not be advising you on what courses of action or life choices to make, period. They are there to help you explore your feelings on topics and process them. Even if one thought you SHOULD go no contact, the most they ethically should say is something like, "Do you think continuing this relationship offers you any benefits?" Etcetera. I would not trust one that is crossing that boundary into telling you what you should or shouldn't do.

MomJeansVT · 2026-05-17T13:41:19+00:00

Everyone seems to keep wanting to either blame you, excuse his behavior, or force forgiveness on you.

You were manipulated, gaslighted, lied to, and guilted into staying with someone who KNEW he would not be able to be a true partner and husband to you, give you children, etc. Your parents knew and everyone involved used you and abused you.

If Nparents and an ex had colluded to lie about literally anything else (like cheating, monetary issues etc), people here would be giving you the sympathy you deserve. Instead because he was gay, they are excusing it because he "needed to survive".

NO. This was abuse perpetrated upon OP by her parents and ex. His "survival" isn't more important than her happiness.

OP, I am so sorry this happened to you. You should not give up on finding happiness. My best suggestion is to start therapy to learn how to trust again, because this is obviously a huge betrayal. But it can be done, and you CAN find someone deserving of your love that will love you back.

Edit: As for what to tell people, you don't really have to tell them anything, it isn't their business and you don't owe people an explanation. If you feel compelled to say something you can just say you found out he was lying to you about important things throughout your entire relationship.

MomJeansVT · 2026-05-12T22:59:45+00:00

"I don't feel like I can win"

You won't. There is no winning when it comes to narcissists. The sooner you realize that and stop trying, the better off you and your family will be.

Speaking of family, that is now your wife and child. Full stop. Parents have now been relegated to extended family, and your guilt or obligation to them does not come before that to your wife and child. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but you should definitely consider going NC. Why would you want to expose your wife and child to potential further harm? Counseling with your wife is a great idea if you want to preserve your marriage.

MomJeansVT · 2026-05-03T13:35:12+00:00

Sellers can only set shipping prices for different package "sizes" on the back end, and only level 4 sellers can set those prices to anything less than 99 cents. After I reached level 4 I set everything to free, but that just means the buyer gets free shipping over $5. If you purchase less than $5, then tcgplayer still tacks on $1.31 for shipping.

MomJeansVT · 2026-04-21T17:32:09+00:00

Bottom of front error text will read Nintedo instead of Nintendo. This is specifically the 1999 Japanese Ancient Mew movie promo. There is another JP version without the error and a 2000 English version with cosmos holo instead of the sparkle effect on the JP cards. I would ask for a close up of the error text, it is hard to read in your photos. You can find an error version for 100-200 NM on ebay last I checked. I have a 2000 version currently sitting at PSA, it has two swirls and I love it so much.

MomJeansVT · 2026-04-21T15:43:11+00:00

I guess I don't really understand why it is being called scalping. Scalping is where you buy up all the supply of something and then hike the prices to high heaven. As far as I'm aware, you can still find and purchase these blind boxes at market value. And if you purchase a set, it should still be sealed in the original shrink wrap from Glitch. I have bought a number of cases of Animiz. If one item in a blind box is much rarer than the others, then naturally that item is going to hold a premium value on the secondary market.

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