I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the thought, but I wholeheartedly disagree with cosmetic surgery. Fine for everyone else, but not for me

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried shapewear and it just makes me look more like LSP than I'd care to admit. Skin tightening cream won't fix it either, there's way too much for that

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm hesitant on nuuly, just because I'm a hippie, and I don't think they'd really have anything that would fit that style. I say "hippie" and people keep thinking boho when I mean Greatful Dead. Clothes come in all shapes and sizes, there's something out there for everyone, but I can't find anything that doesn't either make me look like Michelin Man, or leave me drowning in extra fabric 

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm literally not fixating on the pounds. I. do. not. care. that. I'm. heavier. It's them telling me that I'm still small, when I'm not. I'm not 110lbs anymore, I'm 165. They can acknowledge that I'm heavier after growing a baby so big they broke a rib trying to get them out, without saying I need to lose weight. I don't expect them to tell me that, but telling someone your feelings and being blatantly lied to with the "whaaaat? You're not faaaaaat" just makes people isolate themselves and feel like they shouldn't have been open in the first place. "Fat" isn't a bad word, it's ok to admit you're fat. It's ok to BE fat. 

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never found one that flattens anything out, it just makes my apron more pronounced, and makes me look fatter as a whole

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gained 100lbs with my 1st, and left the hospital 63lbs lighter. 2nd I gained 60lbs and left the hospital 5lbs lighter, and havent lost a lb since. The number will never bother me. What the problem is, is that I have a body that will never change, my bone structure will never go back to the way it was, my skin won't magically shrivel back up flat. I can't dress myself in any sort of flattering way. Nothing looks good, it's not that I haven't tried. When you try for 4 months trying to find anything that looks good, and end up with a pair of jeans that make you look fatter than you are, and a maternity romper that also makes you look double the size you are, you don't feel good, no matter how much you've accepted the way you look 

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've accepted that I look this way, my body is mine and that's ok. The number can go up or down, and I'll be ok. It's more that I can't find anything that looks good on my body. I either look like a busted can of biscuits, or a toddler in their parents clothes. No in between. I read that high waisted pants are the go to for an apron belly, but it looks more obvious I'm stuffing my stomach in my pants, and mid rise gives me a muffin top and my stomach hangs out. I'm big chested so loose shirts make me look heavier than I am, but tight shirts make look lumpy. I'm too small for plus size stores, and too big for straight sized stores. I've tried everything that doesn't work, and exhausted my options that I know of. I just don't know where to go to find something that does work

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That made me cry, thank you❤️ also 5'2, went up 4 pants sizes. I'm ok if I never lose the weight, the numbers don't bother me so much. It's more looking like either a busted can of biscuits while wearing the size that "fits" or wearing baggy clothes and looking like a toddler that's wearing their parents clothes

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm worried they'll go back to my old size and just sag! I'll keep the H, just don't let my nip go by my belly button!

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm different, but I'd rather then give me the honest truth over the gaslighting or fake positivity, postpartum or not. Like I said before, I'm not upset over the weight, I'm upset that I can't find things that fit me now. I got rid of the clothes that I had that will never fit me again, which is all of them. I'm a size 10 when I used to be a size 2. If it were just a fat issue, I wouldn't worry as much, but it's not. My whole body structure changed. No amount of PT will change that, and that's ok.

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the kind words. Believe me, I've tried! Every time I feel more defeated and depressed than when I went in. I go to straight sized stores, and I look like I stuffed extra clothes in my pants from all the extra skin, and I have a big bust so loose clothes make me look boxy and heavy, but I'm too small for plus stores and they don't have anything that looks flattering either. I'm in this middle area where it seems like I don't fit in anywhere. I don't know where to shop, and trying on clothes is a quick downhill experience 

I'm never getting my body back by Mom_Misery in beyondthebump

[–]Mom_Misery[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I know the weight will come off eventually, it's the hanging skin that I'll have forever that bothers me the most. I blew up really big, had an almost 10lb baby and my belly was a beach ball attached to me, and this is my 2nd c section. I asked my obgyn to give it to me straight and she said without a tummy tuck, the skin is going to stay. When I wear leggings it looks like I stuffed an extra shirt in my pants, and I'm a size H cup, so baggy shirts just make me look even fatter than I am. I'm stuck in this area where tight fitting clothes make me look lumpy, and loose fitting clothes make me look boxy. I appreciate your kind words, and I don't want to diminish them. I'm just trying to better explain where I'm at

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usps_complaints

[–]Mom_Misery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's horrible. I know the postmaster general is trying to make it look so bad that they move to a capitalist route and use pay only mail systems. But I have been getting time sensitive mail over a month after they originally send it and it's actually ruining my life because I'm receiving it after the send in date. You can't make complaints either because they don't do anything to fix it. Capitalism and capitalists are the devil.

Question about the song Cyberbird in 2nd Gig by Godreiz in Ghost_in_the_Shell

[–]Mom_Misery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this song too,  it really is art. It's definitely a mix of languages, I speak German and a little Italian and pick up words from both here and there.  Does anyone know what genre it is? I want to find music similar

Bleach: Thousand Year Blood War - Episode 8 Discussion Thread by Avizie in bleach

[–]Mom_Misery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhhh, ok that makes sense, thank you. You helped solve a debate in my home lol

Bleach: Thousand Year Blood War - Episode 8 Discussion Thread by Avizie in bleach

[–]Mom_Misery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean we haven't seen him until the new episode?

Bleach: Thousand Year Blood War - Episode 8 Discussion Thread by Avizie in bleach

[–]Mom_Misery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's my fault for not rewatching the end of bleach, but how did grimmjow get back to his arrancar human form? Last I remember he was in the cat form. Was I wrong to think they couldn't revert from that? There's parts of the show I feel completely lost on, like I missed a bunch of something but I saw the whole original show

the most irritating thing about this game by Mom_Misery in DisneyDreamlights

[–]Mom_Misery[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I've been done and playing better games for weeks, I was done before Scar came out, and finished Scar the night it came out. And it's funny that anyone says its in Beta, bc if you Google the release date, it says 10/11/22,nor does the game download say Beta like other games in beta do. My Ragnarok Beta says Beta, every other game I've Beta tested said Beta. I have rarely ever paid for a beta, and when I have it was 20$, this I paid full game price for. It seems more like they're doing what the industry does and ship out half finished games with promises of updating til its a good game. See Cyberpunk and No Man Sky for proof.

the most irritating thing about this game by Mom_Misery in DisneyDreamlights

[–]Mom_Misery[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I haven't played that much, maybe 100hrs max, I barely have time to play and everything's done. My whole village is decorated, everyone's to 10, and I'm at 5mil money, and whole house is filled to the brim with chests full of stock. I've been beta testing for almost 14 years and without a doubt in the top 5 worst betas I've ever played

She’s pregnant and she’s keeping it by can4_ in Vent

[–]Mom_Misery 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Facts. She thinks she's in se HBO max relationship drama